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| | *incerely Yours's profile:I deleted my account once before. This is my second account. I regret deleting it, because I would like to see the things I wrote 6 years ago. I would like to see my progression or regression of wisdom. I've gone through phases of cynicism and optimism. Despite the enormity of my traumatic experiences, I almost think I'm too optimistic to give advice. I guess I have, if nothing else, a varied perspective to add to situations. Take it or leave it I guess.
Please feel free to PM for an elaboration of something I've written. However I am not comfortable being contacted for my sole advice. I am not all-knowing, nor an MD or psychologist and part of this site is getting different opinions. So please, for your own sake, if you have a question, post it publicly to get a better response.
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How often do you see your boyfriend or girlfriend?
Q. I really hate spending a whole day without my boyfriend. I hate the thought of going for a day without him and when he's gone I miss him so bad. Whatsmore is that with my exes I often used to go days on end without them and relied on msn but my ...
A. 25 June 2010: You're just way into him :)
When I was your age (ok, so I am your age)... when I was first dating my husband, I could hardly go a nano-second without seeing him. (sucked when basic training came around). I saw him after school, after work, I ... (read in full...)
Why do I lose interest after we've had sex?
Q. Ok so here I go. So I can really be into a girl, but then once I have sex with her, something kicks in and I lose interest. Its kind of like I find something that I dislike after we have been intimate. In most cases I wouldn't care, but its ...
A. 25 June 2010: I went to Arizona once... saw a few cool things, went put-putting and got to the finale, the Grand canyon. Well that's about all there was to see in Arizona, so I never went back. ... (read in full...)
Why don't I love him? Help!
Q. My bf is hot,cute and honest and loves me like hell. And here is the turning point. I dont love him. Why why why wont any one love some one like that? And thats why i broke up. But he still loves me and i still think why dont i love him? I want to ...
A. 25 June 2010: If you were in love with a cute, honest, loyal person, does that mean you would love every other person who came along at the same time who was also cute, honest and loyal?
I hope not.
Many people have similar characteristics to many other pe... (read in full...)
Is it scarier to be a Grieving Widow, or to know one?
Q. I am so confused by the behavior of certain men. My husband killed himself about 4 months ago and I have been trying to deal with this loss and helping to heal myself and my two young boys. What I do not understand is the way that certain men have...
A. 24 June 2010: That would be guilt over loving a woman whose husband is recently deceased. Especially, after having expressed feelings for you while he was still alive. ... (read in full...)
Do I have to tell the new guy about the other guy?
Q. I guess you could say that I'm talking to this new guy I met a couple weeks ago. He's really sweet and fun but he also lives 6 hours away (driving). He's really into me but we've talked about taking it slow and deciding if we actually do want to be ...
A. 24 June 2010: Well you're busy getting all wrapped up in what's technically 'ok" to do and what you and he have a "right" to know or not to know, but if you ask me, that's just digging a hole around the target. You don't want to face the fact that whether or not ... (read in full...)
What's the hang-up on swallowing?
Q. It probably has been answered already, but what is the real hang up on women not wanting to swallow a man's ejaculation. Taste? Contents? Etc. Also, if you are going to let them cum in your mouth, what's the difference? Men go down on women and ...
A. 24 June 2010: Kissing someone while it's in her mouth is NOT the same as getting the bullet straight out the gun. ... (read in full...)
Sex cyber girlfriend
Q. Hello i'm just wondering is it wrong to have cyber sex with an older woman while i got a girlfriend. i've been cyber sexting her for a while now i masturbate to her this it feels good but am i doing a bad thing here and should i tell my girlfriend ...
A. 24 June 2010: I THINK THIS IS PROBABLY SOMETHING YOU SHOULD ASK YOUR GIRLFRIEND!!! *slaps forehead* *... (read in full...)
Chatting with my boyfriend on msn and need some tips!
Q. Okay. So I like to chat with my bf on facebook and stuff. There are times when I just want to talk to him, but I don't know the answers to the following questions. It kinda bugs me, and it hurts to be away from him, so I like to at least talk with ...
A. 24 June 2010: You would annoy him if you chatted too often because by dafault, the word "too," means excessive.
So strike up a conversation with him, then the next night get on and wait 15 minutes. If he chats with you, great! If not, get off and wait for the ... (read in full...)
Stuck between two guys! Which one should I choose?
Q. Okay, Basically I'm kinda stuck between two people. So theres this guy who I'm attracted to, and he is gorgeous but I don't know him that well, only had a few conversations but he seems really nice and we get on. and theres this other guy Ive ...
A. 24 June 2010: It doens't sound like either one has asked you out. How can you be sure that you have a choice between two guys? Or are you just so sure that you can have any guy if you put your mind to it? Maybe both of them are contemplating between you and ... (read in full...)
Do I have to tell the new guy about the other guy?
Q. I guess you could say that I'm talking to this new guy I met a couple weeks ago. He's really sweet and fun but he also lives 6 hours away (driving). He's really into me but we've talked about taking it slow and deciding if we actually do want to be ...
A. 24 June 2010: I think he would be hurt if he knew that while you two are talking about a relationship together, you are sleeping with someone else.
It's best not to do things that we know will hurt other people.
So tell him now. If he is not ok with it, then... (read in full...)
What's the hang-up on swallowing?
Q. It probably has been answered already, but what is the real hang up on women not wanting to swallow a man's ejaculation. Taste? Contents? Etc. Also, if you are going to let them cum in your mouth, what's the difference? Men go down on women and ...
A. 24 June 2010: Lol.
Men's come out at the end in huge globs. For some women, this slides down like mucus, right onto the gag reflux. For some, it's way salty like damn sea water, plus has the consistencey of mucus. Some might be germophobes and can't bare the ... (read in full...)
Radical Right-Wing Romeo Drives Juliet Crazy! Help!
Q. My boyfriend is a Christian. We've been together 1 and 1/2 years. I consider myself a lapsed-catholic. He feels very strongly about his beliefs, namely he's totally against abortion and homosexuality. My sister is transgendered and in the process of ...
A. 23 June 2010: If there was a way to make him understand that he needs to respect your opinions and decisions, then you would have found it by now.
There are many things about people in relationships, that mustbe agreed upon between them. Some opinions can diff... (read in full...)
Knowing he got another girl pregnant is ruining my feelings for him!
Q. My boyfriend and I started dating about two years ago. Early on in our relationship, he casually mentioned that his ex-girlfriend of nearly 5 years had aborted his baby. He didn't say it like "My child...I was so devastated," but more like "it was ...
A. 23 June 2010: If you don't have a problem with the fact that he has slept with someone before you, then why would you have a problem with the fact that he got someone pregnant?
All it is, is an accidental side effect of sex. It doesn't make him a bad, care... (read in full...)
Did I shave myself incorrectly?
Q. Please please help me! It's stupid but everyone said they shave their vagina, so I decided I had to try it. I look under other questions on this web and used the answers eg use a razor and the lips the hardest part .. So I've done it now, and I ...
A. 23 June 2010: Did you use shaving cream? It just sounds like razor burn, and like prehaps you've cut yourself a little.
Make sure to use shaving cream and use a SHARP blade, not an old, used up one. After you get out of the shower you might want to put some loti... (read in full...)
I'm in a difficult situation with my wife...and I'm thinking about leaving her..
Q. For the last 12 weeks I have been considering leaving my wife of 2, emotionally up and down years. I'm an immigrant and don't have many 'close' friends to discuss my/our problems. I'm seeking advice. Situation: I immigrated to the US over two year...
A. 23 June 2010: It doesn't sound like you have much of anything in common with her. Nor does it sound like she's willing to sacrifice or compromise with you to get anything less than what would make her 100% happy. It does not sound like a lasting relationship and ... (read in full...)
We had sex. It was a mistake, but he wants to be a couple!
Q. Hi, I am in a majorrr crisis here. See, I had drunk sex with my best friend and now he wants to be a couple saying he's been waiting for this for forever! Also, I'm not really sure if we used protection that night! I dont't know how to get a ...
A. 23 June 2010: You are way too young for this, and judging by your post, way too immature. You cannot handle getting drunk, having sex, using protection, so you should keep your legs crossed and stick to milk.
You don't have any option with the guy. Tell him it w... (read in full...)
Addicted to a vibrator or sex toy?
Q. Is it possible to get addicted to a vibrator or sex toy?! I want to get one but I heard you can get obsessed with them and they consume all of your alone time...
A. 23 June 2010: My grasshopper, do not fear the dildo. One shall only be consumed by an object which one allows himself to be consumed by.
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Is she using me to help her low self esteem?
Q. Me and my partner have been together for almost two years, and while on the outside everything looks fine on the outside it truth its not. The problem comes down to intimacy, we have no sex life to speak of, and even if we are just lying there...
A. 23 June 2010: I get very pleased when my husband is able to make out with me on the couch for 20 minutes, complete with rubbing and groping, and then continue with our day. I am glad that you and he realize that it is best to sometimes share romatic, intimate ... (read in full...)
I looked at porn and my wife thinks I cheated!
Q. How can I prove to my wife I am not, and have never cheated on her? Recently my wife found out I had been looking at porn, it is something we had agreed not to do in the past, argued about in the past, and for some reason I looked at it again (I am ...
A. 23 June 2010: Ah, well I was just responding to one or two posters. This is quite a messy thread. It seems like it's gotten fairly out of hand. ... (read in full...)
I looked at porn and my wife thinks I cheated!
Q. How can I prove to my wife I am not, and have never cheated on her? Recently my wife found out I had been looking at porn, it is something we had agreed not to do in the past, argued about in the past, and for some reason I looked at it again (I am ...
A. 23 June 2010: EXCUSE me posters, but "cheating" is defined by personal boundries drawn by a couple. Just because you don't consider something cheating doesn't mean no one does. Open your minds!
I don't watch porn, my husband doesn't watch porn. I have once, he n... (read in full...)
My wife's paranoia is driving me mad!
Q. I have been married for three years and dated my wife for 10 years before that. I have never cheated on her or even come close. Even when we did the long distance relationship thing for several years, I never so much as talked to another woman as ...
A. 23 June 2010: Holy crap, wife...
Will you write my due paper for me, please?... (read in full...)
Fiance's brother has befriend his ex. I HATE THIS!
Q. I need advise!! My fiance's brother added my b/f's horrible ex-girlfriend to his facebook page and I am absolutely beside myself! When they were together, she used the whole family for her own gain. She stole money from my b/f, hocked the very ...
A. 23 June 2010: Just because they are friends on facebook doesn't mean they are BFF.
Breathe.
People add people on facebook all the time. They get a request and go "screw it, i'll add 'em, whatever."
She can't see everyone's personal info, just his brothers... (read in full...)
Ex and I are fighting over his family home. What should I do?
Q. My exhusband and I have been seperated for 3 years now. I filed for divorce because he is an alcholic. We are still not divorced, and it all has to do with a house we own. This house was his grandparents and then we purchased it for 50k. It is now ...
A. 23 June 2010: Your pride as a mother and desire to do what is best for your son will one day overpower the concern you have for the way he thinks of you. I am sure you will do the right thing, but in time, you will be so confident in that decision, that your ex ... (read in full...)
Why are my 3 sons so painfully shy?
Q. Do weak ,shy fathers cause their son to be weak and shy? I have 3 sons,and none of them ever had a girlfriend,or not really even a friend. They also have other serious confidence issues,and they are all painfully shy. What is hard in every ...
A. 23 June 2010: sorry..
their appearance, and about a million other experiences they've had at school. It's not a garauntee they would have told you all about it either, so you really can't know.
Some people are just shy. Eventually, they will find someone,... (read in full...)
Why are my 3 sons so painfully shy?
Q. Do weak ,shy fathers cause their son to be weak and shy? I have 3 sons,and none of them ever had a girlfriend,or not really even a friend. They also have other serious confidence issues,and they are all painfully shy. What is hard in every ...
A. 23 June 2010: WOAH.. ouch.
Pointing blame at your husband or anyone else is absolutely pointless and just kind of hurtful in this situation.
Unless your husband sat down with your boys every day and said "be shy, don't make friends, and girls are stupid,"... (read in full...)
Why do guys only pretend to like me until we have sex?
Q. why do guys pretend to like me, but they only want sex from me. then they start being rude and disrespectful....
A. 22 June 2010: Because you're attracted to the wrong kind of guy. Start looking in another direction girlfriend.... (read in full...)
Somebody... please tell me that what I am doing is the right thing!
Q. i am 19 and my ex is 22. he never got his high school diploma or ged. he doesnt have a car still lives with his mom and has a hard time saving money. we have broken up off and on a lot. recently he went over his brothers and when he came back i ...
A. 22 June 2010: I think you can be with him one day, but he has to grow up first. Some people mature unbelievably slowly, especially for someone as lost and stuck, and undoubtedly unhappy as he is. He needs a little help, and with you going back to him again and ... (read in full...)
Do women keep it honest or do they have grey areas like men do?
Q. I am really curious and need women to be honest here. I've been dating this girl for about 4 weeks and we are starting to talk about making it exclusive. She's amazing, and I am pretty sure she thinks the same about me. So she asked me the ...
A. 22 June 2010: You should be honest. What is really the difference between 4 and 5? She went one below you, so either it really was 3 or if you would have said 5, she would have said 4. That's called... the upperhand in future arguments. LOL! No jk.. I have no ... (read in full...)
I am in a relationship I know I need to get out of.
Q. I am in a relationship I know I need to get out of. The problem is I don't have any where to go. I guess I've gotten comfortably miserable over the past 4years. I used to be so happy and care free, I made funny statements all the time and people ...
A. 22 June 2010: SCUSE ME...
Ima hamsta. ... (read in full...)
I am in a relationship I know I need to get out of.
Q. I am in a relationship I know I need to get out of. The problem is I don't have any where to go. I guess I've gotten comfortably miserable over the past 4years. I used to be so happy and care free, I made funny statements all the time and people ...
A. 22 June 2010: If you stay where you are, you will always feel alone. If you go out by yourself, you will only be alone for a while. You have to free yourself. Once you remove the person who is making you feel like a burdon; insignificant; good for one thing only, ... (read in full...)
The long and the short of it...
Q. so i am 14 and my boyfriend is 17, he is 6'5 and i'm 5'1... i love him so much but when we hug i have to put my hands around his waist... i love being with him but it is so hard... i want to put my arms around his neck when we hug and kiss but it is ...
A. 22 June 2010: PS MOD, nice title! ... (read in full...)
The long and the short of it...
Q. so i am 14 and my boyfriend is 17, he is 6'5 and i'm 5'1... i love him so much but when we hug i have to put my hands around his waist... i love being with him but it is so hard... i want to put my arms around his neck when we hug and kiss but it is ...
A. 22 June 2010: Well.. sometimes i sit on a high surface (i.e. counter, short wall etc.), and my hub stands up and then it is perfect for us. But other than that, I'd say your options are to grow, get stilts, shrink your bf, or just WAIT. You're 14... you have at ... (read in full...)
I have an irregular period but doubt I'm pregnant. Is this normal?
Q. So I am going to the doctor tomorrow. My period stopped yesterday then last night it was spotting and i have some brown spotting this morning. I am positive I am not pregnant. My last 2 periods (May 28th and June 16th) were irregular. Firs...
A. 22 June 2010: Consider miscarriage over period.
Also consider having a PH balance in your vagina, causing mild, harmless infection that developed during your period and whose discharged caused you to have odd-colored spotting afterward as it was drawing out the ... (read in full...)
Is this really cheating, I feel cheated in my marriage.
Q. Two friends, a man and a woman, both married in their late 40s, the marriages are sexless and in trouble. We became sexually attracted from the lack of any intimacy at home. We talk often and sex is a hot topic between us. She asked me to have sex ...
A. 22 June 2010: Cheating is not defined by a dictionary definition, but by the boundries drawn among those involved in the subjected relationship. ... (read in full...)
Did I do the right thing?
Q. I've decided to take a break from my bf of almost 3 years. I was sick of him not being too honest with me with the people he's met and accused me of being too friendly. i went through his phone and saw alot of girls he seems to be close to , nothing ...
A. 22 June 2010: Oh, and thank you quiet-echo. :) ... (read in full...)
Did I do the right thing?
Q. I've decided to take a break from my bf of almost 3 years. I was sick of him not being too honest with me with the people he's met and accused me of being too friendly. i went through his phone and saw alot of girls he seems to be close to , nothing ...
A. 22 June 2010: Well then I'd say his reason for lieing is because he's made that mistake in the past and is afraid to tell you of another girl because he want to have friends, but doesn't want you to be worried about it. Trust is a very complicated thing, and very ... (read in full...)
Did I do the right thing?
Q. I've decided to take a break from my bf of almost 3 years. I was sick of him not being too honest with me with the people he's met and accused me of being too friendly. i went through his phone and saw alot of girls he seems to be close to , nothing ...
A. 22 June 2010: People don't always lie because they have soemthing to hide. They lie because they're afraid of something. And he was afraid of you or what you're reaction might have been, meaning you've given him a reason to be afraid. From what I've experienced, ... (read in full...)
Is she using me to help her low self esteem?
Q. Me and my partner have been together for almost two years, and while on the outside everything looks fine on the outside it truth its not. The problem comes down to intimacy, we have no sex life to speak of, and even if we are just lying there...
A. 22 June 2010: That's a toughey.
She has low self-esteem... she's overly sensitive.. she doesn't like to have sex or do anything else...
My flags are pointing me in the direction that she's scared of sexual intercourse. I wouldn't know why of course, and I co... (read in full...)
I waited faithfully for him while he was deployed but now he says he only loves our daughter
Q. Help. I waited.. i've been waiting faithfuly since Jan 09. I sent him packages, took good care of our daughter, was nice, honest, affectionate. But then he came home, and he says he's too different to love me anymore. He says the only person he ...
A. 7 June 2010: That is a good suggestion. I will look into Miamine. Thank you.... (read in full...)
I waited faithfully for him while he was deployed but now he says he only loves our daughter
Q. Help. I waited.. i've been waiting faithfuly since Jan 09. I sent him packages, took good care of our daughter, was nice, honest, affectionate. But then he came home, and he says he's too different to love me anymore. He says the only person he ...
A. 7 June 2010: Counselling.. I have thought about it. I have an inability to talk to counsellors though. My mom tried putting me in in HS, but he refused to see me after 3 weeks because he knew I couldn't talk to him. And hub would never go for it. He's far too ... (read in full...)
Pregnant girlfriend...adoption, abortion, or keeping it.. I need advice when none are options!
Q. hi, so i have been going out with my girlfriend for a year and two months. This past week she took a pregnancy test and it came out positive. We discussed our options with ourselves and somewhat agreed that we were going to keep it. The next day i ...
A. 7 June 2010: I don't think it's likely she shut you out forever. I'm sure she's just mad. Does she still live at home?
You could just go to her house. Give her time to cool off though.
You have a right to your child, if that's what you want.
She asked... (read in full...)
I waited faithfully for him while he was deployed but now he says he only loves our daughter
Q. Help. I waited.. i've been waiting faithfuly since Jan 09. I sent him packages, took good care of our daughter, was nice, honest, affectionate. But then he came home, and he says he's too different to love me anymore. He says the only person he ...
A. 7 June 2010: No divorce here. He's kind of become a little abusive.. But it's mostly when he drinks too much. He says he loves me now. ... (read in full...)
I waited faithfully for him while he was deployed but now he says he only loves our daughter
Q. Help. I waited.. i've been waiting faithfuly since Jan 09. I sent him packages, took good care of our daughter, was nice, honest, affectionate. But then he came home, and he says he's too different to love me anymore. He says the only person he ...
A. 10 May 2010: Partly why I am in shock is because he needed me and loved me so much while he was there. I wasn't the kind of wife he sheilded from horror stories. He confided in me. Today he discussed who would get what ina divorce. I told him I dontt care if you ... (read in full...)
I waited faithfully for him while he was deployed but now he says he only loves our daughter
Q. Help. I waited.. i've been waiting faithfuly since Jan 09. I sent him packages, took good care of our daughter, was nice, honest, affectionate. But then he came home, and he says he's too different to love me anymore. He says the only person he ...
A. 9 May 2010: Thank you so much for that little twinge of hope. I will read your post over and over as needed, to help me get through days. I hope he loves me again. He is the one for me.. he's it. Without him, there would only be me. And that's not really good ... (read in full...)
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