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writes:dear cupid, my girlfriend does not have a computer and she needs some good advice. she is single 42, and the younger guys seen to be attracted to her. from 22 to 34. she wanted to no if that is ok.? she is seeing a 27 year old right now. he has a very good job and never been married. she texts him first most of the time than he responds. they don't talk on the phone. he goes to her place and they have sex. this has hapened 2 times. they have not gone on a date. she would like to have a relationship with him. how would she go about doing this? she doesnt want to be just a booty call. she is starting to have feelings for him. could someone help my girlfriend please. thanks and have a great day!
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reader, doublejack +, writes (30 April 2011):
I'm thinking exactly the opposite of what breadtotoast wrote. He's 27 and she's 42... sorry, that's a booty call. In fact, this woman has already established herself as a booty call. She had him over twice for sex and they haven't gone on a single date yet??? It is all too obvious what he's after, which is what she's giving him.The reason younger guys are interested in older women is they feel they can get someone like your friend to sleep with them just because they are younger. I'm 34 and I get hit on by cougars pretty often when I go clubbing. If a woman is just after sex it is an arrangement that can work for both parties... but if your friend is starting to develop feelings then she's likely to end up getting hurt.As the others have said, this isn't a relationship. It is a FWB situation. That is unlikely to develop into anything more.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2011): If she''s 42 and he's younger trust me it's NOT a booty call , he's in it for her she should speak to him and ask if he sees the relationship going further that will also help them to communicate in the future
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (26 April 2011):
I'm dating an older woman, and I have to say that like Dirtball, I am sceptical as to whether the relationship (if we can even call it that) between your friend and her guy will go further.
It sounds to me like he's only interested in sex, and sadly she's made the mistake of jumping in too quickly and not getting to know him properly.
She needs to stop texting him, and actually let him do some of the work. That's her first step. If he actually gets off his butt to text, she and he then need to be going on dates and really getting to know each other.
But, to be honest, I don't think it'll go further. When I met my girlfriend, I really went out of my way to get to know her and let her get to know me. And she did spend time making sure I wasn't just after the obvious. We've been together for 2 years.
Your friend needs to make this guy work. If he does, maybe something will come of it. If not, then she needs to make sure that in the future she spends time getting to know a guy first.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (26 April 2011):
 Really, she needs to talk to him about what she wants. If she doesn't want to be a booty call, then she shouldn't let herself be one. Right now, it doesn't sound like he's in this for much more than sex.
She needs to decide what she wants out of this relationship and tell him. I've got to say though, I don't think her odds are too good with this guy.
On a side note though, there's nothing wrong with her dating younger men. If everyone is interested, then there is no harm.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (26 April 2011):
 She is FWB with this boy... if she wants a relationship with him she needs to have him be the pursuer and she needs to cut out the sex right away.
It's really really really hard to go back to a real relationship once FWB has started. She may be SOL with this guy....
and this is not about age gap... cause it would happen with any man.
My current BF is 37 (I'm 51 btw) and when we started I was a married lady (with hubby's permission) that went after him for NSA FWB "affair".... so I was on board for just a sexual relationship with him. It did not work out that way for us... the brain chemistry was too strong... and my marriage could not withstand the emotional connection and broke up. Booty Call FWB became my SO and we are now very much an LDR/AGE GAP couple... BUT it's a RARE relationship that can go from FWB to "real" relationship...
she needs to stop texting him.
she needs to also accept that she is probably nothing more than a booty call for him.... maybe start looking for other guys to have a real relationshp with...
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