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writes:My boyfriend and i have been together since August 24th 2007. It hasnt been plain sailing, we have had our disagreemennts but all relationships do. Dont they ? Anyway back to the point... i was browsing through my boyfriends phone when i saw a new contact called 'lauren' when i asked my boyfriend who she was he said its just a friend, but how can i be sure? Or am i just making a big thing about nothing? x Reply to this Question
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reader, chica_23  +, writes (5 January 2008):
Its ok to be paranoid, but make sure you dont get carried away. You need to learn to trust him, even if it is hard. Once in a while ask him about her, or see if any of your friends know her. But dont bug him too much or he will get mad and feel you are jelous over nothing. If he truly cares about you this Lauren person wont be a concern, but if she is then he isnt worth your time.
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reader, mattbea +, writes (5 January 2008):
 yea ide say wait till he does something to make you wary such as un-normal behaviour... ive experienced phone browsing with partners and it creates literally most problems, same as internet as they say "what they don't know doesn't hurt" sounds harsh but revert that at you and you will find life easier not worrying about "contacts" end of the day its just a number but like i say best to wait till you should get suspicous, maybe too scared of getting hurt in the first place? can see that point of view but unfortunetely that is life (sorry for the bad spelling)
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2008): Do you have the numbers of males in your phone?
What would you feel if your boyfriend didn't trust you because of that silly reason? If he hasn't given you any reason not to trust him then don't create problems where there are none. And stop 'browsing' through his phone, cause that stinks of you not trusting him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2008): Do you have the numbers of males in your phone?
What would you feel if your boyfriend didn't trust you because of that silly reason? If he hasn't given you any reason not to trust him then don't create problems where there are none. And stop 'browsing' through his phone, cause that stinks of you not trusting him.
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reader, xXxcheekiemunkiexXx +, writes (4 January 2008):
 Heyyy..Im around your age group..always think its nice to have someones opinion whos around the age! :) Back to the point! i dont think its wrong to be suspicious..maybe try asking one of his friends if they know anything about this lauren..? He shouldnt keep things from you. But having friends is aloud :) Just have a chat! :)
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reader, Dr. John +, writes (4 January 2008):
 In my experience it would be better to make sure before making a mountain out of a mole hill.
If he hasn't given you a reason to distrust him then wait and see.
You could ask him to introduce you to her though and see what his reaction is. If he tries to avoid the issue then maybe there is cause for concern. If he says sure no problem, maybe you need not worry. Doc
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