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I had sex with my ex and I regret it so much!
Q. I had sex with my ex bf 3 days ago and i felt extremely guilty for myself.I don't know what the hell am i doing after i left his house. Here is the story : Me and my ex went for a movie after 4 months of break up. He hug me,kiss me in the cinema...
A. 30 November 2010: Sorry anonymous, I didn't explain my question very well. What I meant was what were you doing in those four months to try and move on?... (read in full...)
I had sex with my ex and I regret it so much!
Q. I had sex with my ex bf 3 days ago and i felt extremely guilty for myself.I don't know what the hell am i doing after i left his house. Here is the story : Me and my ex went for a movie after 4 months of break up. He hug me,kiss me in the cinema...
A. 29 November 2010: It sounds like he knew what he wanted from you and at least he was honest enough to say he fancied someone else too.
Regardless, you had sex and it was a mistake.
We all make mistakes and regret them. the important thing is you learn from it - ... (read in full...)
Is this a normal reaction from a guy? is what he is asking within reason?
Q. this is gonna sound mental but here goes... my bf of 6 months is a swinger now thats cool with me cause im a swinger too though he didnt know that at the time, i dont know why i didnt tell him straight i sought of hinted to him that i was bad girl...
A. 29 November 2010: Sounds like he wants you and benefits - ie he went mad because he doesn't want you sleeping with anyone as he wants you to himself, but he wants to be free to sleep with who he wants.
He has sort of met you half way by saying you can do it if yo... (read in full...)
My boyfriend would rather masturbate then have sex with me!
Q. Please i need some answers mainly from men... Iv been with my boyfriend for 10months now and from the start we had sex quite a lot, not as much as id like to because he worked a lot running his own business. anyway we moved into a new house a few ...
A. 29 November 2010: I can see why it would get you down, and there could be a reason behind the lack of bedroom action which he's not letting on, but talking should always help.
men watching porn is nothing surprising, but you say he does it while you're there. p... (read in full...)
Should I get my ex a Christmas and a birthday gift?
Q. I was just wanting an opinion about getting an ex girlfriend a present for her birthday and gift for Christmas (her b-day is early in the month and then I was just thinking getting her something small for Christmas). She has a boyfriend and I ...
A. 29 November 2010: You have to put yourself in her boyfriend's shoes and you've said for yourself that you were jealous when you were i a relationship with her.
I personally find it a bit odd buying presents for ex's, particularly if they are in a new relation... (read in full...)
How do I stop being so childish now my best guy friend has got a girlfriend?
Q. OK, so it's sounds pretty trivial, but i've been having a complex about it. Basically, i've had a crush on my best guy friend,for as long as i can remember. I wasn't that fussed about dating him to be honest because he'd always assured me that i w...
A. 29 November 2010: I get the impression you feel rejected after another girl came into his life.
It's easier than it sounds, but you simply have to be more open-minded & positive about the situation, accept it and move on.... (read in full...)
Should I stay with my husband or destroy everything for my boyfriend?
Q. I am in a situation that I am married and have been for seven years. I have a boyfriend who I have meet at work and he is in early 20's and I am in my late 20's. We have gotten close to the point I have developed strong feelings for him. I actullay ...
A. 29 November 2010: One thing I will say from the outset is that only
You should think very, very seriously before throwing away a seven-year marriage (14 yr relationship) and breaking up a family consisting of four children.
Think what impact it will have on the... (read in full...)
Girlfriend and I fighting because I used to be involved with guys
Q. Hey. I've a girlfriend and we've been together for almost 5 months now. Recently, we fight alot. Thats because she cant stop talking about my past. I used to date guys and even done 'it' with them. But like I said, thats my past and I promised my ...
A. 29 November 2010: She has major trust issues and it's not your fault. The fact this has escalated in just the five months you have been together shows that this relationship isn't meant to be.
it's time to move on and find someone more suited.... (read in full...)
We split up for 4 hours and he's already emailing girls for sex!
Q. me and my boyfriend have had alot of breakups. usually he leaves me, and we only stay broke up for a day or so, yea i know..immmature of us. anyways, yesterday we had another fight and i broke up with him for a short 4 hours. i took my stuff with ...
A. 29 November 2010: It would be best to walk out on him and not go back.
I don't think he did set up that account within the three or four hours you were out of the house. the likelihood is the account was set up a while ago.
Probably not what you want to hear... (read in full...)
He hasn't texed me or called me since we had sex.
Q. He hasn't texed me or called me since we had sex. Is he over it now that I gave him what he wanted or should I just text him. We were talking about having a relationship but one thing led to another and we had sex. I am just not sure why he hasn't ...
A. 29 November 2010: as blunt as it sounds, he's got what he wanted, now he's not interested. sorry. live, learn and move on.... (read in full...)
Haven't had sex in 4 years!
Q. I am a 31 yr old male. I haven't had sex in over 4 yrs. I am frustrated and don't know how to go about approaching a female and go about even initiating it. I wouldn't mind a girlfriend or even a fwb. I don't go out much if at all anymore so don't ...
A. 29 November 2010: I'd like to ask you two questions:
1) how sexually active were you up to the last four years?
2) what, if anything, has changed in your life in the last four years?... (read in full...)
Am I gay? or os it just a phase in my life?
Q. Am i gay? or os it just a phase in my life? I have not had a girlfriend, But i had no interest in boys untill i had gay sex with my friend. When i see a girl naked now i dont get turned on but when i see a guy naked i get a full on erection. I have ...
A. 29 November 2010: I think it's fair to say, based on what you've told us, that you are gay. It doesn't appear to be a phase.... (read in full...)
I can't make him cum by hand stimulation, I feel guilty, any advice?
Q. Been with my boyfriend for about 5 months. Completely happy with him and like things how they are. But there is just one thing, when I am giving him a handjob I can't make him cum. He takes ages and my arm ends up aching before he does so he gets ...
A. 29 November 2010: It is much harder to make a bloke cum by giving him a hand job than it is giving him a blow job.
You basically need to find out which way he prefers it. Some like tight grips and fast, some slow and light grips, some mix of the two, some higher u... (read in full...)
I've never dated anyone but my boyfriend and I'm afraid someday I'll regret that I never experimented
Q. Hi. I need some advice. I feel just awful about what i said to my boyfriend of almost 5 years. So we've been having issues over the last few months, took a 2 week break, stayed together. The issues have pretty much resolved, except that i started ...
A. 29 November 2010: Some will say you are losing your love for him, despite what you say.
It could just be a case though of something getting into your head and the good old "what if?" starts talking to you. You've been in relationship this long, you don't know any... (read in full...)
Slept with my high school teacher - have had trouble setting boundaries since then
Q. I am 29 years old. When I was in eight grade I became obsessed with a male teacher. I developed a close relationship with him, and one semester after I started university, we slept together. We dated for approximately two and a half years and the ...
A. 29 November 2010: Do you have low self esteem or is it just a case you you get a subconscious thrill crossing boundaries to where you shouldn't go?
Sleeping with lots of your friends and co-workers in a small town may have given you a bit of a reputation. Have you... (read in full...)
No love for a 22 year old virgin
Q. Well, basically I'm 22 turning 23 in February and I'm still a virgin and some times it makes me sick to my stomach to think about it, to make it worse my reserve unit is leaving for the middle east soon, so that pretty much means I can count not ...
A. 29 November 2010: Stop beating yourself up that you're still a virgin. It's not a race and no big deal either.
People only start thinking such things like you're gay or religious nut have something wrong with you because it is widely considered that most people l... (read in full...)
He wants me to make the first move in our sexual arrangement.
Q. I go and see my "friend" every once in a while and he has always made me horny and felt me up. I welcome this gladly. At one point I thought I was hornier than him, but the other day i got the courage to touch him and i found out he has been ...
A. 27 November 2010: 1) Just get on with it, especially the stuff you've done before. One thing often leads to another.
2) if you've touched him once there, do it again, tell him you like the feel and it turns you on
3) Meet up earlier and make the most of your tim... (read in full...)
I giggled while fooling around!
Q. I'm a little worried. My "friend" and I were fooling around for the first time, and he loved to play with my breasts. They aren't very sensitive (he knows this), and so I just liked watching his reaction to them. I couldn't help but giggle at him. ...
A. 27 November 2010: He was probably too busy playing with your breasts to notice you giggling. If he did notice, he may well have put it down to you enjoying it.... (read in full...)
I cheated and lost my virginity and don't feel guilty or don't feel I need to tell my boyfriend
Q. I've been dating my boyfriend for two years and two months. The most we've ever gone is oral. This summer, I met this guy, who's 21 and he's five years older than me. Ever since we've been talking nonstop, basically I've been cheating on my ...
A. 27 November 2010: It seems very clear that the relationship with your boyfriend is over and that you should end it.
You have proved this yourself by talking to this 21y/o since the summer, meeting up with him, having sex and feeling no guilt.
Whether you t... (read in full...)
Why is this considered cheating?
Q. hello i've posted a question before but never got a clear answer why because i failed to make it clear. now heres my situation my gf absolutely believes i cheated because of the following... 1) i was involved with 2 of my friends webcam porn. he w...
A. 27 November 2010: That is not cheating.... (read in full...)
Girlfriend cheated and I am pissed!
Q. my girl friend told me awhile ago that she cheated on me twice with two diff. people.. she cried alot and i cud tell she fells really bad about it but im pissed. we had minor problems things that cud of been fixed but she chose to cheat...at the ...
A. 27 November 2010: To be cheated on once is bad enough but with two different guys must be more than a kick in the teeth and it's even harder when it's someone you love.
Having a few problems in a relationship is no excuse to cheat but it's an often-used poor exc... (read in full...)
Does she just see me as a fling?
Q. well ive been seeing this girl for about 3 weeks now, and i asked her last night about her thoughts on a relationship. and she said she wasnt ready yet, so to make things more clearer i asked if she was even interested in having one, and she said ...
A. 27 November 2010: Just keep things ticking along and see where you end up. It is still early days and you're right she probably wants to take it slowly because you bailed on her in the past.... (read in full...)
How can I know if I am stimulating her properly?
Q. I frequently finger my girlfriend and I understand the concept of stimulating the clitoris but I have heard many places that when aroused it sticks out. I'm sure she is aroused because she gets very "wet" but when I have my finger there I can't feel ...
A. 27 November 2010: They all vary, some stick out some don't. If she's wet you're on the right lines.... (read in full...)
Are we on a break?
Q. Said she needs space, does that mean we are on a break? Do I still text her and say happy thanksgiving?...
A. 25 November 2010: I wouldn't say you are on a break, but then again I don't know the reasons why she needs space.
Based on what I know I don't see any problem sending her a text saying happy thanksgiving.... (read in full...)
How long do men stay horny?
Q. I'm 17 and i'm currently dating someone. when we're together, he tells me that he's horny and the next day, the feelings stay the same. How long do boys stay horny?...
A. 25 November 2010: It's natural for boys to be horny a lot of the time, especially in their teens, so there is nothing to worry about.... (read in full...)
Is it too much to say 'love ya' in a text before we have gone on our first date?
Q. Theres a girl I like. Were suposed to go to a game together in a few days in what I'm assuming is our first date. My question is whether its alright to text her somethin like 'happy thanksgivin ...
A. 25 November 2010: If it's banter you could probably get away with it, but if it's genuine, then it's a no.
However, the other thing to consider though is texts do not express the tone that you would be saying it and could be misinterpreted as you don't know eac... (read in full...)
Fiance has had 10 plus sex partners but will not have sex with me
Q. Well, like many others I have been subject to the condition of retrograde jealousy. The background is this: My girlfriend has had more than 10 sexual partners. I did not know this when I agreed that sex would not be part of our relationship. She is ...
A. 24 November 2010: Often the cause of relationship breakdowns is not talking to each other. I think it is vital if people are not happy with something within a relationship it should be discussed not left to fester as that leads to more problems.
I am a bit baffled ... (read in full...)
Should I go to the party and risk upsetting my boyfriend?
Q. To cut a long story short, my boyfriend cheated on me so we split up and i slept with one of our guy mates. We sorted things out and got back together but promised we wouldnt go to town at night without each other. Its my best friends 21st and i ...
A. 24 November 2010: it's a tough one to call as you've made a promise to your boyfriend, but the birthday girl is also your best friend.
reading between the lines I'm guessing your boyfriend cheated on you while on a night out in town and that's what has led to this ... (read in full...)
How should I react to this?
Q. I looked up my boyfriend's surfing history before and found out he did things he promised not to and swore he wasn't doing. After I confronted him about it he simply made sure all the surfing history is never stored and said it was "to avoid the ...
A. 23 November 2010: Well obviously he has broken his promise and if i read correctly he is still breaking them.
How you react to it depends on how much you can trust him or how much of an affect it has on your relationship.
You didn't actually say what his surfing... (read in full...)
How can I maintain an erection?
Q. Hello, I'm a nineteen year old lad who is currently in a relationship with a older woman who has kids. Everything is going well, we are both in love an me an her kids get on really well, there is only one problem. When me an my girlfriend have sex I ...
A. 23 November 2010: in terms of premature ejaculation, try getting her to masturbate or suck you off until you cum first. Then when you have sex a bit later on you should last longer.
... (read in full...)
Online guy sent me his photo and now I just want to disappear
Q. I've been talking for four months daily with this man on the Internet. He's really, really nice and understanding. He barely ever showed his picture. Twice and he looked good looking. Today's my birthday and I asked for him to send a photo even if ...
A. 23 November 2010: Yes it is wrong, rude and shallow to just disappear. You have obviously made your decision, but you need to be up front and tell him you have decided to take things no further.... (read in full...)
It was fun and exciting at first but now its just bland
Q. Hi! My boyfriend and I do the same thing every time we have sex. It was fun and exciting at first but now it's just boring.What is some ways I can spice up my sexual experience to bring back the excitement we once had? ...
A. 23 November 2010: You could try some of these for starters: lots of websites offer new/different sexual positions, you can try role play, dressing up, video, go away for a dirty weekend or perhpas try it in more risky places.... (read in full...)
We had casual sex, why is he avoiding me on facebook now?
Q. If a guy avoids you on Facebook could he like you or loathe you?...He always signs out like two minutes after I sign on. Lol.. We had casual sex once. Its weird because he smiles when he sees me, but that could just be because he's nice. I was shy ...
A. 22 November 2010: to save repetition, i agree with aunt honesty... (read in full...)
Ex boyfriend has a baby on the way but is cheating on his gf with me!
Q. heres the deal; my ex boyfriend got a girl pregnant after they had been dating for only 4 months and it broke my heart because we were together for almost 5 yrs on and off. we were each others first true love but the reason we broke up was my fault. ...
A. 22 November 2010: Oh this is messy.
You two obviously have some attraction that keeps bringing you back together, but now there's a baby involved - and it's not yours.
I'm not saying this is going to be easy, but you have to put this into perspective and ... (read in full...)
I kissed another girl before I got with my girlfriend!
Q. My now girlfriend and I met 6 months ago. We met on July 3rd, ended up exchanging numbers, and texted back and forth the next day. That next day, I brought a friend of mine back to my house, and ended up kissing her for 15 seconds before we went ...
A. 22 November 2010: You kissed her before your first date, so you haven't cheated as you and your current gf weren't even going out together. So get it out of your head and move on.
Telling her will achieve nothing and you're right, it probably will open a can of w... (read in full...)
I'm tempted to have a one night stand and maybe get it out of my system but I really don't want to hurt my boyfriend... Help!
Q. Hi I've been in a gay relationship now for four and a half years. Not long after getting with my boyfriend I found out he was chatting to other lads on the internet and swapping naked pictures. When I found out and confronted him about it he said...
A. 22 November 2010: You are thinking about a one-night stand and swapping naked pics because your boyfriend is not fulfilling your needs. You need to take a step back and think about things. Firstly you are getting sex, albeit not as often as you like, and second... (read in full...)
Should I go to a strip club to lose my virginity?
Q. Well first off im an 18 years old and im still a virgin. Everyone say to me that im lucky because I can share that experince with someone I truely care about but im having second thoughts. That maybe I should go to strip club and pay for it. So do ...
A. 22 November 2010: Do not under any circumstances go and pay for sex, especially to lose your virginity.
What sort of reputation do you think you give yourself too by doing such a thing. Women are more likely to avoid you.
Wait!!!
The other thing to consider ... (read in full...)
Why did he not believe me when I told him I'd never had sex before???
Q. Hey, I am 29 years old and have not technically ever had sex. When I was 14 i was sexually molested and had my virginity taken away from me. I used to finger myself to get off but more so enjoy using a vibrator on my clitoris now. Whenever I am m...
A. 22 November 2010: It has nothing to do with wetness.
My guess would be your age as by 29, most people have had sex, probably lots of it and in some cases with many different partners.
That's my thinking on why he wouldn't believe you.
But there is absolute... (read in full...)
Since we had sex he won't talk to me!
Q. Dear Cupid, So me and my x boyfriend were together for 2 years and, I finally gave inn an gave away my V card to him.Ever since that night he wont talk to me and, he told me he hates me and never loved me.What should I do he was my everyt...
A. 22 November 2010: It seems unusual that he would wait two years to sleep with you and then just dump you.
If it was just sex he was after, I don't think he would have waited that long.
Did anything happen between you that you can think of to make him just go... (read in full...)
For men: Is it physical or personality?
Q. I have a question for men and women. What do men find sexy, or what attracts them to a woman? Is it mostly physical, is it personality, etc...? ...
A. 22 November 2010: I actually find it hard to believe anyone who says looks are not important. Of course they are.
But from then on it depends what you want. If you're after just a bit of fun then that's all that matters.
However if you are looking for a re... (read in full...)
He says he loves me, but wants to be with his single friends too...how do I support him?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for over a year now, but lately he has been struggling with being in a relationship. Almost all of his close friends are single and I know he's getting crap from them. We're having a less contact and I'm ...
A. 22 November 2010: I think it's very important to keep a balance in a relationship.
A relationship shouldn't just be the two of you all the time, but it also shouldn't be out with friends all the time.
There is nothing wrong with letting him hang out with fr... (read in full...)
I helped influence my boyfriend to disown his son
Q. My boyfriend has a 6 year old son by another woman. When I came into the picture there was hardly a bond between them which I was not surprised at, he only saw the child twice a year and spoke on the phone with him. I felt this burning resentment ...
A. 22 November 2010: You are right in the fact that you have acted selfishly and should be ashamed from making your boyfriend disown his son. Admittedly he was wrong to keep it secret from you initially, but I can see why as you stated your intentions. But ... (read in full...)
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