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Am I wrong in getting upset with my boyfriend?

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Question - (28 February 2008) 6 Answers - (Newest, 28 February 2008)
A female United States age 36-40, *over87 writes:

My boy friend thinks about sex a lot more than I do am I abnormal? When I am having a conversation with him he tends to check out my ass or tits and in a way I feel disrespected because I dont feel like he is listening to me when he says he heard everything I said, am i wrong in getting upset at that?

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A male reader, chlez83 Zambia +, writes (28 February 2008):

You women are funny.When a man doesn't look at you that way,you complain he doesn't find you attractive.Enjoy it while it lasts coz in future it'll be you looking hornier than him and he'll be complaining about the same.Check your dressing as well.Sometimes we get careless bcoz we know it's our partner but 4get they can get turned on.Maybe you turn him on loads!

Good Luck.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2008):

Oh my. That would bother me too. That's weird. I mean if you guys were on the subject of sex then I understand. But just in your everyday interactions with him? That's creepy.

You were just talking about your day and he does this. I don't think that's normal because I have had bf's with really high sex drives and they can carry on a conversation just fine and respectfully.

I don't know if there is any way to bring it up. Maybe he is just like that. I guess it is up to you if you can tolerate it for too much longer. Maybe you can point it out to him and tell him to stop cause it makes you uncomfortable. Hopefully he will take a hint.

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A female reader, Laura1318 Malaysia +, writes (28 February 2008):

Laura1318 agony auntThe males think more about sex than the females because they are wired that way.

Ideally , when you talk with the men , you should have eye contact but many a man thinks your eyes are on your chest.

This cannot be help because the eyes on your chest are bigger than that natural eye.

He did listen to you but whether it did register in his brain is another matter or his brain received it in another way. LOL! Your man must be very special for he can multi tasking.

Some men have no control over the eye department. It is independent of the brain.

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A female reader, hlskitten United Kingdom +, writes (28 February 2008):

hlskitten agony auntHi

I'm with you on this one. Its a bit of a turn off if you have a guy that seems obsessed with sex. I have had that before, and whereas its flattering, on the other hand we usually have a desire to be loved more. Thats more important. I had a tough time with a guy i felt was only in it for what i could do for him, and the sex. And he came to realise he pinned a lot of emphasis on sex in a relationship, and it wasnt til after we split, and he got with someone that had a higher sex drive than him! That he actually realised sex isnt the be all and end all. And learnt a life lesson.

But he is 33. It took him a while to get there. I guess just talking to him will let him know how you feel.

As for the sex drives, thats gonna have to be a compromise.

C xxxx

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2008):

Mandy is spot on here. He loves you and that is a wonderful thing, dont knock it, but tell him you are there for good and so is your body, so lets talk serious for a mo.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2008):

Hi Hunny

How long have you 2 been dating, Your not wrong but its not bad either, my fella who ive been with for 2yrs can do the same from time to time well alot actually...I no he loves me lots he just says your so sexy and that makes me feel good, He does listen as well and we have a great time but if you are trying to say something that is really important, Just say hey mate my tits arent going anywere I need to talk to you.. if you need a chat hun message me ok TAKE CARE LOTS OF LOVE MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX

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