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Any phone conversation tips?

Q.   What are some good topics to talk about over the phone with your lover?...

A.   19 June 2008: I'd try simple conversation first. once you are more comfortable you can try asking him about more intimate things. Finally, if you both feel comfortable(this is important) then you could try phone sex. Some guys will like it, some won't. If ... (read in full...)

Precocious ejaculation damaging our sex life - I've tried talking to him, screaming at him, crying... I've lost control.

Q.   I've been with my boyfriend for almost four years now and the sex totally sucks. He comes in a minute or less. I've tried talking to him, screaming at him, crying to him...i've totally lost control. Of course all the talking and complaining has ...

A.   19 June 2008: The thing is that you need to be understanding. I seriously doubt he wants to ejaculate prematurely, that's just plain embarrassing for a guy. I must say, the ways you reacted were kind of mean, I don't know why he's put up with it. I think you ... (read in full...)

Do straight men enjoy watching other men masturbate? Is that right?

Q.   My boyfriend just told me that he liked to watch other men masturbate, is that right? I've caught him watching porn on TV with just a man masturbating..do straight men enjoy this?...

A.   18 June 2008: I don't, I think it's gross, but then again, he might be bisexual, or just different. everyone has their own turnons... (read in full...)

I'm starting to grow facial hair and I need shaving tips please.

Q.   I'm 15 years old. I am starting to grow facial hair. I'm wanted to start shaving it but I don't know how to. Can anyone give me tips or instructions on how to shave? Also I'm wondering if I should shave my pubic hair. Do girls like it shaved or not?...

A.   18 June 2008: I agree with Flynn, and about the pubic hairs, don't shave yourself bald, that's just odd. I would suggest if shaving them at all, to trim around the edges.... (read in full...)

My boyfriend hinted I should go to the gym more often. I got really upset about this and even shed a few tears...

Q.   Right, so last night my boyfriend and I were relaxing in front of the t.v and having a chat, then he starting hinting that I should go gym more often.... My gut reaction was like Pfft! why? I used to go gym all the time for 6 months flat, but I re...

A.   18 June 2008: I must say, that was insensitive on his part. but as said before, although you may have gained no weight, you might need toning. If muscles aren't exercised regularly then you may bet a little flabby, it have to exercise all the time so I can at ... (read in full...)

I don't know what to do, haven't had my period since April!

Q.   im just wondering i havent had my perroid since april i dont tnink im pregant but is it possable that my boyfriend vestectomy dindt work and i get preganat i dont know what to do if any one can help write back...

A.   18 June 2008: Like the others said, pregnancy test right away. I've heard that on rare occasions that vasectomies don't work. Of course as it was mentioned before, there is the possibility that he lied about it.... (read in full...)

Don't men enjoy going down on their ladies?

Q.   I need a little advice about oral sex. I always thought that men loved to give oral sex to their ladies, but recently discovered that my husband of 8 years may not like to give it. We are both 28 years old. I make sure I always shower first and ...

A.   17 June 2008: The problem is that he probably doesn't like the idea, i know there are some guys who just don't like it because they think it's gross, just like some girls don't like going down on guys. My guess is that he's afraid that if he tells you he thinks ... (read in full...)

Confused about sex and orgasm. Is there something wrong with me?

Q.   Hi, when me and my boyfriend have sex i don't really feel it that much after it goes in and hes not small so idk y. I "cum" a lot though so is that why???? I never really make any sound either, except one time when we were doing it fast and hard. P...

A.   17 June 2008: the main things is, are you sure you've reached orgasm? you're only subscribing to the idea hollywood and the porn industry tell that the bigger the better. If you were really reaching orgasm sweetie, you'd know it, trust me. If you masturbate, then ... (read in full...)

Help, I just don't know what to do anymore!

Q.   Well, I've been depressed lately about a lot of things. In my home, everyone keeps to themselves. I don't see my friends a lot because they live across town, and my relationship with my girlfriend is definitely weighing on my mind. My girlfriend ...

A.   17 June 2008: Well, thanks for all your posts, I'm not feeling depressed as i write this message, but I probably will later, it's mostly just a thing that creeps in and out of my mind. I realize that my girlfriends parents shouldn't be a problem, but their ... (read in full...)

My guy and I are so in love...but he wants to break it off before we get even happier and then something bad happens....why does he think this?

Q.   Me and my guy are so in love but he wants to break it off before we get happier and then something bad happens where we both get hurt worse than we already are going to now. So are most guys afraid of commitment bacause they feel they havent found ...

A.   16 June 2008: it's probably both honestly. He may just be one of those people who are afraid of relationships because they can often end in great hurt. I know I am.... (read in full...)

Am I blowing this whole thing out of proportion?? What do you think??

Q.   My man wrote his ex fling from years ago a message on facebook that said hi sweetheart how are you? after meaningless chatter between them both for a bit (each wrote 2 messages) out of the blue she writes "i think about you everyday, call me, love ...

A.   16 June 2008: With comments like that, it could just be joking, but it could also be serious on her part. I think you should set him down and have a serious face to face talk if you are truly worried about his loyalty, but above all, remain calm, don't become ... (read in full...)

How can I get the message to my bf that I am ready to have sex??

Q.   I Have The Biggest Issue In The World Right Now I Need Help ASAP!!!!! I Was Over My Boyfriends House and and I Was Sucking His Penis He Cummed In My Mouth and and I Swallowed A Little Bit Of It! It Wasnt That Bad and All But Im Ready To ...

A.   16 June 2008: Talk to him, ask him if he is ready for actual intercourse, some guys are frightened by the idea. You need to actually tell him that you are ready for sex. Then if he is also ready, well, then have at it :). You need to let him go at his own pace. ... (read in full...)

People are making fun of me because my dad died

Q.   hi my dad has died 5 years ago every one makes fun off me because of this what should i do ????????????????????????????...

A.   16 June 2008: Man, I can really feel for you, I know the feeling, my dad died right around the age yours did. If children are seriously making fun of you for that, that's just wrong, no doubt. I feel that you should talk to someone about it, an adult maybe. Do ... (read in full...)

I my love only worth 11 thousand euros?

Q.   hi cupid, me and my husband just got married and he said he love me, he wanted to buy a house and lot for me, cost 11thousand euro" is that all he can give to me? is that all how much he love me? shall i not complain and accept what he can give, ev...

A.   10 June 2008: I'm young but even I know that money should have no place in love, I'll be honest, that's a horrible thing to complain about.... (read in full...)

How can I get a boyfriend?

Q.   How can I get a boyfriend? I flirt with guys who I like and they flirt back, I know that a lot of guys like me so how do I get one of them to be my boyfriend? I don't know why no guy has asked me out yet. I talk to lots of guys and I like 2 guys and...

A.   5 June 2008: I agree with purple1234, I was the same way, I was one of the guys who waited for the girl. These might be those types. go for it rejection hurts, but it's not all that bad. I agree that it is much better than never knowingb.... (read in full...)

Teenage years...am I progressing fine?

Q.   Hi my name is Danny :) and i am straight:) I am just looking for some advice on sexual activites/things, ok heres the stroy; 1) Me and one of my freinds (a boy) talk alot about girls cause we are both 14 and it come naturally i think to all boy...

A.   5 June 2008: ok buddy, here's the deal, you are progressing through puberty normally, so don't fret. You are just a little behind some other boys, which is ok, I was too :). As far as the confidence goes, ignore him, tell jack to leave that situation alone, if ... (read in full...)

Why am I always horny? Any advice?

Q.   Why do I get horny a lot I always feel horny and always wanting to send pictures of my private to girls Any advice for me?...

A.   5 June 2008: man, I can honestly sympathize, not about sending my privates out, just the horny part, and all I can say is that most guys at our age group have this kind of problem, whether they admit it or not.... (read in full...)

What's the best way to give a blow job? His penis is rather big...

Q.   whats the best way to give a blow job, my guys penis is rather big and i try to get it as much in my mouth as possible, but sometimes i feel like im going to be sick! is there anyway i can improve that as he seems to really like it...

A.   5 June 2008: well, there is the option of only taking the tip and sucking very hard on that while you spit on the shaft and rub it with your hand. I know this turns me on... (read in full...)

Our relationship is progessing too quickly...

Q.   ok, I have a major problem here. My girlfriend and I are very close and recently our relationship has been accelerating at an unreasonable rate. I mean we haven't hardly dated that much and already she is interested in sexual activity (not ...

A.   2 June 2008: thank you for your input, i really appreciate it, you helped a lot, x... (read in full...)

He's 35 and I'm 17 and pregnant, is that really wrong?

Q.   I'm 17 he's 35, we have been living together for two months, and i'm 6 weeks pregnant. I love him so much, is this wrong we get along so good, so in love with each other? I left mad and went 7 hrs away to my sister's and he drove all night, tired wi...

A.   9 May 2008: This age difference is absolutely ludicrous. I am sorry, but you are far too young for this man. I mean, honestly, this borders on the line of pedophilia. I mean nothing to be mean, but I wish to be perfectly honest, this won't end well.... (read in full...)

What are the signs that he likes me?

Q.   ok so ive known this lad for just over a year now n i REALLY REALLY like him as a friend n recently felt much more for him! my feelings for him are really strong - im wondering if the feelings mutual? i mean, he texts me all the time, talks to me ...

A.   5 May 2008: Good lord. He probably has a giant crush on you just from reading your description. Speaking from a guy's point of view, a man rarely says things like that unless he really likes you (especially the body comment). I say you should go for it.... (read in full...)

I need to be more confident around the opposite sex!

Q.   They big problem I seem to have is that whenever I really like a girl, she already has a boyfriend(or finds me repulsive). This has essentially decimated my confidence with the opposite sex. My question is, what can I do to become more confident...

A.   5 May 2008: I forgot to mention that I am plenty confident in just flat talking. But if I'm even thinking about asking a girl out I just want to vomit or die. I can't get over the butterflies. Not to mention my friends also have dating problems similar to mine ... (read in full...)

Should I have sex with him?

Q.   Hey guys im kinda freaking out cuz i want to have sex with this guy, im 13 and im still a virgin but really love him and he's so sexy lol, so GUYS should i give hima blowjob first? )give me advice to give a nice blowjob lol) and wat do guys like in ...

A.   5 May 2008: ok. speaking from a guy's perspective, If you're that young and he seems interested in... that stuff... Well I would strongly advise leaving such a relationship, even if you think it's love, it really isn't. You will probably regret such an action ... (read in full...)

She already has a boyfriend, is it right to try and steal her away ?

Q.   Hello There is this girl I think about heaps and heaps and I would really want to be with but she has a boyfriend. I think she used to like me but he got to her first...... Is it right to try and get her to like me again and in a sense "steal" he...

A.   5 May 2008: I currently face a very similar problem. I would go for it. Be subtle though, If they are remotely close, he won't go without a fight.... (read in full...)

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