Do most boys choose their X-Box or PS3 over their girlfriend?
Q. It seems like my boyfriend's life is playing on his xbox or ps3, I dnt understand why he would rather play on that instead of talking to me on the phone etc. Anytime I go to his house he would rather play on his xbox than me?! Is this normal? ...
A. 8 December 2010: Sometimes guys do enjoy their "game time," but sometimes it gets a little too obsessive. Express to him your concerns and get it in his head that he should put a little more effort to see you. He won't know until you tell him.... (read in full...)
Loves me, but not in love with me. What do I do?
Q. I am deeply deeply in love with my gf but here's the problem she says she loves me too but she is not in love with me. I know we have been through a lot as a couple and she says because of that she has fallen out of love with me and me being mo...
A. 7 December 2010: I'm sorry to hear that. I know its not a pleasant thing to be told, especially by someone you care for so much. Sometimes the best thing to do is take a quick, short break.
I'd talk to her about it. Initiate the idea and say you think you both... (read in full...)
He knows I'm checking him out, why won't he say hi?
Q. So I have a dilemma.. I’ve been going to the gym for about 2 years (at this location). There is this guy who’s pretty darn hot, probably mid 20s or so, but unsure. I’ve seen him for the past 2 – 2.5 years at the gym, and it’s been so confus...
A. 7 December 2010: Sorry, as a guy I agree with the first poster. He's not actually interested. He probably just enjoys the attention you give him.
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Me wearing makeup is going to break us up!
Q. my boyfriend recently told me that if i kept on wearing make up(a bit of foundation: not making myself orange, blush and mascara) he would break up with me. i dont like to not wear makeup because i dont feel confident without it on. i love him s...
A. 4 December 2010: I see where he is coming from; I too prefer my women with less make-up since I think their natural face is more beautiful than a fake one. HOWEVER, he is way out of line in giving you an ultimatum. That is controlling and self-centered on his ... (read in full...)
Should I lose my virginity? I hear so many horror stories.
Q. Hi, i have a questions regarding the loss of my virginity. My Girlfriend of 9 months has asked if we can have sex, she knows i have always wanted to since we first started going out, now the oppertunity is here i dont know if there is any reason why ...
A. 4 December 2010: So based on your two concerns (regret and/or a child) one of those is much easier to deal with than the other.
The child: Be safe. If she's not on BC, where a condom. Make sure you are used to wearing one before you have sex for the first ti... (read in full...)
My girlfriend loves and is attracted to me, but she's not sexually attracted to me!
Q. My Girlfriend and I have been dating for 3 years. We were both virgins when we met and were planning on getting married before we had sex but things turned out differently. After around 1.7 years of dating we had sex and have been having sex often ...
A. 4 December 2010: I'm afread YouWish made a pretty accurate comment. Women around that age (18-21) tend to start feeling bored if they're tied down too early. I've seen it happen plenty of times where a long-term healthy relationship has gone to hell because ... (read in full...)
Is cheating ever something you can get over?
Q. My girlfriend cheated on me and, naturally, I'm extremely conflicted as what to do. The circumstances are thus: I was gone for 5 months (2.5 at the time of the cheating) to hike the Appalachian Trail and was not available to talk often. She...
A. 3 December 2010: I'm a personal advocate for the idea that relationships can withstand anything as long as both people are willing and loving. But that's the catch isn't it? Even if you're in the full 100%, it won't work if she's not nearly as committed as you ... (read in full...)
Guys, what do you like when looking at a gal?
Q. this is just for abit of fun really lol. I've never had a BF, and honestly aint that interested, but lately I've decided that I'm going to make abit more of an effort with my apperance/clothes etc etc. Then that got me wondering what guys actua...
A. 3 December 2010: Every guy is different. As far as physical appearance goes, I enjoy a woman who hasn't packed on the make up. I've seen normally gorgeous women go overboard, making it look like a mascara shotgun went off in their face. Make up has its place, but ... (read in full...)
I think I have lost that 'spark' with him! What can I do?
Q. when this guy first get near me i would get so nervous. and i guess i could say my heart would feel like it was beating fast. when we first went out he kissed me and i felt that "spark." But now its been two months. and i dont feel the same. he ...
A. 3 December 2010: You can thank your brain chemistry for that one. During the first few months of a relationship, or getting to know someone you'd like to be in a relationship with, your brain goes on a frenzy of producing "feel good" chemicals which gives you the ... (read in full...)
5 months into the relationship and haven't talked about sex yet
Q. Hi, I was wondering if I could get some advice on sex in a relationship. I've been with my girlfriend for 5 months. But we haven't even talked about sex yet. And every time I want to talk about it I try being subtle in my use of words. And then she ...
A. 3 December 2010: A word of advice; don't convince yourself you want to have sex because your friends have all had sex. That will only lead to a bad relationship on your part. This is something you have to feel out with the other person; make sure they are ... (read in full...)
I feel like I'm not supposed to be with anyone
Q. Hello again I'm sure many of you have heard that thing about nice guy vs the bad boy type and the bad always wins I am a nice guy I am very loving and caring and also very sensitive (not a quality I'm proud of but its there) and I love to help ...
A. 2 December 2010: I'm going to be kind of blatant here:
1. Yes there is definitely hope for the nice guy, BUT...
2. You need to control how sensitive you are. Most girls, especially after dating Mr. Badboy, see how wrong they are and "just wish they had a ... (read in full...)
Do guys like girls way more than girls like guys?
Q. That's what it seems like. How come if a girl joins a dating site, within a couple of days she'll be flooded with more e-mails than she could ever reply to... but if a guy joins, he could send out two dozen e-mails and still get no replies? How come ...
A. 2 December 2010: You have to realize a lot of women still believe in the traditional ways of the man making the first move. Even in high school and college, girls would keep their crushes and fantasies a secret and let it be the man who puts his neck out there. ... (read in full...)
How can I be more confident and feel more sexy?
Q. Any tips for confidence? hi I've started dating a guy and we have great sexual chemistry between us. Thing is I've rescently put on a bit of weight and with it lost a bit of confidence. any tips for having more confidence in my sexy self?..he m...
A. 2 December 2010: Just so you know, plenty of guys enjoy curves. Being healthy is essential, but definitely be conscious about drawing a line between losing weight to be healthy and losing weight to "look better." Are you even at an unhealthy weight? Think in ... (read in full...)
How often should a couple speak throughout the day?
Q. What is considered the "norm" for how much a couple should speak throughout the day?...
A. 1 December 2010: Well its important that you both live your own lives without an urge of dependency on the other. This way you don't risk appearing too "clingy" and you're also not neglecting your other friends (if the relationship goes south, you don't want to be ... (read in full...)
"We're too young to be in love." What do I make of THAT?
Q. I told my boyfriend, who I've been dating for a little over 9 months that I'm in love with him (neither of us have ever said that before). I thought it would go over well and he would say it back, but it would have been okay if he didn't, but ...
A. 1 December 2010: As a male, I completely understand where he's coming off. I've been in relationships in high school where I felt with every urge of my being to tell the girl that I loved her, yet somehow I knew that it was something I couldn't take back.
Peopl... (read in full...)
She can't take the distance, I think my LDR may end!
Q. Ok well bear with me here... I have been in a long distance relationship with a beautiful girl who loves me for about 1 year and a half...We went out for each other for 9 months until she had to move away, but were still together today.. The t...
A. 1 December 2010: Well how do you feel about it? Do you find yourself appalled at the idea, or are you kind of agreeing with her that its for the best? If you both mutually understand that the years apart are too tough, it may just be better to move on. Date other ... (read in full...)
Everyone rejects the idea of us being together!
Q. im 21 I love the most beautiful girl on the earth ...shes 20, shes my everything, i cant live without her, and everytime i see her , we cant talk nor look at each other or even say hi or hug, nothing, and it kills me to death, as if im being ...
A. 1 December 2010: You, sir, are 21 years old and she is 20! You're both way past adulthood. I know family is important, but if they're going to discriminate against certain relationships, especially between two loving people, then they need to be cut out of the ... (read in full...)
I like bigger women and am having trouble dealing with it.
Q. I have a thing for bigger women and i dont know how to deal with it. While Im not into the deal of larger women getting larger or "gaining" and not into the feeding thing, i definitely have an appreciation for plus-sized women, and am unsure if my ...
A. 1 December 2010: Much like it has been said, you are worrying too much about your friends' approval. If you were honestly happy with someone you were with and they blatantly made fun of you for it, they truly aren't the best of friends, are they?
I have a close ... (read in full...)
My ex girlfriend has left me for another guy but I still love her, is there any chance of winning her back?
Q. Hi there all. This is my first major break up, my girlfriend of 3 years recently went to university, i was seeing her every weekend, in till during the week she broke up with me and got with another guy. The way she did it was so awful, i d...
A. 30 November 2010: I can personally say there is no use in chasing after her.
1) It makes you look desperate and foolish
2) She'll see you as a doormat. If she can go and break your heart only to have you crawling back, what does that tell her?
3) Even if sh... (read in full...)
How can I get guys to see me in the way I want to be seen without losing my personality?
Q. Hi this is going to sound quite complicated but I'd love to get as many answers as possible as it would be really helpful to hear all your opinions, thank you! some context: I live in London, finished college last summer and am almost 19 and...
A. 28 November 2010: Well first off, I'd say you're looking for a certain type of guy in the completely wrong crowd. If you meet people at a party as they're drinking and even end up kissing someone, you can bet, especially due to the alcohol, that they'll be looking ... (read in full...)
Am I being too clingy?
Q. My girlfriend and I have beeen going out for two months now. The first month was so good, she'd always come over or she'd invite me to hers. Now things have turned the other way and we only see each other maybe twice a week. I text her every day. ...
A. 28 November 2010: What is her attitude like when you text her? Does she play along and hold a conversation, does she simply respond, or does she flat out ignore them? If its either of the last two, then she may be feeling suffocated.
I know its tough; I too am a... (read in full...)
Opposites attract but can they stay together?
Q. Okay idk what to do. my gf and i have been together 8 months now. Neither of us have ever been in a relationship before and we are both very serious. My problem is i love her very much, but our personalitys are just different. she is a person who ...
A. 26 November 2010: People find fun in different things and different environments. If she's anything like one of my old girlfriends, she would much rather spend a night in whenever you suggest going out, however once you actually get her out, she has a great time! ... (read in full...)
I asked her out, she refused, I accepted it, now I feel bad, what to do??
Q. I just asked this girl out that I really think is the one. The problem is that she sadly said no. When she first said it I really did take it well. But now... It's starting to hurt more and more. She was really nice about it and we're still good ...
A. 25 November 2010: Sorry but you're just not the one for her right now. If its not too hurtful, continue to be a good friend to her, but not in a way that lets her walk all over you. I've seen many girls lead guys on to the point where they'd do anything for them. ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend wants to have sex with her friend just once to see if anything is there?
Q. I need some advice... My girlfriend and I have been going out for almost 2 years now, late last year she started to hang out with a friend who she used to know, he seemed nice to me, a bit weird but he was okay. Last December she went through a r...
A. 25 November 2010: She clearly doesn't love you as much as you think. Love is supposed to be a mutual feeling between two people and if there are separate feelings involving another, one party clearly isn't holding up their end of the bargain.... (read in full...)
I don't like my body
Q. I feel so much hate, it's tedious and has me so unhappy. And it's for something so stupid! I have really small boobs and some cellulite. My ex, who's the only guy I've had sex with, the only one who's seen me naked, commented on both things without ...
A. 24 November 2010: I really don't know what I/we can say; this is something you need to discover for yourself. I suppose I can tell you that everyone has insecurities. Just as every girl wishes she could be skinnier, bustier, curvier, different facial features, etc ... (read in full...)
When I'm not with him I miss him, but when I am with him, I can't think of what to say!
Q. I have a boyfriend and it's being going great, been going out a month now. the trouble is, when im away from him, i miss him, but when i see him, i cant think of a thing to say to him! im worried that he thinks im getting bored of him! what can i ...
A. 24 November 2010: Is he the shy type? If he doesn't initiate conversation, then maybe you'll need to put a bit more effort into it. Just ask him simple questions; how was your day, how was class, ask him about any activities he's been doing, about his friends, etc. ... (read in full...)
Should I stay a virgin untill marriage?
Q. hi people ... im a virgin ... i feel like having sex but dont have any girl friend ... but i also have a secong thought that i should stay virgin till my marriage .... im in a real dilemma .... ls help ...
A. 23 November 2010: That is honestly up to you. Whatever you feel is consistent with your personal beliefs and values. No one here can tell you whether its right or wrong for you :)... (read in full...)
Break up? Go out with other guy?
Q. I dont know what to do. I love my boyfriend to bits, but there are some things i dont like. He is unemployed ( i am too, but i am trying my best to get a job ), he has spondylosis and he sleeps a lot during the day. I know he cant help having an ...
A. 22 November 2010: Just so you know, no one is perfect. For every guy you're with, after long enough you'll be able to create a huge list of great things and annoying things about him. The grass is always greener on the other side...
But do what your heart te... (read in full...)
I don't feel pretty.
Q. i am 13 im ugly with brown spots (one above my lip and one on my cheek on the other side) on my face, i have dark brown eyes, and my friends alway call me pretty, even though im sure im not. i hate how there are so pretty people and i aint even half ...
A. 22 November 2010: You are so so young... there is still so much time for you to develop, not only in a physical sense, but emotionally as well. The key is confidence. Don't let anything anyone says get to you, especially that girl staring back at you in the mirror! ... (read in full...)
Am I obsessed with my ex because I dream of her?
Q. Has anyone really had dreams about there ex's? We broke up over a year and a half ago, I still have dreams about her. These dreams are not sexual in any way just friendly dreams where we are just doing something together or things which we use to do ...
A. 22 November 2010: I wouldn't say its an obsession by any means. You simply miss her its safe to say. However it'd be best for you to try and get over this. If its been over for this long, try and get out and meet more people. Eventually you'll find a new woman... (read in full...)
Is my girlfriend losing interest?
Q. So, I'm confused. After spending nearly 4 months in a long distance relationship with my girlfriend, I'm getting ready to visit her. The problem is, I have no idea how my girlfriend views our relationship or me. She is not the type who likes t...
A. 22 November 2010: Hate to say it, but it seems to me she is losing interest. I only say this out of plenty of experience. I've seen it happen so many times out of long distance relationships.
She has always looked to you for affection, attention, and love but... (read in full...)
Do women really prefer more 'masculine' men for sex but less 'masculine' men for relationships?
Q. I've read quite a few articles about evolutionary psychology and the theory that women tend to prefer more masculine men for short term sexual relationships, but prefer less masculine men for long term relationships. As I understand it, the theory ...
A. 22 November 2010: From what I've read in some of my human sexuality classes, women still prefer a masculine man, but that doesn't mean he shouldn't treat them in a gentle, loving manner.
There was actually a great quote in one of the books I read (can't recall w... (read in full...)
Help! My girlfriend seems to be having second thoughts!
Q. So me an my girl will have been going together for a year this January. This is my first relationship and her second. We are both 20. Are relationship has also been sexual for this time. We have had many fights in this time but have always ...
A. 22 November 2010: These are common thoughts for a woman her age. Around 20 years old, especially if you're in college, is the time when you start to see your entire life unfolding before your eyes. You want to find out where your place is, what sort of job you ... (read in full...)
I had to be with family on our 1 year anniversary and girlfriend is mad
Q. Hello everyone. Thanks for checking out my question. I really appreciate it. Well firstly, my girlfriend is mad and disappointed at me. And I know it's my fault. So here's the situation. Couple of days ago, it was our 1 year anniversary. I made...
A. 20 November 2010: Slow down there, pal. You did nothing wrong here. You went above and beyond apologizing already! You wrote her a thoughtful letter and even wrote/recorded songs for her, even when you had a legitimate reason for missing the anniversary! Do NOT ... (read in full...)
We broke up, she sent text, I responded and she says we are over and cant be friends
Q. hi, my expartner text me yesterday to pass on her condolences for a friends funeral i was attending. she never new this person so why after not talking to me for three weeks would she do this. she said she was thinking of me and hoped i was ok. i ...
A. 20 November 2010: When she said that she was "thinking of you," you may have interpreted it as thinking about you on a personal level, when in reality, she was just keeping you in her thoughts knowing you were attending a funeral. Nothing more.
You asked why she ... (read in full...)
I need to chose between three girls .. two of them are already taken!
Q. i'm stuck between picking three girls. two are in a relation ship. one i've known for seven years. the others i've known for a few weeks. the one i've known for seven years is in a relationship. one of the two i've known for a few weeks i comunicate ...
A. 20 November 2010: Whoa whoa whoa whoa...whoa. Hold on there pal, if you have to sit and choose between women, you aren't ready to be in a relationship. You need to pursue someone that you truly like and really want to be with; and that includes choosing to be with ... (read in full...)
He says it is due to my "lack of sexual desire" that I don't feel anything during sex. Is that true??
Q. My husband and myself have been having sex for the past one year. During this time I never experienced an orgasm. I want him to enjoy sex for which I take the initiative in doing things which he likes. Our sex usually lasts 5 mins. He starts ...
A. 19 November 2010: Fun fact: Men are often ready for sex in less than one minute. Most women need upward of 20 minutes! Right now, your husband isn't giving you enough time to mentally and physically prep for sex, which leaves you unsatisfied. He needs to tak... (read in full...)
Should I be worrying about this sex stuff?
Q. well im 20 and a virgin and i wont be afraid to admit im nervous to have sex, mainly just scared that when we are going at it, ill be so nervous that ill hold myself back and not be able to climax :/ its not like im completely inexpereinced, i...
A. 19 November 2010: This is a never ending cycle. You feel nervous about having sex so you constantly worry about your performance which leads to even more nerve when having sex which in turn leads to not climaxing...
Its seriously all in your head. The more you... (read in full...)
Stay friends with my ex or let her go?
Q. I honestly have very little options, I can stay friends with my ex or just let her go. I care for my ex to the worlds end. I know that and I have always had that feeling for her even before we dated and I was actually interested in other girls. I am ...
A. 17 November 2010: Now that she's seeing a new guy, things have changed for you. I know that you care for her immensely and I'm sure that in your mind there was always a slight hope that she'd realize all of the things you did for her and want to be with you again. ... (read in full...)
I hate being like this!
Q. Since i was born I've been surrounded by mostly women. My dad was around but he was absolutely useless that my mum just kicked him out when i was about 10. He didn't run away with another woman, he was kicked out. That's how pathetic he was. Anyway ...
A. 17 November 2010: These are very deep psychological issues that have been rooted into you after your traumatizing family experiences, especially with those concerning women. But I don't think you need me to tell you that as you explained it all.
This is somethin... (read in full...)
Heeeelp! Is my boyfriend cheating?
Q. I need advice on what to do... I've been with my boy 3.5 years now, he was my first love, first everything. I am 21. A few months into our relationship he got drunk at a party and spooned a girl he used to be intimate with...he promised nothing...
A. 16 November 2010: Sorry but this is not normal. On some level, he is not satisfied with you alone and for a reason only known by him (there could be several) he seeks the comfort of getting close to other women. It could be a confidence things (Hey do I still have ... (read in full...)
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