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writes:I want to ask how to let go of a women whom you have married, grown to love for the past 7yrs and now wants to be alone and doesnt want to be in a relationship. She has been dating and were still married and after a house and two kids i thought she was the one?? so now we have been seperated for 8months still married but seperated i have been loyal and trying to hold on ... where to go on from here ? I have done laundry cooked get the kids ready and always thought of ways to make her happy... now alone in a city whom all i know is my kids please help me its been tough my children are my main focus now... Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 July 2010): She probably thought you were too "nice" for her....it's sad, but true. Women are always making claim that they want a "good" man, but I have seen time and time again, that doesn't hold true for most of them...they want the "bad" boy..the one who will keep them in they're "place" the one who will keep them at a distant, the one who doesn't show much interest in them. Guys are the same way too.
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reader, jonjay123  +, writes (24 July 2010):
your wife is a loser! Get rid of her! So many women out there bra! I know you love her, tell you what a man always loves some one so much when he feels hes losing her. Trust me a great younger woman is waiting for you out there.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2010): First, divorce her ASAP, get joint custody and get on with life. Do it as cheap as possible, play nice and don't fight.
You need to distance yourself from her emotionally and financially. Never say anything mean about her in front of (or to) your kids.
You need to be allowed to move on and still be married and living together is NOT the way.
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reader, LoveIsStrongerThanPride +, writes (24 July 2010):
 Wow that is sad. You sound like a great guy. It does sound like she wants to have fun, doesn't want to be tied down right now. I think you should start making time for yourself, ask her to watch the kids sometimes and get your life back, get your self esteem back up and who knows, she might see that too. She might think wow maybe he doesn't care, he is doing his own thing, and maybe the tables will turn where now she is doing everything to keep you happy so you don't leave her and if not then you will have started a life and will find friends and maybe someone new.
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reader, romany  +, writes (24 July 2010):
 Well putting your children first is the only way to go,glad to see you have your priorities right but saying that you still need your time, to be you, make a night to go out with boys, or join a gym, do something that takes you out into the world, and start building yourself a life of your own.
I know your hurting and you'd like your wife back, but she sounds like she is enjoying herself and doesn't have an inch of interest in going back to how things were, one day she'll realise what a great husband you were, but at the moment she doesn't want to be with you, and i'm sorry that is harsh, but its how it appears to be, so with that in mind you really do need to find out who you are, once you do that, and you start to like yourself, and start regaining your faith and your self esteem begins to re-inflate, you'll start to realise you are worth alot more than she showed you, and your emotions for her will start to fade and you'll be able to see your future with alot more clarity.
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