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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:Hi, guys, i need your advice. I've recently been dating a guy and im not sure of his character. He victimised a previous ex girlfriend by hacking into her mobile phone and monitored her messages. He shared intimate details of her to his friends and on the internet. Wrote blogs about her ridiculing her. Got his friends to text her explicit messages. She had a breakdown and still tries to contact him to ask him to stop. He says he loves me and would never treat me that way, how can i ensure he wont do that to me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2009): Vile, despicable, animal - he made this lady’s life miserable. He has a mean streak in him. You will not change him - he will do the same to you as well. It is only a matter of time.For him it is a power thing. He manipulated her. He degraded her. He humiliated her. He almost destroyed her. He invaded her space - I can carry on telling you the things about him.Run, fast and far away from him - plse do not allow him to know everything about you. Keep some secret so that he cannot use this against you. Keep your clothes on, no photos - he will make you the net porn star if you do not watch yourself. plse not shared passwords/joint accounts etc.I am not going to dictate and tell you to leave him. You need to make that decision yourself- I think you are a smart girl and you know what smart gils do.
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female
reader, pebble +, writes (8 June 2009):
 I'm sorry but you are very silly if you think you will be the one to change him.
He did all that to another woman, it's sick. He is a vile person.
If you continue this relationship then it will be you next.
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female
reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2009): I cannot see what you would find attractive about someone who treated another woman so very badly? Abusers don't change and they always trick their current partner into thinking they would never do it to them. Once you are 'caught' in his net he will start abusing you.
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reader, baddogbj  +, writes (8 June 2009):
 Get away as fast as you can. Basically people don't change.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2009): Are you serious? Do not be with him. What are you thinking? He probably said that sh*t to her too, if you did something to piss him off you really don't think he would do that to you too? I'm sure he would. Those kinda people are always the same. Something similar happened to a good friend of mine and he has done that to every other girl he's been with... Do what you want obviously no one can tell you what to do but your just askin for trouble. If you KNOW what he does and how he is then revaluate this situation and ask yourself... WHY are you with him??
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female
reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2009): The only way to make sure he doesn't do it to you is not get involved with him. Plain and simple.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2009): from a guy...
Run, do not walk away.
This is what he told the other girl(s):
'He says, "he loves me and would never treat me that way"'
Are you still there?
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female
reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2009): Hi i would get the hell out as quick as could hes dangerous hun
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