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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes: Hi,I wanted to ask some suggestions/advice from all. I am having relationship problem right now with my 2 years boyfriend. I met him online and been chatted for more than a year. Three months ago we did meet even I was shocked and really doubted it. Because I've known my bf is a really pervert in bed, likes to manipulate and control me. Even his ex-gf told me same thing. He made me cry alot and I do often does somethings that against his rules or wants. So I sneaked and chatted with other guys. To some friends to asked for help and suggestions. They told me to get rid of him as early as I could because I will just be miserable. I did tried and tried to ignored him alot. We did on and off. So before we met. I met a friend first before him in my country. Its been a long time since we don't have much communication and able to chatted again when I was call off with my bf. He knows about my bf and what I am going on through. I met him last month of the year 2010 it was because he offered me a job and he is coming for a job too and he wanted to meet me in real. Two days we spent together and he was so gentleman to me. I felt the tenderness, passion, sweet and nice feelings from him. And wondered if my bf will treat me good as he does but felt guilty because I cheated on him.After that meeting, I was bothered by his absence. It just like I missed him when I arrived at home. He did text me about my trip went back home and was felt great and happy. So we continued chatting, and I keep ignoring my bf.Four months after I met him, I lost our communication. He didn't chat me anymore. I was kind of hurted. I decided to forget him maybe he was just looking for a fling it was me. But we never had sex. Just having fun. I was already confused. My bf still wont gave up on me and I keep pushing him away still from me. Until he won, and catch my attention again. He said he can't live without me, and he is planning to meet me in person. I thought it would be changed until he booked his flight. I felt guilty if I wont meet him in the airport.So we did meet in person. He is handsome, my family met him, he was nice to them. He spent almost 1 month with me but I get disappointed and turned off with his attitude and behavior towards me. He drank, smoked everyday and I can't live the day and sleep at night peaceful without an argument with him unless we're staying at my mother's house. THey we're right, he is no different in real or afar. Such a big mistake because I already gave up myself on him but didn't feel the passion I am looking for. He doesn't know how to treat me good or even a lady. He likes to fantasize other girl while fucking me and that's get me so hurt. Painful!After that meeting, I was back online again. Then open an email, I received an email from other guy and he's asking how I am and wanted to me again for the second time. I was surprised and heartbeats struck me. But disappointed cause I am not that confident anymore and wouldn't like to meet guy after the other one. The sucks is I am totally feeling strange for him after the time we spent chatting. He is different from my bf and he really cares and listen when I just telling him about me and my bf situation. But that's all. We're just friends. He doesnt want to have a relationship because he is so an independent guy.So I am asking you an advice.. What should I do to get rid off from my bf? And what is the purpose of the guy why he wanted to meet me again? Shall I accept it or permantly refused him? I totally felt sorry about myself. I wanted to be happy and live life the way I could. Please help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2011): Just tell him its over. If you're so miserable then it shouldn't be that hard to tell him you want out. You deserve better. Are you sure that you like this guy or were you just liking the attention and the way he doesn't act like your boyfriend?
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