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writes:Can I still get a girlfriend if I'm not a very chatty/talkative person?I'm 22 and I'll definitely agree that I am more talkative and more confident now near the end of uni, than when I was in hgih school when I was a really shy boy who was scared to talk to girls.The only thing is that I'm not somone who is very talkative, I have no problem with one on one, but it takes me a long time to introduce myself to new people, and sometimes talking in groups is annoying as everyone is trying to have their say.I'm happy not being a really chatty person and I'm not the sort of person who lingers in a corner at parties, I'm also a good listener. I was wondering however if not being very talkative would ruin my chances of getting a girlfriend and if so how do I change that.Mainly the problem is starting a conversation.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (4 August 2010):
I sued to be like that. I'm better now. You will attract women, but you need to be a bit proactive if you can. Go to a cafe and make sure you're served by a woman, so you have to speak to her. Go a hair salon for men and women that is run by women, and speak to the female hairdresser. If you're in a bank, try to speak to the female cashier. And so on. Speak to women who are working and will need to speak to you. That way you'll get a bit more used to speaking and listening to women. Then you can worry about speaking to potential dates and such. Build your confidence up first. That's what I did, and it worked for me.
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