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writes:My brother-in-law told me he loves me, and that he always has. We were friends before my husband and I met. Back then I had feelings for him, and he had feelings for me, but we both had too much pride to do anything about it. So I moved on and got married, my husband and I argue alot and often dont have a lot to talk about. I still think I have feeling for my brother in law as he has feelings for me, and I swore I would never be one to cheat, but I cheated on my husband with his brother. The thing is, is that we have feelings for eachother, and I don't know what to do. I feel like such a horrible person, but honestly my husband feels more like a really good friend to me than a lover. Oh please help me. Please! What should I do? Im I really in love with my brother in law or could this just be some sort of phase? What can I do? Should I tell my husband I cheated on him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2008): Hi this is in response to your answer to my question. Ok we have two children together, and my husband is gone alot, and my brother in law works days, but...he lives with us, and he's single. I think my brother in law and I just keep falling deeper and deeper into this and it is killing me! When my husband is at home he's just pissy most of the time. I try so hard to love him, but I just don't feel about him the way I do, and as for my brother in law and I probably can't ever happen because you are right...shit will definatly hit the fan.
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reader, Ginalolabridga  +, writes (6 October 2008):
 Hi,What a dilemma you are in two men on hold never work do they?You say you have always had feelings for your brother-in-law and i am thinking what about the wife here? and your husband?Do you both want to leave them?If you are stuck in a marriage where there is nothing happening emotionally or physically and there seems to be nothing going for any of you in this then maybe you should come clean tell hubby but only if you are sure you want to divorce him and set up home with the brother-in-law.On the other side of the coin here is this; Your husband not only loses a wife but a brother - is this worth it? You will probably never be accepted nor him by his family because of going with the other brother whilst married to the other one!You seem quite young and i am guessing no kids are involved here which is a good thing but it could also be the brother in law is providing an escapism for you because your marriage has hit a stale note?You really have to decide one way or another where you want to go with this as to cheat on your hubby is not fair to him and when he finds out it is his brother well the shit will really hit the fan don't you think?So think very carefully what you are to do here as i can see a lot of people getting hurt then again if you feel you are stuck in a loveless marriage then the decision to leave will be entirely up to you please think it all through don't do anything rash i wish you well in whatever you do.Ginalolabridga
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