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writes:I love my boyfriend very much and dont want to offend him but he takes a very long time to reach orgasm... can anyone give me advice on making him climaz quicker? thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks everyone for your advice, its not an age thing as we dated when we were 18 and it was the same then, he knows it takes him a while to climax and is worried it is an issue for me so I try not to make it one, I enjoy the love making but he is very well endowed and can become painful as he likes it deep too...I always come very quickly so its not a case of him wanting to pleasure me.....I feel like Ive failed if he doesnt come....thanks again for your advice xx
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reader, Ronnie70 +, writes (15 August 2011):
 Aunt So Very Confused has hit the nail on the head I think.
Have you ever felt so tired that you're about to fall asleep on your feet, but you force yourself to stay awake and the next thing you know you're wide awake and can't sleep?
That's the analogy - after a certain point it becomes difficult to finish. When you're getting close to orgasm let him know - very vocally - and the chances are he'll get there with you - in stereo as it were!
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reader, GardenLover  +, writes (15 August 2011):
 I agree with the anonymous male reader, but would also like to add that if he is on a medication that could greatly affect his ability to climax. Many medications, I'm no doctor, but particularly mental health prescriptions can make it difficult. If he feels like he's not making you happy, he may not be able to get into it mentally too which will slow the process. Enjoy each other, enjoy the moment, enjoy the ride.
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reader, RedAthena +, writes (15 August 2011):
 Here I am thinking....why make it faster?
Maybe your bf is a marathon runner and not a sprinter!
Tell him you want him to come. Find out where his hot buttons are and push them. Does he drop hints about what would send him over the edge?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2011): wish I could share your "predicament" with you. Send him my way lol
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2011): longer foreplay and try and find something that really turns him on like dirty talk or touching somewhere, this will hurry things up a bit
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (15 August 2011):
 have you told him that you are ready for him to finish?
my bf has incredible control and I have learned that normally I have to tell him I'm ready for him to be done.... then he allows himself to climax
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2011): Try not to focus on the orgasm. Unless he is taking hours, I don't see the problem. Most women would love to have a guy with such stamina. Talk to him and see what his favorite positions and techniques are. Maybe try some position or things he fantasizes about that you currently do not do. Use lube if you get sore or dry.
If he is in the same age range as you, he will not be popping off like an 18 year old. It can take middle aged men longer to orgasm and recover afterwards.
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