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Am I being mean or is she trying to use me?

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Question - (21 December 2013) 3 Answers - (Newest, 22 December 2013)
A female United States age 36-40, anonymous writes:

I know lots of you guys can give me insight because we all in some way felt there was a person who wanted to use us in some way. I appreciate all advice. Okay so my girlfriend and I have been dating a good month or two. We hardly spend any time together but I share big in that blame bc she often wants to come over to my place until now she doesn't ask to come. Oh n we are lesbians, not sure if that make a difference just giving information. Any who I don't want her really coming over if we only going to have sex. I really don't even know much about her but already we had sex. My fault there too bc as she begin seducing me I lost all inhibition and threw caution to the wind. She was extremely skillful. But it was too soon. She's constantly in need. A rude to work every day I'm off. Once she realized I work for the governor she has asked to borrow money twice in less than 3 weeks. Perhaps we are a mismatch. I don't loan her money bc I learned the hard way from an ex that you shouldn't. I don't take her to work on my off days bc I work another job part time those days. She doesn't offer any gas or anything knowing I'm coming from across town. She lives with her mom n her mom takes her but charge gas. I don't want gas but if she offered I could say oh no thanks. N she get upset if I don't do for her. I think but could be wrong about her trying to use me to get whatever she can out of me.

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A female reader, Ciar Canada + , writes (22 December 2013):

Ciar agony auntGee. Someone who always wants something but is somehow never able or willing to reciprocate. And asking you for money within three weeks of becoming involved with you. Um....yep I'd say she was using you.

Kick her to the curb. The sooner the better.

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A female reader, llifton United States +, writes (22 December 2013):

llifton agony auntAs a lesbian myself, I feel completely justified in saying that most lesbians are f*cking crazy. I've dated so many losers just like you describe. And that's what they are - losers.

I'm a very courteous and respectful person, so I'm appalled at people who behave this way. And for such a long time, I just gave up expecting to find someone normal lol. I finally did. But it took me going through what felt like a million idiots. This girl doesn't sound right for you. She sounds like a typical lesbian, sadly enough. lol hell, I probably dated her at at one point or another. She sounds just like a handful of my exes.

Good luck. you'll find someone worth your time eventually.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (22 December 2013):

Honeypie agony auntA month or two in and she wants to borrow money, not a good sign. She has asked twice in 3 weeks, not good.

A month or two in and all she wants is to come over and have sex, not go out on dates.

Sounds like she is using you. Sorry.

If she doesn't have any money, maybe she should be looking for a job, not expecting money from you or her mom.

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