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writes: Do you think there is a chance that my relationship is strong enough but still casual enough to last through highschool? .. Sorry if this gets long I just really want some peoples advise and thoughts. I am dating this guy and he had liked me since about a year now in total. Since he started liking me last summer. But then he said it was kindda like on and off since sometimes he got annoyed with me. We began hanging out with the same group of friends more and more. He began to like me more and more. Finally he ended up telling some of my best friends that he did. And of course told me and copied and pasted every convo. This happened this January. By February he had asked me if I wanted to start dating him. I said yes. Now 7 months later we are still together. We have not said I love you. We both do not flaunt our relationship around on facebook. But I think that for the time being I like it better that way. Actions speak louder then words right? We don't fight. We are both the same we don't actually yell. Sometimes we will be sarcastic and a little rude. But then either one of us says sorry and explains what's bothering us and we work it out. We have had sex. But only once a month ago so far. I feel so comfortable with him. And I know he does with me too. I want so bad for our relationship to keep growing and stay for the next two years I know that is hard. But do you think it is a good foundation of a long relationship?
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reader, Phoebe Halliwell +, writes (3 September 2010):
I know, those types of relationships bug me because it's obviously not sincere, but you've been together for seven months. There's got to be some sincere feelings in there. Don't say it if you don't feel it, but don't let some people's silly actions in their relationships dictate how you behave in your own relationship. If or when you feel it, just say it. Don't be afraid to tell him how you feel, he's your man! :)
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reader, Over..worried. +, writes (3 September 2010):
Over..worried. is verified as being by the original poster of the questionit's not that we couldn't we just have it .. in ways we are both kindda against saying because you see so many relationships where on the first day they are like I love you, Forever babe... and it's not very realistic ....
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reader, Phoebe Halliwell +, writes (2 September 2010):
Yes it sounds like you have good communication, and seven months is pretty good! The only thing that confuses me slightly is that you haven't been able to say "I love you", but you've already slept together? That seems a little backwards to me. The key thing is to work out a rhythm, which you have done. You talk things out and communicate well. I don't see why you shouldn't last. Keeping all things relationship off facebook etc is a good idea. All you need is for someone to hack one of your accounts and all hell breaks loose!
Best of luck!
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