Perfect husband sober, but dicing with death when drunk.
Q. Hi All, My husband and I have been together since we were at school, now we are in our early thirties so I quite frankly don't know where to turn from here. I have always known that drink hasn't agreed with him. Some chemical in his brain ju...
A. 23 December 2022: I think that you have to draw the line somewhere, he can't keep acting like he is in his late teens, it is not fair on you or your kids to keep on putting up with this behaviour.
I am not suprised that you don't want this anymore, and you shou... (read in full...)
My friend used me to look after her kids!
Q. I feel that I’ve been used recently by a friend and it’s really upset me. A few days ago I had arranged for my friend to come over to my house for a coffee (we usually meet up at 1 of our house 2 times a month). That morning she arrived ...
A. 23 December 2022: You openly told her that you had an open appointment at 4pm and that she needed to get back for 3.
She may well have been stuck in traffic, but if you want my honest answer I think her planned meet up went on longer than expected.
She lef... (read in full...)
Am I putting in work and not going to get the commitment?
Q. I just turned 29 years old and I have been with my boyfriend for 28 months now we have been living together for a year and 8 months, we have a dog together we both have good jobs and are responsible people. The topic of marriage and children has ...
A. 19 December 2022: I think you need to stop worrying about time running out as I think that you have plenty of time.
You have already both made a commitment together by way of setting up home, getting a dog which is a step in the right direction. If he was time was... (read in full...)
Do I tell him that I know he cheated?
Q. I have just found out that my partner of 9 years had cheated on me with his work colleague at his Christmas party. I feel physically sick at the thought of it and having seen the messages of their night of passion, arranging to meet again and keep ...
A. 18 December 2022: So he was unfaithful to you with a work colleague, shared a night of passion, and by the looks of it arranging to meet again.
I don't think this is something that can be just swept under the carpet and move on like all is fine. He has been unf... (read in full...)
Seeing that ex is engaged has thrown me off
Q. I broke up with a guy about 2.5 years ago. It was an unhealthy relationship where I saw red flags and knew we were incompatible, but thought my love could “fix” him and maybe if I changed certain things about myself, it could work. I have no idea ...
A. 18 December 2022: You know that you did the right thing, and what you did was 100% for the best.
We both no that googling him was not a good idea, at the end of the day an ex is an ex. I not a great fan of social media for that very reason, and that is seeing p... (read in full...)
Am I wasting my time?
Q. I’m very confused about this guy’s behaviour and need advice. I started talking to a guy, he used to text once in a few days but very detailed msgs about some mutual topics , never opened up about himself much emotionally. I didn’t mind cause we ...
A. 18 December 2022: To be honest after 6 months i think you should be further than just exchanging texts once or twice a week, and no calls. I would treat your relationship with him with some trepidation, and air on the side of caution because i think he might very ... (read in full...)
Anyone from South Africa that can answer a question?
Q. Hi is anyone here from South Africa? Just have a question. I met someone online I have went to see him 3 times and he wants to visit me. He said he got his passport, his NIN, and needs his covid vaccine and says it is 300.00 usd. Seems a li...
A. 15 December 2022: Here at DC we see posts similar to this one time and time again where someone is another country is asking for money. Some of these people are writing in having already parted with vast amounts of money only to realise that they have been scammed. ... (read in full...)
Do I stay in this marriage?
Q. Dear cupid. I'm writing here already knowing the answer to my own question, but I just need to talk to someone about this, and I can't talk about it to anyone I know. I'm married, and miserable. It hasn't been easy, and the main problem for me i...
A. 6 December 2022: I feel that if you give it 6 months, nothing will change, so you give it another 6 months, then another, until your life becomes one long giving it 6 months with nothing ever changing.
You have to accept that this marriage is done, its got to t... (read in full...)
Think I really hurt my friendship, what should I do?
Q. I’ve been friends with a male friend for a LONG time. I met him working at a GameStop and we became fast friends. However it turned out he really had feeling for me, I turned him down, (I’m gay) but he was really fun to hang out with and I wanted to ...
A. 6 December 2022: I think the problem is he developed feelings for you early on and probably felt like something could materialise as you both got on so well.
For no fault of your own his dreams of having you came crashing down when he found out you were off limi... (read in full...)
Blindsighted by breakup
Q. I want to know if I’m crazy for being totally blindsided by this breakup. I went on a date with this great guy about a year ago. Then we were talking, hung out together with our kids. And definitely had a connection. Then while I was out of town ...
A. 5 December 2022: I have got to be brutally honest with you here and say that you are better off without him in your life.
You had a family emergency which is important and took you out of town, and you get back to find he is back with an ex.
OP this should ... (read in full...)
Why does my partner say this?
Q. My partner regularly says hes going to do something that will put him in prison if he doesnt return to his home country soon. I pay all the expenses for my home and he spends his money in the first week and then lives off me for the rest of the m...
A. 5 December 2022: I have to ask the question, reading you post what what you mention why are you actually with this guy.
Are there any positives to this relationship at all?. He is ungrateful, spends all his money then lives off of you for the rest of the month.
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Why does my partner say this?
Q. My partner regularly says hes going to do something that will put him in prison if he doesnt return to his home country soon. I pay all the expenses for my home and he spends his money in the first week and then lives off me for the rest of the m...
A. 5 December 2022: test... (read in full...)
Former dating partner acts like he does not know me
Q. So a guy I was seeing ended things with me as I wanted commitment and he didn’t see me in that way. he was then with another girl and he didn’t want anymore to do with me even as a mate however that broke down within weeks. next thing he kept ...
A. 5 December 2022: I am going to be brutally honest here and say he is not someone you want or need in your life and my advice would be to delete and block him.
If you don't he will keep picking you up and putting you down, getting back in contact with you and bein... (read in full...)
I want my mom to stop talking to me she has a mental illness
Q. My mom she loves coming into the basement irritating me and threatening me and I don't want her coming to the basement I don't want her talking to me she has a mental illness and she doesn't want to admit to anybody she has one. ...
A. 3 December 2022: Do you work in the basement, or is this your bedroom?.
Have you thought about getting your own place and having your own space.
I'm sorry to hear she has a mental illness, but and the end of the day you are in your 40's and your mum should ... (read in full...)
I have no support around me when boyfriend and I argue
Q. I have being living with my boyfriend for the last three months. We have our ups and downs and arguments about day to day things. I live 5.5 hours away from my friends and family. My boyfriend lives about half an hour from his family. I lived away ...
A. 3 December 2022: They say that you never really truly know someone until you live with them.
It sounds like you have made a lot of sacrifices to set up home with him, while it seems he has made none. A lot of red flags are being presented here and you need to ... (read in full...)
Family always wants me to babysit
Q. I have a brother who is married with a wife and two kids. The problem is that my brother and sister-in-law are upset with me for always refusing to babysit. I have work, church and other activities that take up a lot of my time. My brot...
A. 29 November 2022: I think sometimes we have to be cruel to be kind and you need tell them that you are not happy babysitting every time they need you.
No you are not wrong for refusing to do so, far from it. Of course you love your Neice & Nephew which im sure you... (read in full...)
Afraid I’ll regret ending this friendship. Is this a friend worth keeping?
Q. Would you stay friends with someone who has the following traits? I need an outside person’s perspective: PROS: -Caring -There for you emotionally when need advice or venting -Helps in my mental health healing process -Feel less alone b...
A. 29 November 2022: There is no such thing as a perfect Friendship/relationship would be lovely if there was such a thing.
I think it's down to us as individuals to weigh up the pro's and cons and decide if they are worth keeping around or not, its up to us to decid... (read in full...)
Should I inform my ex’s family & friends that I’m he’s addicted to drugs in hopes that they’ll help him?
Q. My ex and I are very much in love but broke up amicably. He’s developed a drug addiction. He’s high functioning but it’s something I cannot accept. He’s admitted to his addiction and understands why I can’t be with him. He’ll be moving out this ...
A. 22 November 2022: I realise you are going to get varied opinions on this, but i am going to go along the lines of staying out of it and not informing them.
I know that you split amicably, and that is a good thing, but you have still broken up, and he is essentia... (read in full...)
He lied cheated on his partner then told me he never had feelings for me
Q. I’m in a horrible situation and would love some help please. I started dating a man back in June. We’d known each other through work for a couple of years and there has always been some flirtation between us so I was thrilled when he asked me out....
A. 22 November 2022: I am going to get straight to the point and say it really does not matter what he thinks anymore,we both know what sort of person he is and you dodged a bullet if you ask me as he is not someone you want in your life.
When you found out he has a... (read in full...)
He lied cheated on his partner then told me he never had feelings for me
Q. I’m in a horrible situation and would love some help please. I started dating a man back in June. We’d known each other through work for a couple of years and there has always been some flirtation between us so I was thrilled when he asked me out....
A. 22 November 2022: test... (read in full...)
No sex is he cheating?
Q. Me and my husband hadn’t had sex for 3 days because of his busy schedule. And when we finally did it he did not ejaculate a lot like he usually does even when we do it every day. Is that normal or should I be worried?...
A. 22 November 2022: Personally i don't think you have got anything to worry about. As you say lately he has had a busy schedule and probably has a lot on his mind at the moment.
It was only three day's since you had sex, and then you noticed a slight change that he ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is more extroverted than me and we have a family party to go to
Q. Hi, As the title suggests, my boyfriend, 27, of several years is more extroverted than me and seems to thrive in the company of others. He has lots of friends from different groups and he loves going out and can easily make friends with any...
A. 20 November 2022: At the end of the day no two people are the same, each and every one of us is different and we have certain things about us that make us unique.
All you can do is go to the party as a support for your boyfriend, and just be yourself. Sometime... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is more extroverted than me and we have a family party to go to
Q. Hi, As the title suggests, my boyfriend, 27, of several years is more extroverted than me and seems to thrive in the company of others. He has lots of friends from different groups and he loves going out and can easily make friends with any...
A. 20 November 2022: test... (read in full...)
I think my husband likes our sons girlfriend
Q. Stayed over at our oldest sons flat for 3 days with my husband and younger son. Our oldest lives with his girlfriend of 5 years. I didn’t want to stay there as I prefer a hotel to do my own thing and I go to the toilet a few times in the night so ...
A. 20 November 2022: I'm sorry to say but i think that you way over thinking this and blowing it out of all proportion in my opinion.
You husband is a man in his late 50's, and she is in her early 20's, and your sons partner, the thought of anything going on seems absu... (read in full...)
I think my husband likes our sons girlfriend
Q. Stayed over at our oldest sons flat for 3 days with my husband and younger son. Our oldest lives with his girlfriend of 5 years. I didn’t want to stay there as I prefer a hotel to do my own thing and I go to the toilet a few times in the night so ...
A. 20 November 2022: test... (read in full...)
Getting over someone’s promiscuous past
Q. Hey all! I’m struggling with what seems to be a rather common mental dilemma. I’m (28M) in a monogamous relationship with a girl (29F) that I was friends with in high school. We both went away to college, didn’t really talk much for like 8-9 years, ...
A. 20 November 2022: At the end of the day we all have a past no matter who we are and where we are from. I think its important to look at the hear and now, and the future, and stop looking back at the past.
The past is the past, it can't be changed, how ever much we w... (read in full...)
Getting over someone’s promiscuous past
Q. Hey all! I’m struggling with what seems to be a rather common mental dilemma. I’m (28M) in a monogamous relationship with a girl (29F) that I was friends with in high school. We both went away to college, didn’t really talk much for like 8-9 years, ...
A. 20 November 2022: test... (read in full...)
All we have done is kiss
Q. My boyfriend who is 19 won't touch me even when I ask him to. We have been dating for a year now and all we've done is just kissing,we haven't seen each other completely naked I tried numerous times to make a move on him but he avoids me telling me ...
A. 19 November 2022: He is doing the right thing and respecting your age. He may also be weary of taking things further with you at this age as potentially it could land him in deep water.
Whats the rush, take your time and enjoy each others company, there is plenty o... (read in full...)
All we have done is kiss
Q. My boyfriend who is 19 won't touch me even when I ask him to. We have been dating for a year now and all we've done is just kissing,we haven't seen each other completely naked I tried numerous times to make a move on him but he avoids me telling me ...
A. 19 November 2022: test... (read in full...)
Made mistake leaving dog behind
Q. I left my dog with my parents while moving to this country after marriage. I visit her once in four months. It's scary to transport overseas (because they would put her in a carrier and transport her like an object), my parents are attached to her ...
A. 9 November 2022: At the end of the day although you are not with your dog, she is still very much in your family, and is with your parents still very much loved. It could have been worse, you might have had to put her into care, or give to a couple you don't know, ... (read in full...)
Made mistake leaving dog behind
Q. I left my dog with my parents while moving to this country after marriage. I visit her once in four months. It's scary to transport overseas (because they would put her in a carrier and transport her like an object), my parents are attached to her ...
A. 9 November 2022: test... (read in full...)
He gave me chance after chance
Q. I used to enjoy flirting on dating apps and kinda having text and online relationships. I was in love with someone at the time. He found out about it, left, came back after I had convinced him it was nothing which was exactly what it was and I ...
A. 9 November 2022: Well they say what goes around comes around don't they.
You ask if he still loves you, and is there anyway back after four years, and like Honeypie says i am going to go with probably not, infact almost certainly not.
He changed his numb... (read in full...)
Cheating with an unattractive person due to alcohol
Q. All the names in this story are made up. My female friend Kelly asked me a question: I didn’t know a good answer to give her. Background: Kelly is in a 2 year relationship. Kelly, myself and Devin (guys she slept with- weighs 300 pounds, u...
A. 6 November 2022: It all seems rather pointless if i'm being brutally honest.
She is not your partner, she is someone you have known for a while, and just had sex with a colleague at a conference, which as a consequence she regrets.
His unattractiveness... (read in full...)
Pregnant and sex uncomfortable. How do I make husband understand
Q. I am five months pregnant and sex with my husband has been very painful. He wants to have sex once a day which we did when I was not pregnant but the further I get along the more painful it is. I am not sure how to stop. I just want to cut it o...
A. 4 November 2022: I think he has got to understand that things are different now, having sex is not the same as before you are pregnant. If you are in pain when you have sex he has got to be understanding of this, he has got to man up, accept that sex hurts you, and ... (read in full...)
My Wife Was Used to a Huge Dick Before Me; I am tiny. Will it ever feel the same?
Q. When we first started dating, my wife hid a secret from me.....she didn’t know how to tell me that she can’t feel me and she was used to her ex-boyfriend's big cock and a guy who fucked her to the point that there is no comparison. She’s very loud ...
A. 4 November 2022: Firstly i think she is wrong to ridicule you like she is, she is belittling you and not helping your feelings of inadequacy. I would not mind betting that most woman apart from your partner that is would tell you that its not the size, but what you ... (read in full...)
Partner invited friend over to stay while I am away
Q. It being less than month since I moved in with my boyfriend and I’m thinking I’ve done the wrong thing. Last week, he blurted out in an argument that he had invited his friend over to stay for the night whilst I’m away working. I have never met h...
A. 2 November 2022: If you have only been living together for a month and your already questioning if you have done the right thing is not a good sign.
Ok it's good that you trust him, trust is an important key in a relationship. But I think that having a female t... (read in full...)
Partner invited friend over to stay while I am away
Q. It being less than month since I moved in with my boyfriend and I’m thinking I’ve done the wrong thing. Last week, he blurted out in an argument that he had invited his friend over to stay for the night whilst I’m away working. I have never met h...
A. 2 November 2022: test... (read in full...)
How to get over dissapointment of being so close to finding The One?
Q. I fell in love with a guy who has so many characteristics I am looking for. He is so much of what I’ve hoped to have as a husband but never thought would exist out there. Long story short, he has three big deal breakers to him. These things are...
A. 2 November 2022: I think that you have got to pick yourself up, dust yourself down and move on putting this down to experience.
So he was close to being the one, but he wasen't there were red flags. Its a good thing you found the red flags now and not further ... (read in full...)
Is 30 too old to date?
Q. Hi there, this is my first time posting on here but I see people give really great advice. I am currently going through a divorce with my husband of 9 years. Nothing messy, we have just grown apart over the years and I put that down to being so...
A. 2 November 2022: The answer to your main question is no 30 is not to old to date. If the answer to that question was yes then it would not leave to much hope for people in their 40's 50's and beyond.
i am 46, my marriage ended in 2016 and yes its a daunting... (read in full...)
Lost attraction to my partner
Q. I'm really struggling with what to do and how to handle this situation. I've been with my partner for 4.5 years. She's very emotionally supportive and is my best friend, but I have lost all of my physical attraction to her at this point and it kills ...
A. 27 October 2022: The truth of the matter is we can't change people, we can offer advice, suggestions, or even drag them to somewhere they don't really want to be. But at the end of the day the only person that can help your partner is your partner herself, she has ... (read in full...)
How do I come out to my female partner
Q. How do I come out to my female partner? Hey people, any help will be appreciated, I'm looking for advice on how I can get out of a situation I've stupidly got myself in. So, I'm gay but have a girlfriend and I really don't want to hurt hurt, but the ...
A. 27 October 2022: Its good that you know you need to tell her, so i would not waste anymore time in doing so.
She is a human being with feelings, and i'm guessing that she has feeling for you. I feel the longer that you leave it the harder it will get, and the ... (read in full...)
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