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writes:Hey everyone im 33 and have been with my husband since we were 16 n married for 7 years. We are very much in love owever i have a problem. I'm pregnant with his baby(obviously) and i don't know how to tell him. I've only told our 17 year old daughter because i told her if she doesn't want me to have it i wont but she does, so if he wants it i'm having it. We have never really spoke about having kids because its not very easy for me to get pregnant, not totally impossible but not at all easy. By the way if you are confused by now our 17 year old is actually my 2nd cousin making her my cousins daughter but she died when i was 16 so i was mum to her and adopted her when i was old enough. Its just now i don't know what to do i can't just be suddenly watching tv n blurt it out can i, whens the right time, place and way to do it? What do is say? i just really need help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2007):
Congratulations
Agree with rnc this is a blessing if you thought you couldn't get pregnant, now first off what do you want? do you want a baby if so the tell hubby like you are all excited and happy as he's not a mind reader. if your not sure why? discuss this with hubby, if he's not sure same applies. I think you are worrying over nothing or are still in shock, be happy as kids are hard work yes but very rewarding and you both are at the right age to give a baby all the love & attention they deserve. Hope all goes well.
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reader, rcn  +, writes (4 November 2007):
 If you decide not to have it, at least choose adoption so the child will have a chance at life. I too was adopted, that's my personal reason for being pro-life.
I know your nervous. You've raised a girl all ready. You took on an obligation, had to grow up faster than most would like to, and took on adult responsibility at an early age.
Now you have a precious baby coming that is part of you and your husband. I look at this as a precious gift for both of you to share. If I were in his shoes, I'd be excited, just as I was with my children. They truly light up every day of my life. Once the other two girls hit teen, I'm sure my hair will take the quick road to gray or fall out, but until then...
I would look at it this way. It's very difficult for you to get pregnant. The fact that his happened is a true miracle and you may not get another opportunity. I want to congratulate you, and wish your family the best.
Now blurting it out wouldn't be the best. All though that method really cracked me up. It's like sitting at the table, can't remember what movie, and she said "I'm pregnant, pass the potatoes."
You could get a parenting book, or a baby name book and put it at his place at the dinner table. All though I could go on and on and on with alternative methods. I think the best approach is "Honey, we're going to have a baby." The reason I don't look at this as "we have a problem" is where you say "we're very much in love". That says this baby is very lucky to be part of such a loving home.
Take care.
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (4 November 2007):
 Hey doll,
Sit down, eat dinner together and begin to relax. Get BOTH of you nice and eased up and then tell him that you'd like to tell him something. I suggest that both of you be by yourselves and have some TIME to talk to each other (i.e. don't tell him while he's on his way to work).
"You know I love you, and our lives have been wonderful together. I have some news for you... I'm pregnant."
Give him time to register. Tell him that you're a little uncertain too and that if he's up for having a child together, that you're up for it too. If he seems a little confused and not as thrilled as he should be IT'S OKAY. Give him time to get it through his head. He might be a little shocked.
I think you'll be fine. Just make sure you're alone, set a nice mood and then drop the bomb.
Good luck, sweetness (and congratulations!).
xxIndia
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