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writes: Hey, everybody. So I've liked my guy friend for awhile now and he feels the same way towards me and things might get to the point where we may start dating sooner or later, but the problem with this is next year, we are both going off to college (the same college). However, I just don't know what to do because I don't know if it's wise to start dating someone now when everything about our lives is going to change in a couple months so I don't know if maybe, we should wait about dating until we start college or start going out beforehand. Which one is better?Here's another question that goes out to both guys and girls: Do you think it's better to start college off with a relationship or without one?? Reply to this Question
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (1 March 2007):
 Hi again,
After reading YorkieKrazed's advice, I agree with that too. I still stick with my advice, but some relationships can be really great and are worth sticking with right through college. Whatever your heart tells you, sweetness.
xxIndia
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reader, YorkieKrazed +, writes (28 February 2007):
Wow. I have an answer. I do not agree with the last comment. If you truly care about someone, who really cares if you are going off to college? Alot of people seem to think college is when you need to be single and mess around with a bunch of different people or just soley be dedicated to school. I think its bogus. One year ago almost to the date, my boyfriend and I had been dating almost three years and he was going to be leaving for college. There really wasn't any question about it. I was going. So, he got a waiver to live off campus and we had a happy little life. Until a month ago. Things went to crap. I think we just got cabin fever and were with eachother too much, so mainly, dont live with your significant other unless they plan on marrying you cuz it can be a JOKE.
I have moved back home and am missing him tremendously. He says he wants to be single for now. WHATEVER.
College changes people...but...if you really love someone...you wont let college change your love.
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (27 February 2007):
Hey sweetness,
In my (very personal) opinion, I think it's best to start college like a fresh start. A slate wiped clean. A whole new you! Middle school and high school everyone knows you as SOMEONE. In college, you're surrounded by completely new people and nobody knows you as ANYONE. It's fabulous! So you can recreate yourself, you can begin new. New friends, new faces, new life!
You said that everything in your life will change, well that's true. College is a real time for growth and finding yourself. Not to mention, it's a huge jump academically! Exams, homework, studying! No room to slack off or anything like that. It's a whole new world.
When I went off to college, I told my boyfriend (at the time) that we should take a year off from dating to be by ourselves. After a year, if we still wanted to be together, we would. Well, we went our separate ways and we didn't end up getting back together. We have a great friendship, but we did really grow and really change in just that first year.
Funny side note, we both started dating someone new on the same day!! Crazy, right? We've been dating our significant others now for a year and a half, it's pretty serious for both of us, but yeah... what a coincidence, right? Crazy!
Anyhow, sorry. Tangent. I digress.
Since you guys are going to the same school, I actually don't reccommend starting a relationship. Maybe if you were going to different schools. But since you're not, I think it'll be really hard trying to keep an old relationship in a completely new setting.
Just my thoughts. Sometimes it can work though, so if you decide to date it might work out. Just my two cents.
Good luck in college!!
xxIndia
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