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writes:How should i respond to a text from my ex who has come into town. i had texted him, telling him, "we shouldn't see each other, when he's in town". he replied with "ok bye." then two hours later he texted me with a booty call text basically. i have yet to respond .what should i say, or is it better to say nothing?
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reader, Eilish  +, writes (19 February 2011):
 Ahhh don't respond. This lad is your ex for a reason. It didn't work out the first time so why would it now? Even if he doesn't want to give it another chance, are you really going to let him use you? So he clicks his fingers and you go running? Life is like a book, you go forward not back.xxx
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reader, dirtball  +, writes (18 February 2011):
 http://www.dearcupid.org/question/should-i-reject-a-text-from-an-ex.html
Only a couple questions in between...
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (18 February 2011):
 If you don't want to hook up, either tell him no go fly a kite or ignore the text.Not that hard.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2011): Actually I think you should go and have sex with him like you want to. You see I know exactly what you did when you sent him that "we shouldn't meet up" text and so does he.
If you didn't want to meet up then why send that text? Why open up contact again if you didn't want to see him? You see that makes no sense at all, you basically opened the door for him to say you didn't want to see him, when sending no text and not contacting him would have made more sense but you wanted to let him know you were still thinking about him enough to want to contact him while he's in town.
Now if you really didn't want to meet up with him you wouldn't be asking us this question either, the choice would be easy as hell. I mean even the posters before me are kind of shocked that you can't see the obvious answer here but that's because the real intent of your text was actually a "come and get me" text.
Deny it all you want OP, your intention was clear and if you really didn't want to see him then why contact him at all? You see if that really is the case then you're just teasing him by saying that when nothing need be said in the first place.
So OP if your intention really is not to see him then shy the hell play these games and send him texts like that? You see you're even now wondering what you should do because part of you wnats to see him otherwise not only would it be easy to blow him off but you wouldn't have felt the need to contact him in the first place.
Can you blame the guy for responding to that? Do you how many times I've had those "if you put some work in and give me some attention you'll score" texts disguised as "I don't want to see you tonight" texts from girls? Lots of times OP because we weren't going to see each other anyway, I had no intention of contacting them and then out of the blue they text me with something like that. Game on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2011): What do you mean "i have yet to respond?" What's there to respond to? You told him you shouldn't see each other then he texts you, more than likely drunk, for sex and you're considering replying?
If you meant what you said you what have been insulted and deleted his message. If he sent a "booty call" text he obviously only suggested meeting in the first place for sex anyway.
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reader, Blonde68 +, writes (18 February 2011):
Also, like all the aunts have advised in your other post...("Should I reject a text from my ex"), just ignore him!
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reader, Blonde68 +, writes (18 February 2011):
Well you have already stated that you texted him to say that you shouldn't meet up... so you now need to stick by your word if you want to be taken seriously.
However, I get the impression that you and him have been in regular contact despite being split, since you knew he was coming into town and you texted to say you didn't want to meet. Did you text him out of the blue with that comment, or did he ask to meet? Either way, if it is a guy that you want to remain an ex then I suggest you stick to your word otherwise you are just taking a step back in meeting up. An ex is an ex for a reason... move on if that is what you want to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2011): Personally, I would ignore it. If you feel like you must respond, respond with "No thanks." That could turn into a texting drama, so why not avoid that and just ignore his text. Isn't he your ex for a reason?
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reader, Welsh Uncle Dave +, writes (18 February 2011):
if u dont' think you should see each other, leave it
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