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26-29,
*ubbleluver3000
writes:Ok so this guy and i have been best friends for quite a few of years now. (about 4 or 5) And all of our other friends think that we would make a cute couple, and that we should date. Even my band director has started asking us if we're dating yet. Whenever the subject comes up usually i deny any claim to date him, but inside i'm screaming, "If only we were dating!" Recently my friend was saying how he was my boyfriend, and instead of him denying it like usual, he just says, yep. I also made a bet with one of my friends saying that me and my best friend wouldn't have dated by the end of our senior year, (btw were sophomores in high school) the bet was that if we dated b4 the end of our senior year i owe her 10 bucks. but if we don't date then she owes me 10 dollars. Even my guy friend thinks I'm going to lose, and he's the one we're betting about. So i honestly don't know what i'm asking here, I think i just need someone to tell me what the heck is going on. Also we have our band banquet coming up, and I keep having this same day dream where he'll take me out to the lighthouse near where the banquet is being held, and that he'll finally confess his feelings, but i know that the chances of this happening are like 0 to 0. Idk. I'm so confused, I like him but i don't want to, cuz i know that its useless, I know that there will never be anything but a strong friendship between us.
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reader, Bubbleluver3000 +, writes (15 May 2012):
Bubbleluver3000 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Also he's always said that we would never date, as well.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (15 May 2012):
 you need to be brave and take the first step. you need to risk it all and tell him how you feel.
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (15 May 2012):
 Sounds like you're the one who needs to confess your feelings to be honest...
You don't need to shout it from the top of a lighthouse, but you do need to push the boundaries of whats normal about your friendship to gauge his reactions. Flirt more, hold longer eye contact, play fight, pinch, touch... anything that is out of character for your friendship.
By you flat out denying your feelings openly, even betting other people that you wouldn't date him... how is that an encouraging sign for him that he isn't going to get rejected. Where's the incentive? Give him a frickin' sign that you're interested!!
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