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*enelopepitstop
writes:ive just finished with the love of my life of 7 years, my question is how do i get over this? will i ever stop thinking about him?should i stop all contact as we still talk online Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2009): Ive been where you are, and its horrible and lonely and seems like there is no hope.
But there is, you will definitely get through this. You will definitely love again. Dont force yourself to let him go or to see someone else until you are ready. This will happen in time.
The best thing you can do is to feel what you feel, express, it cry when you need to , laugh when you need to, swear when you need to. Get it out of your system.
Also be good to you, learn to love yourself again, you are you and you deserve to be nice to you.
Its a long road but there is and end to it.
You will be the better for it, I promise you.
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reader, penelopepitstop +, writes (15 August 2009):
penelopepitstop is verified as being by the original poster of the question thanks for the replies i cant let him go but i know itll take time to get over him and it will get better..i hope
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reader, Basschick  +, writes (11 August 2009):
 I am so sorry! This must be a horrible time for you. Getting over it will take alot of time; it's different for each of us. You don't have to stop all contact but it may prolong the healing process because each time you talk, you will be secretly thinking (maybe he's changed his mind) and it can string your emotions along indefiniately. And then when you suddenly hearing him raving about his new girlfriend on myspace or something, you'll go through the pain all over again. So gradually make yourself less and less available to him and it will help you feel like you're in control of something.
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reader, hijacked_dignity  +, writes (11 August 2009):
 First off, if you are really hung up on this guy (which I would imagine you are, seeing as you have been with him for seven years), I would cut off all contact from him. Yes, including online contact. That won't allow you to move on, because you'll have constant reminders of him being around. Of him existing. And of him living life without you. That just isn't healthy for YOU right now. What you need to do is go outside and start hanging out with friends. Start doing things with your spare time. You are single now and you should start living like a free woman! I wouldn't start focusing on dating yet, because you need to get back into the idea of being confident of yourself without the aid of someone being there for you. After you get back on your feet, you need to remember how many billions of men there are out there for you now! You will get over him, I promise. Chances are there is someone better for you out there waiting to be found! Just enjoy the life you have, pick yourself up out of bed every day, and keep going. Life doesn't stop after a break up. :)
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