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writes:Hey there all who want to help :)I am gay, 22 years old, straight looking and acting though, since i dont like being femine (no offence to femine gays out there) and since that is the way I normally am :P.My question is, if there are any signs I can give to other people that I am gay without being open, since I am in the closet because of how gays are treated in my area. I think that more people around here are gay but dont admit openly because of the way they would be treated...If u have any signs in mind, or any other ways to help me give a hint I am gay, please tell :) Reply to this Question
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reader, Usagi +, writes (5 January 2012):
 well as a bi-lesb girl from Greece too i think i can help a bit. first of all what city are you from?(sorry for speaking english but this is an english-speaking website lol)
the gay community in greece has taken many steps forward in the big citys and being gay is not a big deal, but in smaller citys it is still judged and sometimes treated disrespectufully. send me a pm to talk more throughoutly about it, i will be glad to help with anything and who knows? maybe we can be friends :)
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reader, Abella  +, writes (27 September 2011):
 PS : i mean Athens in Greece folks. Under the assumption that the OP lives in Greece (the flag used by the OP)
But whichever country the 'big main city' suggestion still applies. Since there are more opportunities to meet and connect with people from many diverse backgrounds.
And I am not saying all rural localities are not tolerant. But reading up about the situation in the country of Greece it appears that there is less tolerance towards (coming out) in some regions. Reflectiing a more traditional conservative outlook. Hence the question
from the OP. And the aim is to support the OP and not encourage the OP to puT
themselves at risk.
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reader, Abella +, writes (27 September 2011):
If you already live in a big city then it might be easier to hint and mix with other gay people. But if you live in a more rural area you may face censure. Suggest you move to Athens if you do not already live there :)
Find a gay hairdresser, he will keep your hair looking wonderful, and my gay hairdresser seems to know all the best places to hang out, before anyone else has been to the places he mentions. Yet soon enough those places seem to become popular, by which time he's found another new interesting place.
My hairdresser (male) is gay and he delights in telling me places he has been and about his travels to Paris, Asia etc.
Travel outside Greece for a holiday to one of the less well known gay destinations. A discreet travel agent should be able to advise you. Perhaps do some online research for the more subtle gay holiday destinations. Then drop a comment about where you went for your holiday. If a guy is gay he will pick up on what you just said (the destination). It will possibly go over the head of people who are not gay.
Dress well but not grandly. Stylish casual - ask the assistant in the store to assist, especially if he is well presented. Chances are he may be gay and will love advising you. I do not know any gay guys who do not dress well, even when wearing completely casual clothing. The gay guys I know wear their clothes well, with style and present in a classy way.
Ensure you smell good, in a masculine way.
Stay as private as you can until you are absolutely sure. It is not right, but a conservative community can be very judgemental, about what is very normal in other parts of the world.
Good luck.
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