Do I respect that he's still hurting from being dumped, but then maybe lose him, if another girl connects with him first?
Q. The guy I like was recently dumped by his GF. He is in love with her. He used to flirt with me before, but more as a friendly flirt. I like him, but he's telling me he's not ready for relationships b/c he still hurting. I cannot tell him how I feel...
A. 25 March 2011: The best you can do is just be there for him. If he links up with the other girls its probably just for sex.
He needs time to sort his mind out, dont pressurise him into any decisions as he could come to regret those later on.
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I found my wife's sex tape with two guys. Should I moved out for a while to clear my head? I don't know if I can recover from this
Q. I really don't know if this is the best place to be asking for advice, but I can't afford a counselor and I'm too embarrassed to tell any of my family or friends. I'm hoping someone on this site can help me. My wife has always been the keep sa...
A. 25 March 2011: This 3-some happened before she met you. We all have things in our past, we cannot just wipe them out, they happened!! If you decided to leave your wife, who is to say the next woman in your life wont have a past? I do understand this has ... (read in full...)
My wife had a one night stand for years ago but won't tell me his name. What do you think?
Q. my wife cheated (one night stand) on me 4 years ago. it was a one night. she just confessed what she calls everything.....But she will not tell me her friends name. What's up with that??? The reason that it is important is this guy works at a f...
A. 25 March 2011: Sorry that you are going through this. I dont think that the name of the guy is really relevant, however I do think that you deserve to know all the details. You have been the one that has been wronged.
Dont allow your wife to sweep everythi... (read in full...)
I'm cheating, want to divorce my wife but what will happen to my daughter?
Q. I have been married for 8 years and have a 2 year old daughter. I love my daughter to bits and will do anything for her. I have fallen deeply in love with another women 2.5 years ago and we've been together since. The feelings i have for this ot...
A. 24 March 2011: In the south african courts, the mother will get custody, so yes, she will then dictate just how much you will see your daughter and for how often and whether those visits are chaparoned or not.
Usually during a bitter divorce, and let me tell you... (read in full...)
The woman my ex cheated with sends me photos of them together
Q. Help please. I broke up with my ex about a year and a half ago. It ended badly (I caught him cheating) after 5 years of being together. I contacted the other woman (that's the nicest I can say about her is that she is a woman) and told her what he ...
A. 23 March 2011: Hon, you are doing exceptionally well. Keep on ignoring all the emails - this woman is really being nasty and doing her utmost to keep you away from the bf.
Can you not change your email address?
Move on with your life, concentrate on y... (read in full...)
I confessed to my wife that I went to porn sites and now she doesn't want anything to do with me
Q. I have problems, my life, sucks and im to blame for it. I messed up the relationship with my wife, and my family. Let me get to the beginning, my wife gave birth of our first and possibly last child a little over a month a go. A boy whome we both ...
A. 23 March 2011: I applaude your honesty when asked by your wife about the porn you watched. And in all fairness I have yet to come across a man who hasnt or doesnt watch porn.
IMHO it is how much porn watching and what you watch that is the problem - if you have... (read in full...)
My boyfriend sometimes leaves the room with his phone, does this mean he is cheating?
Q. Hi all. Something is bugging me. Sometimes (not always, by any means) my bf takes his phone with him when he leaves the room and also leaves it face down, when we are sitting together, watching tv or whatever. I don’t want to mention it to him cos ...
A. 22 March 2011: His behaviour is odd - if he had nothing to hide he would be open about what is on his mobile.
I can understand if he had very important business calls or was consulting regarding a patient, for him to leave the room - but ordinarily - NO he shoul... (read in full...)
I feel like he's had an emotional affair
Q. Hi guys, 2 weeks ago I discovered my bf had a rather intimate relationship with a female friend/work colleague. They did not have sex, but he asked her to send him provocative messages, which is how I found out - through an accidental email...
A. 22 March 2011: Hon, IMHO, this is not his first indiscretion. He has been doing this for a long time, and you have been blissfully unaware.
He will say ANYTHING to convince you that it is over, you are the one for him etc., etc. He will say he is sorry - ... (read in full...)
I have destroyed my own marriage, my life is a mess...all for my lover who refuses to leave her husband. How do I get her to come to me?
Q. All, I have been reading this post for about 6 months now and can see that what I have been involved with is Wrong! However, I found my soulmate in a younger woman and If circumstances were right she would be my wife. Nearly 2 years ago, I met...
A. 22 March 2011: Sorry Hon, but you only have yourself to blame. You are in-lust with the other woman, and she is really enjoying the attention. She has never had any intention of leaving her husband for you.
If she really loved you she would leave her husband ... (read in full...)
Ex says he wants to see me once more and tell me the truth.Should I go?
Q. Your Open Question: What should I do? text my ex bf or not? am really hurt:(? ? ? My ex boyfriend cheated on me, lied to me and dumped me:( he's hurt me so much, I loved him so much and he always told me he loved me. He broke up with me...
A. 22 March 2011: Hon, dont respond to this jerk. He will probably tell you a bunch of lies and make out that his cheating was all YOUR fault!
Ignore him, move on with your life, this guy is just not worth your energy or anymore of your tears!... (read in full...)
I'm on 14 and I'm scared he'll dump me if I don't have sex
Q. I met this guy and we have been going out for a while now. I think I am falling in love with him. He is so good to me and makes me so happy. The thing is he wants to have sex and im not ready for it. I have never done any sex stuff before. I am...
A. 22 March 2011: Hon, if this guy was really into you, he would wait until you are ready to have sex.
To be honest, if he dumps you because you dont want sex, well then sorry to say but hes not worth it. The otherside, is if you do have sex with him, guarante... (read in full...)
He says he cant have a girlfriend, but calls me to take me out, then pulls back again! What is going on?
Q. I've been seeing this guy for about 5 months now but not consistently, he travels a lot for his job which makes it difficult for us to have anything serious. Last month he started taking me out more he even took me out two Fridays in a row, but ...
A. 18 March 2011: Sorry Hon, this sounds like a waste of time relationship. He wants to string you along, keep you keen but wants to do whatever he likes to do.. without you!
Its not a case of he cant have a girlfriend, he doesnt want one because they 'cramp h... (read in full...)
So many excuses, each plausible, but all at once and then holding out on me till the last minute? Is there a message I'm not getting?
Q. My long distance relationship boyfriend (relationship 1 year living together, so far 6 months living in different cities because of work and visiting once a month)seems to either be trying to avoid me, get rid of me, is seeing someone else or he ...
A. 18 March 2011: Why dont you give him a surprise visit?? Then surely you will get the answers you are looking for.
But, in saying that, if he is cheating on you or is no longer that into you, you are going to have to make a decision as to where your life wit... (read in full...)
I cant stand his flirting with other women anymore!
Q. my husband enjoys chatting texting and flirtung with other women. he is not sexually active with them. but he has been doing this from the time we were newly weds. what do i do. i cannot fight anymore for this relationship. the lies and deciets ...
A. 16 March 2011: Hon, he is emotionally cheating on you. Please PM me.... (read in full...)
How long should I wait before I am sure that I have made the right decision to finally divorce my husband?
Q. I have asked my husband for a separation due to the fact that I was hurting so much as a result of his words and actions. We have been married for 13 years. He had 2 emotional affairs; 3 years into our marriage and another one 6 years thereafter. I ...
A. 16 March 2011: Your husband has shown no remorse for what he is putting you through. You need to make a life for yourself and your children, that do not include him.
If you would like to chat more - please PM me.... (read in full...)
After 7 years I still pity his ex-wife
Q. ive been dating to a guy for 7 years. now we are both seperated. The problem is that he still feel guilt about what he had done to his wife and still pity her. Sometimes he wants to be alone to choose between his wife and me. He cant have the ...
A. 16 March 2011: Sorry Hon, if he was going to choose you he would have, a long time ago. He is happy having his cake and eating it too.
He cheated on his wife with you and now he is cheating on you - not a good recipe for a healthy relationship.
Move on with ... (read in full...)
Should I go to my ex's house and tell his family he cheated on me?
Q. What should I do? are my friends right? ? My ex boyfriend cheated on me, betrayed my trust and my love for him. I loved him so much and he hurt me and lied to my face over and over. He told me he doesn't want a relationship and wan...
A. 16 March 2011: The best thing you can do is go on with your life - without him.
Dont listen to his excuses, just go out there and enjoy yourself! Do things for yourself, make yourself look extra good when you go out - sometimes the best revenge is no revenge.... (read in full...)
I hate having sex with him, is this normal?
Q. I hate having sex with my husband,but I still love him even after 13 years of relationship. He was my first and only sex partner...Is that normal? What should I do?...
A. 16 March 2011: What dont you enjoy about your husbands lovemaking? Is he too hasty or doesnt he satisfy you?
Try and identify what is bothering you and either you bring up the subject (very gently) or find a counsellor to assist you.
Need more information... (read in full...)
18 years old, getting married in a few months and questioning it! What should I do?
Q. I have run into a problem. I am a person who can be told not to do this (ex. if you ride that horse, you're going to get bucked off), but I still get on. I always have to learn the hard way. I am at the tender age of 18, and I am engaged and gett...
A. 11 March 2011: If you want to travel and still enjoy yourself, why dont you do it with your bf - you dont need to get married to enjoy yourself.
IMHO you are far too young to get married, you and you bf will change so much in the coming years, rather hold off... (read in full...)
Just out of curiousity....
Q. Can a woman who had a full blown hysterectomy, orgasm? She had the misfortune in her mid 30s. She's now in her early 50s and I'm not sure if she can or she can't. ...
A. 3 March 2011: Yes. Women dont need a uterus to be able to orgasm.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend accessed my facebook account behind my back...and I am mad at him! How do I approach him about this?
Q. oh man, okay. so i've been with my boyfriend for a bit above a year now, and i thought i could trust him more than anything. when i logged into my facebook today it said my account had been accessed by someone in the exact same location as where he...
A. 3 March 2011: I can understand that he has done something to upset you, but maybe he was just curious. Has he shown any signs of not trusting you??? Please remember, people with nothing to hide hide nothing. And if everthing on FB is really so innocent, sur... (read in full...)
Should I tell my best friend how far my boy friend went? He's told his best friend.
Q. my boy friend and I have been dating for over a year, and we are in love. Yes, our relationship has gone all the way, as in sex. I understand he told his best friend, and I trust him too. I want to tell my best friend too, but I am afraid it will ...
A. 3 March 2011: No, you dont need to tell your friend all your secrets. Your bf might have told his friend, but lets face it - that is showing disrespect to you to be discussing his sex life with his friend. So... dont spill all the beans just incase ... (read in full...)
He calls me mean names, says I do not love him. What should I do about my married lover?
Q. I'm in love with a married guy. He has been married for six years and we have been having an affair for five years. He has two children with his wife. but he says that he loves me a lot. i also love him a lot.. i need him. i really need him and ...
A. 3 March 2011: Sweetie, you need to dump this man. He is a user and an abuser. He is only using you for sex, if you were so important to him he would divorce his wife to be with you. This man will say and do anything to keep you as his 'call girl' and his w... (read in full...)
I'm so tired of my selfish man!
Q. Dear Cupid,I have been trying to put some money into a savings account but I think my partner knows and he will do everything he can to prevent this. He's always been controlling,selfish and sneaky. There's been time in our relationship where he ...
A. 24 February 2011: You are in a very abusive relationship - get out now. Grab your stuff and run!!... (read in full...)
I really want this horse, should I go with my gut?
Q. Hello Everyone, I'm hoping to get a horse in June and I have found this gorgeous Mare who is 6 years old. I'm definitely getting a horse in June and I'd love for her to be the one. I haven't ridden in a while but I can build up on it once I get my...
A. 22 February 2011: I suggest that you contact a riding instructor in the area and ask her to give you a lesson on the horse - to see if she is compatible.
Then ask the owners to allow you to come and ride the horse or to allow you to keep the horse at your livery f... (read in full...)
What do you do when a guy only wants you for sex?
Q. hi this is my first time on here, what do you do when a guy only wants you for sex, and leads you on and plays games with your head. idk i think there should be an explanation for this, but im not sure any ideas or opinions???...
A. 22 February 2011: He just wants a 'friend with benefits' - unless you are happy with that kind of a arrangment - rather send him on his way.
Talk is cheap and a guy will say anything to get a girl into bed - so dont fall for his cheap talk. ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend says she can't perform oral sex because she has a sore throat! For 12 months???
Q. Hi - I have been with my girlfriend for about 2 yrs. However, during foreplay (or anytime) she will not perform oral sex on me. She has done on a handful of occasions in the past, and I perform oral sex on her regularly because she enjoys it, just ...
A. 22 February 2011: Maybe she finds oral sex repulsive and is afraid of telling you, are you nice and clean and sweet smelling when you want oral. To be honest nothing is a turnoff more than a man who has not washed/washed properly...
Maybe she was abused in some ... (read in full...)
My husband doesn't show affection and only lets me contact people he chooses
Q. i have known my husband for three years and married just one year. i am entrily fed up of my situation. he used to be romantic and take the time to please me. but now he nearly speaks to me. i am a stay at home housewife. i do everything for h...
A. 22 February 2011: You need to sit your man down and talk to him, tell him how you are feeling, maybe he is feeling a bit overwhelmed by work issues.
Try and find something to interest you, perhaps a job, or charity work, something to occupy your mind.
IMHO it... (read in full...)
I satisfy my husband, but he doesn't satisfy me
Q. Is it fair that I always do oral sex to my husband until he gets to the climax without even asking if I want him to do it to me too or have the real sex either. I don't directly ask him to do it because I feel like he should have known it as a ...
A. 22 February 2011: The only way your man is going to know that he is not satisfying you, is when you tell him!
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I love my husband but want to keep the friendship
Q. i have a vvery good male friend which ive known for 27years. since met and married my husband i have been banned from any form of contact with him. it hurts me so much and i do miss speaking to him. my husband is worried that there will be mo...
A. 22 February 2011: I am on the side of your husband. By you being friends with this ex-lover, you are threatening the sanctity of your marriage.
Your husband is your first priority, and if this guy was such a good friend, explaining to him that knowing him and comm... (read in full...)
Why does she persist with this behaviour when she knows it is a conflict trigger?
Q. What is my wife's game? Hi myself and my wife have been married for 3 turbulent years now. After numerous bust-ups I moved out on new year's eve but am still in daily contact to help out with our 2 children. In the past when we have rowed my wife ...
A. 22 February 2011: You wife sounds like she is insecure, manipulative and abusive.
She needs to get to see a counsellor regarding her anger issues, also how can you possibly think of going back to her when all she does is throw negativity into the relation... (read in full...)
Lack of trust has caused my boyfriend to have tight grip on me!
Q. I'm in a long-distance relationship with someone I truly do care about. We talk about the future, and he makes it clear that the our bond is not about sex. Unfortunately, in the beginning of our relationship, when it began to bud from a friendship ...
A. 22 February 2011: This has the makings of a destructive relationship. Since it is a LDR - time to think about what YOU want.
So we all make mistakes, and it sounds like you have tried very hard to re-build that trust, well face it, it sounds like he will nev... (read in full...)
Does the wife have someone else?
Q. A guy I know talked to me the other day about his relashonship. He said that his wife hasn't slept in the same bed with for six months. He said he hsan't had sex for 2 months. They can't talk to each other. My girlfriend says she thinks that his ...
A. 22 February 2011: I agree with C.Grant - Keep your nose out of his business.
With this man crying on your shoulder - effectively what is happening is he is drawing you into an emotional relationship.
If he really wants to know what is happening with HIS wife HE... (read in full...)
Want to change my birth control
Q. hi all. i want to get rid of my iud because of painful side effects. i would like to get the essure procedure which is permanent. my boyfriend of 4+ years doesnt want me to get the procedure but i dont understand why. we have had numerous talk...
A. 11 February 2011: I am a bit lost here.... who's body is it anyway? YOURS. You have to suffer with the side effects, You have taken the initiative and gotten birth control.
Make an appt with your gynae or healthcare provider and have the IUD removed and then go ... (read in full...)
The last couple of years of my marriage have left me feeling rather depressed, and I wonder if I should take a walk on the wild side with the new guy
Q. I am 30 years old, and have been married to my husband for four years, but with him since I was 19 years old. We do not have any children. We are great friends. The problem has been our sex life. He has forced me to do things that I have not wanted ...
A. 11 February 2011: Sweetie, clearly you are very unhappy and no longer have those loving feelings towards your husband. I suggest that you take a break from BOTH men, give yourself a bit of time before you make a final decision. Do not move into the new guy's... (read in full...)
My LDR boyfriend randomly deleted me from facebook!
Q. Okay, this is weird and very confusing. Im in a LDR with a guy I met new years eve and who works away - 300 miles north - but we keep in touch on facebook. I really, really like him and the time weve spent together has been amazing. Las...
A. 11 February 2011: Ok, bit of a red flag here... he says that he is worried about you cheating.. then he deletes you off FB.
mmm.... I suspect there is more to this than what he is making out.
... (read in full...)
I drink a bottle of wine almost every day. Is this ok?
Q. To make this short and simple I drink a bottle of wine every day, well almost every day!!! is that to much. I dont start drinking in the morning, only at night when my son goes to bed, I contiue to carry on with my life through out the day. I get up ...
A. 10 February 2011: Sweetie, if you are asking if it is okay - then I guess you feel that something is not quite right. Are you able to go without having wine for a couple of nights or has it become a compulsive thing, cant wait for the kids to be in bed so you can h... (read in full...)
He gets SOOO angry! Is this normal?
Q. My boyfriend grabbed my head and slammed it against the door. He said that I wouldn't shut up (we were having an argument) and that because I followed him through the house (I was trying to get him to talk / listen) then I tip him over the edge and ...
A. 10 February 2011: There are two ways this could go, either you can grab your stuff and run for your life.... or...... you can go and pick out your coffin and flowers! This man is going to kill you. Get out now!!!... (read in full...)
I like guys who are protective but my boyfriend goes way over the top
Q. I like lads who look out for me and are quite protective but my boyfriend of over a year is way over the top with it. I love him to pieces but its like its one rule for me and another for him. He demands that I don't see any of my friends (male or ...
A. 4 February 2011: Sweetie this guy is very controlling and manipulative. Unless you want a relationship whereby you have to account for every second of your day, this relationship will not work.
He will browbeat you and destroy your self-esteem because it makes hi... (read in full...)
Does being really good in bed make you a hoe?
Q. The man that I am seeing has constantly accused me of cheating when my loyalty towards him has only been solid and faithful. I believe it is his own insecurities that make him act the way he does at times. Whenever he goes out drinking he tell...
A. 21 January 2011: Sweet, CaringGuy has given you excellent advice.
This man has issues and no matter what you do you will always be verbally abused by him.
Honeygirl... (read in full...)
How do I deal with the death of my child?
Q. I am a mother of three, have just lost our middle child to a seeming suicide. He leaves behind a wife and young son. He was diagnosed as bipolar recently, but chose not to take the medication. He suffered extreme mood changes, highs and lows, and ...
A. 19 January 2011: I cannot offer you any constructive advice as I have never been in the position you now find yourself in.
I just wanted to say that I am sorry you are in such pain.
Have you considered contacting HOSPICE - they have bereavement groups, and they... (read in full...)
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