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No help with the kids, he drinks and smokes and he's moody... No wonder I don't feel like sex!
Q. I have 2 children ages 2 and 8. Why can't a man understand that the sex is not going to be the same after having children? I have had the long sulks, constant aruguments yet not much help with the kids, which would be a great help. But I am usually ...
A. 7 June 2006: Hi, the problem as i see it is that you feel like a wife, mother and housekeeper, you dont feel appreciated and you've lost your identity whereas your husband spends time away from the home environment with workmates then socialises with friends ... (read in full...)
Perfect relationship but found out my gf was planning on meeting up with her ex!
Q. My girlfriend and i have a really close rel'ship. i.e we tell eachother like everything, well at least i thought we did. everythings been so perfect but today i was bored on the comp and looked at her inbox and found messages from her ex, asking how ...
A. 7 June 2006: Hi, you're not going over the top i'd feel betrayed and question the trust but she probably has the same issue with you, you invaded her privacy. Did you have any doubts before the emails? is that why you looked at her mail? you cant change whats ... (read in full...)
How do I end this mental torture??
Q. I have this boyfriend who i have a feelings cheating on me people have told me they see him with other girls at clubs even though there just dancing it hurts. He calls me names and tells me i can never do anything right i feel like i'm no longer g...
A. 5 June 2006: Hi, i still stick to my original reply. I'm sure you can find somewhere to go rather than stay with him, he knows you rely on him for everything so he feels he can treat you bad cos you wont/cant go anywhere else, prove him wrong find somewhere to ... (read in full...)
He talks to his ex occasionally and I'm a little worried about that.
Q. All, I have been dating a girl for a little over a year now and she continues to talk to her ex. She says that he calls her about once a month just to say hi and see how things are going. These are some of the facts about this guy while they ...
A. 5 June 2006: Hi, Atleast she tells you he has called her so she's not trying to hide anything. If you really would prefer your g/f not to keep in contact with him then you must tell her and if its because of jealousy then tell her that to, i'm sure she'll ... (read in full...)
Is it normal for a married girl like myself to be crushing on another woman...
Q. Ok, well hello. I'm a married women who appears to have developed some sort of crush on another woman? Is this normal? I have only been married for a year and I love my husband. Recently I have been flirting with a friend of mine. Whenever we see ...
A. 3 June 2006: Hi,Who needs labels? There are some people in this world who are obvious lesbians or gays, there are others who look straight and claim to be lesbian/gay but the way i look at it is that we cant help who we fall for and gender doesn't come into it. ... (read in full...)
How do I end this mental torture??
Q. I have this boyfriend who i have a feelings cheating on me people have told me they see him with other girls at clubs even though there just dancing it hurts. He calls me names and tells me i can never do anything right i feel like i'm no longer g...
A. 3 June 2006: Hi, get out of this so called relationship. He doesn't deserve you. No one has the right to treat another human being that way, your self esteem must be rock bottom. Once you leave him and you start having fun with people who treat you with respect ... (read in full...)
How do I avoid looking like a fool??
Q. I'll be going to a party soon with famous people and local celebtities. I'm not a celeb myself. How do you behave, or what can I do or say or talk about that will make these people think that I'm not such a bad 23 yrs of age,young, smart successful ...
A. 3 June 2006: Hi, just be yourself, never try to put on an act for anyone cos you wont be able to keep it up for the rest of your life now will you. you're a successful business man, talk about your business but show an interest in their lives at the same time. ... (read in full...)
Is my love slipping away?
Q. hey!im having a problem with my boyfriend. the past few months hes been really odd with me and i get shouted at for doing almost nothing! on saturdays we normally spend the day together and go somewhere but today i got a text saying that he was ...
A. 3 June 2006: Hi, have i got this right, your b/f's friend at the bus stop was a girl? and she spoke to you badly in front of him and he said and did nothing? You and him need to have a long talk about your so called relationship ask him what it is he wants from ... (read in full...)
She loves me - She loves me not!
Q. I have fancied this girl for several months, never having been in a meaningful relationship myself. We are really good friends but she has had a boyfriend ever since i started to fancy her. I have told her over the past week, in snippets my true ...
A. 3 June 2006: Hi, dont go there, she's in a relationship and although she's enjoying the flattery she obviously doesn't feel the way you do. If she was a true friend she would never have risked hurting you by saying things she didn't mean. If you want to remain ... (read in full...)
Does size matter?
Q. hey girls! i am scared my penis is too small to satisfy my girlfriend. do you think 5.75 inched is ok?...
A. 3 June 2006: Hi, it's not the size that matters, it's the way that you use it, love the person you're loving and you'll realise that size doesn't come into it x... (read in full...)
Too late for the morning after pill...and early on my period!!!
Q. me and my bf are both 15 we had sex without protection 3days ago so its 2 late for the morning afta pill he tried to pull out b4 he came but im sure theres sum up there im on my period but its 2weeks early cud i still be pregnant plz help ...
A. 3 June 2006: Hi, it is possible but doubtful, either way get yourself to the doctors and get tested. I'm not going to lecture you about under age sex because you are fully aware of the fact, but try to think in the long term, do you want to end up with a ... (read in full...)
Help! Schoolgirl crush or real love?
Q. This is really complicated. There is a teacher at my school a teacher I really get on with, thing is I don't see him as a teacher I see him as a man or 'work colleague'. I am 15 but I am what they say an, 'old head on young shoulders' and I only r...
A. 3 June 2006: Hi, dont go there, he's probably blushing because he's embarrassed, you are making it so obvious that you fancy him and he's finding it difficult to deal with, he's a professional in a job of trust, if he's got any sense he'll talk to the head about ... (read in full...)
He talks to his ex occasionally and I'm a little worried about that.
Q. All, I have been dating a girl for a little over a year now and she continues to talk to her ex. She says that he calls her about once a month just to say hi and see how things are going. These are some of the facts about this guy while they ...
A. 3 June 2006: Hi, you did say that in your original advice request, therefore the advice i gave remains the same. Stop worrying about it and enjoy your relationship x... (read in full...)
He talks to his ex occasionally and I'm a little worried about that.
Q. All, I have been dating a girl for a little over a year now and she continues to talk to her ex. She says that he calls her about once a month just to say hi and see how things are going. These are some of the facts about this guy while they ...
A. 2 June 2006: Hi, i understand why you may be worried about your g/f's well being but she too knows what he was like hence she's with you not him!! lots of people stay friends with their ex's as not everyone holds grudges, some people when they get out of a ... (read in full...)
Mixed race relationships.... What do you think???
Q. Hi, what does everybody think of mixed relationships, i.e mixed race relationships? Do you think that even in today's society, it is ok for lets say an Asian woman to date a white man, or a black girl to date an Italian etc etc. I ask because I find ...
A. 28 May 2006: Hi, there's far too much prejudice in the world and the only way to change that is by being who we are and living the life that we chose as individuals. We are born free to chose our own path in life it's society as a whole that often steers us off ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend's behaviour is confusing me... any advice?
Q. Hi, This is a very strange situation for me. A girl was in relation with a guy but this guy she said used to slap her etc etc. She told me all this and I told her that if she thinks its causing her harm then she should break up. In this process ...
A. 28 May 2006: Hi, it all sounds very confusing to me. Do you actually go out on dates? If she doesn't take your calls how do you plan to meet etc?
It sounds like she has a lot of emotional problems she needs help with before she can get into another rela... (read in full...)
Am i going too far for a 13yr old?
Q. im really frustrated.....some ppl think that 13 is too young to have there bf go yup your shirt.......i dont think so!! i need some opinions!!! i dont feel like im 2 young!! i wouldent let some random dude do that!! me and my bf have been going ...
A. 28 May 2006: Hi, i'm sure you're not the 1st 13 yr old to have a fumble and you wont be the last but... fumbles lead to other things and i dont think you are ready for that, not to mention the fact that you are under age and my guess is so is your b/f. There's ... (read in full...)
He decided he wanted to be with a woman instead, why is he being like this???
Q. I recently broke up with my boyfriend, and I proposed, which made him so happy, as we had always spoken about it, and when it happened he said "at last your all mine", then less than a month later, all of a sudden we broke up, as he said his ...
A. 27 May 2006: Hi,This is nothing to do with anything you've said or done. your ex is obviously confused about his sexuality. You need to have a serious talk with him, has he just got cold feet with committment becoming a reality, or has he met someone else and ... (read in full...)
Alone after abortion and feel so low.
Q. I have recently split up from my boyfriend of a year because he wanted to go back to his home country. I offered to go with him but he said he wasn't ready for that kind of commitment because we would have to get married. This was back in feb that i ...
A. 26 May 2006: Hi,the way you are feeling is a normal reaction to everything that you've been through. you're not the first person to think that by being pregnant you'll keep your man and you wont be the last. You will come through this a better person,the hurt ... (read in full...)
Three in a bed, but I don't want to!
Q. I'm 26, my boyfriend is 29, and he wants us to have a threesome with me and another man. I told him no, and said it would cause harm to our relationship, but he still wants it to happen. I asked him why he wants to do this - and he refused to s...
A. 26 May 2006: Hi, if you dont want to, dont, it's as simple as that. Your b/f obviously knows you well enough to have the courage to ask you but that being so he should have known that there was a chance you'd say no. If he thinks enough of you he will respect ... (read in full...)
How do I get her back ?
Q. i have been with my girlfriend for 3 years and we decided to split up for a while due to use arguing all the time so after that things were going well then one day she said shes not happy no more and wants to split for good what do i do i love her ...
A. 24 May 2006: Hi, Being apart and away from the tension that argueing brings has probably made her realise that her feelings for you weren't as they should have been, weren't as deep as she once thought, she's probably enjoyed the freedom and not having to answer ... (read in full...)
How do i tell if they fancy me??
Q. What are the signs of a teenage boy fancying you? i am 15 and i want to know if anyone fancies me. just wondering how i could find out? cos i haven't got a clue what to look for to tell if they fancy me or other people. thanks for advise...
A. 24 May 2006: Hi, this can be tricky as some boys will treat you quite mean, being cheeky etc but this is to draw attention to themselves as they feel that any kind of attention from you is better than none! others tend to give you little looks in the hope that ... (read in full...)
Can you be "too young" to get married?
Q. Is there an age too young to get married by other peoples' perspective? Just wondering :)...
A. 21 May 2006: Hi, When you are ready for marriage and committment you will know. Most people aim to do lots of different things before they settle down such as travel, others cant wait to be all mumsy and housewifey and jump in with the first proposal. Age ... (read in full...)
My stepdad would rather have sex with me than with my mum!
Q. Dear cupid I'm an 18 yr old girl and my problem is that my stepdad raped me a week ago, so my mom kicked me out. I enjoyed having sex with him and he has come to me twice( I'm living in my friend's apartment) and we've had an amazing time but it's...
A. 21 May 2006: Hi, if you were raped why is he still with your mum, still walking the streets and not behind bars, and calling round to sleep with you. You weren't raped love, you consented and continue to consent. IF this is all true, him not calling round often ... (read in full...)
How do I get my ex back
Q. i am 15, i want my ex back! we broke up a few months ago cos we wanted a break and consentrate on school. now i really want him back and i think he would get back with me cos no other girls like him or would go out with him cos he really isnt the ...
A. 21 May 2006: Hi, go for it, ask him back he can only say no. There's a saying "you never know what you've got till its gone" thats probably where you're at, tell him you've missed him and would like to give it another go. Good luck LoLx... (read in full...)
My ex is being horrible to me, why is he behaving like this
Q. I have been going out with this boy for a year and a half now and he breaks off with me for no good reason al of a sudden, and then he would be horrible to me sending me pics of him naked with other girls and saying he only wants me for sex then he ...
A. 21 May 2006: Hi,Only he can explain why he treats you the way he does, what you need to ask is why you keep letting him!
You have to stop going back for more, he's a control freak and enjoying every minute of it. No-one with an ounce of emotion would treat some... (read in full...)
My boyfriends grandmother hates me
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for a while now and his grandma absoulty cant stand me! Anytime i call she hangs up on me. When i go knock on the door she just says go away he is taking a bath (even though he comes out like 5 seconds later)For ...
A. 21 May 2006: Hi,Dont take it to heart she would treat anyone who her grandson went out with the same, she's jealous bless her and she doesn't want her grandson to start depending on anyone other than her. She's obviously lonely and dreads the day he leaves ... (read in full...)
Is my partner cheating on me?
Q. hi. i have been seeing my fiance i love for two years almost three. i want to know if he's cheating on me? the one night my freind went out with him and went to a freinds house. they were outside and my freind went to go to the toilet leaving my ...
A. 21 May 2006: Hi,I'm so sorry you are going through all this. Your friend told you what he thought he saw, is he a friend of your partners? to jump to conclusions like that i would have thought he would have spoken to him first being on the scene and all that. ... (read in full...)
What is oral sex?
Q. what is oral sex?...
A. 21 May 2006: Hi, it's when you use your mouth and tongue to stimulate your partners genital area, if you need any further advice please dont hesitate to contact me x... (read in full...)
I Do ...... But i don't!
Q. Marriage: am I wasting everybody's time? I have just asked my girlfriend to marry me. The trouble is that I don't feel elated. I feel anxious. In truth, and I have never said otherwise, I would not have asked if I had been left to my own devices....
A. 21 May 2006: Hi, I really think you should stop right there, you are being bulldozed into everything. You obviously made plans together but she has decided to change those plans for her convenience and you've just nodded in all the right places!
You have to ask ... (read in full...)
I miss this girl in school, should I ask her out?
Q. Please help me! im 16 and im desperate to see this girl who is a year younger than me who was my best friend because i haven't seen her in 3 months and i personally don't know why. I want to see her because i really do miss her and i deeply care for ...
A. 21 May 2006: Hi,why dont you give her a ring to see how she is, you can start by saying something like "just thought i'd give you a call to catch up, i've really missed you these last few months" and take it from there, if things go well ask her out, ask if you ... (read in full...)
Pursued my x for months but now i have him, the feelings have gone!
Q. I spent 4 months trying to get back with my ex, and it's finally happened. But for some reason i'm not enjoying it. I think i had finally excepted that it was over, and we were beginning to become 'just friends', but he asked to meet up yesterday, ...
A. 21 May 2006: Hi,Ask yourself why you thought you wanted him back, was it because someone else had him? or you wanted to prove to him that he needed you? or prove to yourself that you could get him back? what ever the reason it wasn't because you loved the bones ... (read in full...)
I like this guy but he has a girlfriend and he hasn't left her!
Q. A few weeks ago I met a guy who I was instantly attracted to.We would flirt all the time. and he told me he was attracted to me. All was going well until i found out he had a girlfriend!!!! We did talk about his girlfriend and he said it wasnt ...
A. 21 May 2006: Hi,Do you think he would treat you any better than he is his g/f. He obviously isn't in a rush to break up with her, perhaps he's a try before you buy kind of guy, be very careful i dont feel he can be trusted but then if you are willing to see him ... (read in full...)
I still like my ex but I am doing my exams and my Mum is not happy
Q. I'm starting exams next week, and my mum has been nagging me to do revision, which i have been doing for ages. But for the past week or so i've been getting 'close' with an ex bf. My mum thinks we've got back together again, which we haven't, and ...
A. 21 May 2006: Hi, your mum is only trying to look out for you, she wants you to have the opportunities in life that she feels she missed out on.Your ex seems a sensible person, why dont you explain to him that to prevent your mum from getting stressed or worried ... (read in full...)
I still like my ex but he has a new girlfriend
Q. ok. this will probably be long. i have liked this lad for 4 years. we met at school, and he has always felt the same. however, we didnt actually get together until january this year. it was brilliant, and i really grew close to him. but after 2 ...
A. 21 May 2006: Hi, if he likes and misses you as much as he say's he does ask him to be with you, he cant have his cake and eat it, it has to be all or nothing for a relationship to work.Think about it, he still fancied someone else and you split up so if he has ... (read in full...)
Should I worry that a married, flirting friend now wants to get at job at my company?
Q. Background Male acquaintance who is married, And attracted to. I've known him about 18 months. Started off flirting and teasing me. Didn't know he was married to begin with, but when I found out, stopped the flirting, just acted friendly. Couldn...
A. 21 May 2006: Hi, continue to be freindly but dont encourage contact, ask about his wife in a casual way ie have they got a family etc. If he continues to flirt or asks you out treat it as a joke and laugh it off but make it quite clear you only date single men. ... (read in full...)
I know where he's going to be, so how do I "accidentally" run into him?
Q. To start off, I am 15... not exactly the "type" guys are after, but I'm not a total hag either... but I am extremely shy! And when you're not as pretty as the other girls and are shy you don't tend to find many guys who are into you. Because they ...
A. 21 May 2006: Hi, just be yourself, introduce yourself by saying something like "Hi you know my mum, i'm .... hope you dont mind if i take some pictures for your parents" That should start the ball rolling and just take it from there. Dont push it but you could ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has commitment issues
Q. ive been with my b/f for nearly 4 years, he is an amazing guy and i couldnt be happier, but there's just one thing, he says he has been engaged before but he broke it off cause he felt trapped, but i would love to be his wife and i dont want to look ...
A. 21 May 2006: Hi, you cant change his mind, only he can do that. If he talks about his previous engagement and how he felt trapped is he trying to tell you he's starting to feel trapped in this relationship or is he just warning you not to push him into any kind ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend in serious debt and wants me to steer clear
Q. What can I do when a boyfriend tells me that he needs to stay away for a while because his situation is bad? (He is being evicted, two months past due on every bill including car) He said that it is not another woman and that I should let him get ...
A. 20 May 2006: Hi, i would respect his wishes. He has a lot of problems to sort out and its really difficult to give your partner any kind of attention when so much is going round in your head. He is doing this to protect you and the relationship, let him know ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't believe me
Q. i need help understanding why my boyfriend dont believe what im saying...
A. 20 May 2006: Hi,it's really hard to know what to say, i have no idea what it is that he does't believe but have you got any proof to back up what you are telling him? have you got any witnesses to prove you are telling the truth? have you ever lied to him before ... (read in full...)
I cheated, he cheated...and now everytime we argue it is brought up
Q. Hi i have been with my fiancee since i was 15 years old and I am now 22 and hes 23 and we have a three year old little boy.I had a one night stand when we were abroad working before we had a baby and we patched things up and came home.however this ...
A. 20 May 2006: Hi,you are both trying to make the relationship work but for different reasons. I think you both probably still love each other but doubt either of you are IN love with the other. You have been together for a while and know each other really well ... (read in full...)
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