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writes:I'm sorry this is so long! But please I need an advise T.T So there's this guy in my college, let's call him M, who shares all classes with me (since it's a small college we are a little class of 19 people that will be together during all the 4 and a half years of the degree). Since we met each other we kinda hit it off well and we were teammates for many classes with other of my friends. We started messaging quite often, he would always ask me something dumb about homework or projects and then we would start talking about random stuff for hours, and I did the same to talk to him. During classes he kinda flirted with me, so my friends and me started thinking he liked me, and I started developing a crush on him, but as time went by he started distancing himself from me and I became the only one making the effort to keep talking. After some months it was as if the times when we talked and we were kinda friends never existed, which depressed me since I never knew why that happened and I still liked him a lot. Still, what weirded me out was that I would still catch him staring at me a lot p, or trying to catch my attention, but other than that he would treat my like any other classmate.But then, last Friday one of my friends from the group made a party for her birthday, inviting all of the class. I decided to go, and when I saw M was there, one of my friends convinced me to go and talk with him. As we were both pretty drunk I started getting closer to him while talking and I guess I was flirting, as he flirted back and started grabbing my waist. One of his friends dared us to either take a shot or kiss, and he answered he obviously preferred the kiss, so we did. Then we held hands and went to the other side of the party that had less people, and I kissed him again, and then we started making out, he even grabbed my butt which made me kinda uncomfortable but I didn't said anything since I was still drunk and couldn't think clearly, although I think he noticed since he stopped. After that we talked for a little bit (just a random drunk talk, nothing important), and then he had to leave since the friend he came with was having problems with his parents.Now I don't know what to do, I feel terrible since I really enjoyed kissing him but I don't know if it even meant anything to him or if he remembers everything. Today I obviously saw him during class and we didn't talk to each other, as if nothing happened, but I noticed he was avoiding looking at me and I was doing the same, so everything was pretty awkward. I don't even know if he told his friends that share our classroom (they were acting kinda weird and since we are a small class everyone knows each other well) or if he regrets what happened :(. I feel really anxious about what he thinks about me now and what will happen since we will see each other daily for a pretty long time. What should I do?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (10 May 2017):
 Firstly you need to stop drinking if it enables you not to be able to ask a guy to stop when he is doing something that makes you uncomfortable. A few drinks to socialize is great, but if you are getting so drunk you are not sure how to ask someone to stop grabbing your butt then you need to cut down.
It sounds to me like you have gave this guy plenty off opportunities. I get why it would be awkward because neither off you have spoke about it since. Bite the bullet, send him a message and tell him how much you enjoyed the party, see what happens. If he is not interested you are better to know now.
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reader, N91  +, writes (9 May 2017):
 What should you do? Nothing. What can you do?
The guy clearly isn't interested. I can tell you straight away that if a guy wants a girl that they're already on a good foundation with i.e share a lot of classes together and talk often, he will chase you NO MATTER WHAT. Why wouldn't he? If he likes you and knows you like him back, unless he suffers from crippling shyness, why wouldn't he make his interest known?
He's had plenty of time, you see each other everyday and he hasn't made a move. You used to talk every single day and now you don't. What does that tell you? That his levels of interest have declined obviously. Don't waste a second longer of your time than you have to on somebody who doesn't care about you.
I know it sucks to feel rejected by someone that you like, but that's life, it doesn't work out how you want it to all the time, but that just means that this guy isn't the one for you anyway and you just continue searching for the one that is.
Good luck
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (9 May 2017):
 I think you've given this guy every opportunity to give it a go with you. But he just hasn't picked up what you're putting down, sister! I would definitely let this one go. If he suddenly has an epiphany that he wants to be with you, he can do the chasing. I think you've tested the waters, and they don't look promising. If in real life, you honestly think that there is potential, and you just think he's too shy to make a move, then be forward and get some closure. Be blunt. Tell him that you're interested and want to go out. Get a yes or a no, and accept that. (Maybe or any other vague answer counts as no.)
Overall, from your note I'd say forget about this guy, Onto the next! Good luck, sweet!
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