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writes: I'm recently single so have been going out with the girls as par.i met a guy on a night out took a while but he came up to me told me i was outstanding. came back to mine then day after his is manically texting me asking me to meet up again. we arranged a date few days later he didn't show. i felt initially annoyed as you would, didn't text him since decided stuff you i dont have time for losers mucking me about. 2 weeks later i bump into him at a bar. i played dumb , knew he was there in the corner of my eye felt nervous but thought no you will talk to me, i am not going to you.his dad and friends came up to me, hes over there! hes just gone toilet saw you and immediately wanted to check his appearance. kept saying i should talk to him, go up to him. that if hes not updating his appearance his smoking. i recognised these opportunities but responded with if he wants to talk to me he will. 5 minutes later he came up to me , very apologetic about not turning up, how much of a so and so he was. that he wanted to see me but was having family issues. i nodded a lot, played nonchalant. he ditched me i didn't want to show that much emotion.but every chance he got he was talking to me , then me and my friends moved to another side of the bar, decided to go loo came out he was there! gave me a hug and kiss said you alright babe? blew it off just walked off, shortly after went for a cigarette to discover he was leaving. i text him half an hour after saying was nice to bump into you, see you soon have a good night (wanted to play it cool). text me back straight away asking where i was told him he never showed.a day later im debating do i text him ? because im currently thinking do one you ditched me. but then i did like him. advice please what do you make of this?
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (8 February 2012):
 Do you WHAT ...do you text him ?... Aw come on, show some pride.
The guy used you and discarded you , stood you up,snubbed you in public and acted in general as a conceited dick. Ok, these thing happen , out of loneliness and inexperience, what is done is done, no biggie. But ,at least, be true to your word. If you don't have time to waste with losers,... then don't waste time, and texts, with losers.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2012): "i dont have time for losers mucking me about."
Actually that's not true at all, you have plenty of time for losers mucking you about. This guy is a grade A loser and he's mucking you about but you don't mind because you like him and you'd rather play these idiotic messed up games.
You're either desperate or lonely OP because no self respecting woman would even give this guy the time of day after that shit he pulled.
You want to know what he's after? Examine his behaviour for a moment here OP. The only two times he's shown any real interest were when he was drunk in a bar and looking to score and the day after scoring with you. When it came to putting any real effort into wooing you he didn't turn up, he didn't even message you to tell you why but that's okay because you're either so desperate or lonely that you're going to let him get away with already treating you like a piece of dirt, he picked you up, threw you away and you're here now wondering whether you should text him. No OP, you shouldn't this guy is a loser and a creep, what good is going to come from a guy like him. If he's this inconsiderate at the very start what do you think a relationship is going to be like with him?
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reader, Lexie88  +, writes (8 February 2012):
 Whatever you do DON'T TEXT HIM!!! He's not interested. He stood you up once, didn't show up when you were out the second time, and couldn't be bothered texting you the first time he wasn't going to show up.
I'm sure he finds you attractive but so what? I bet a hundred other guys do as well. Don't get caught up with this guy.
If he was genuinely interested in you and wanted to invest some time getting to know you, he wouldn't have stood you up, he would be calling you asking YOU out on a proper date and he wouldn't be acting like a d***.
For your sake, let this one go and delete his number. There are plenty of really good guys out there. This isn't one of them.
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