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writes:i decided to go back to college and further my education. I am a bit older than normal college age (late 30's). While there I've met a woman that I fell for. She tells me that she has the same feelings for me, but her family disapproves of it because of the 15+ year age difference. Her family has given her the ultimatum of them or me. She's torn and claims to be heart broken because she has to choose her family over me. Is there anything I can do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2009): just be yourself. she's grown and can make her own chooses. if she was still or just out of HS, you'd be in the wrong but after age 22-23, she can do what the hell she wants. if you love each other or whatever, things will work out. it's not really the family you stop watch for, it's her. family option matters but don't let it rule your life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2009): This would put her into the 18 or over range.
This is her family's problem. Not yours. There is nothing morally or legally wrong at this point. You are not in a position of power over her, in all aspects relating to education you two are essentially equals.
If you love each other. Than choose each other. The family WILL come around sooner or later when they realise the resolve of you two is greater then the resolve of their bigotry.
You are both adults. What your either of your family thinks should be of no concern to either of you. As adults, you must make your own choices, regardless of how others view you.
This is Western Society. Not Small-town Greece.
Flynn 24
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reader, Xolani  +, writes (30 December 2009):
 Yes there's something u can do like to leave the child alone. Let her enjoy her youth, she still needs to show off her boyfriend to her friends. She needs to explore, makes mistakes and learn from them not to have an uncle who will say I told u so.. Don't let her choose between family and you because u may fall out of love tomorrow and she will be alone whilst her family will always be there for her. I know it sounds harsh.. Good Luck....
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