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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Dear Cupid: I met this guy last year because of an accident, somehow he got my msn and added me to his contact list. We started chatting everyday and we found ourselves mad about each other. He studied at the States but was born in my city, so he came here very often, like every 2 months to meet his family and friends. One day we decided to meet each other in person and go out in a date. The date was fantastic. Next time he came we went out too and we were truly falling in love, he even confessed to me that this scared him a lot because of the distance problem,his plaintiff studies and the fact that he is 9 years older than me. Time passed and we we're chatting less everyday, next time he came to the city he didn't even call me. It was until 4 months later when he told me he was in the city so that night we saw each other in a club and we were together all night long. We even had sex and spent the rest of the night together just chatting, cuddling and stuff like that. I really love this guy, i know he probably doesn't feel the same way for me, but i still want to spend the rest of my life with him. And i'm sure about it. I don't know what to do, because it's been a year and i can't get over him. It's really hurting me, help me please!!!
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reader, scrazy  +, writes (10 July 2008):
 I'm sorry to tell you this honey, but I think he just used you. You guys had sex and then the contact diminished. It's been a year since you've talked.
You fell way too fast and harder for him, then he "fell" for you.
Now perhaps because of his commitment issues, he broke everything off after the sex because he felt things were getting more serious then talking on MSN and going out when he's in the city, visiting his family.
But to me, it just looks like he got what he wanted and then left you out in the cold not knowing what to do.
The best thing that you can do is learn from this and move on, next time you find a guy (and you WILL, you're still young) my advice is to not give it up so quickly because your head is swimming with infatuation.
Find someone who doesn't need sex to communicate his feelings, who respects you and loves you just as much as you love them.
All the Best!
xo
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2008): You met this guy, you talked, then you stop hearing from him. He's 9years older than you. You had sex with him even though you hadn't been in contact. You've not heard from him for a year. This guy used you babes, he only wanted you for sex. Learn from this lesson, and move on. One day you'll meet a guy who treats you with the respect that you deserve. Take care of you, keep safe.
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