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... Send *appy140 a private message | | | *appy140's profile:divorced 31 years ago,and have now been married 31 years, 2 young adults (our children) in ther twenties, been thru it all-good times and bad-rich and poor-from nothing to having everything-learning what I tought LOVE was to what it REALLY IS-I have learned that loving someone isn't about yourself, as many believe-it's about the one you love-never marry the one you cannot live without-marry the one you can live with---I reside in MD and have an unrivaled passion for my wife stronger than the day I met her (I thought she was to beautiful to go out with me-but she accepted anyway and she thought I was a foul mouthed ex-sailor)--how? why? why would I even want to?---because she is the part of me that the higher power left for me to find, to help me make myself a better person and a better man!! I love looking at women, all so different,shaply,sexy, some I may look at and think "what a sexy woman" (never thought I want to be single again and to be with "her") but that is far from the norm, I like to admire how hard women work at themselves, in shape (to me men are generically the same rough size and shape), clothes, makeup, etc.. and me, as a typical male, I'm very visual (something most women NEED TO LEARN along with "men need to have sex to cuddle-and a woman needs to cuddle to have sex"--its hard to work out but it does work!) ,she knows that and accepts it becuase she is on the recieving end of that admiration-I just need to be polite about looking--great compromise I think-remember sex is just sex until your married-then you should be able to open up, talk and NEVER NEVER EVER NEVER think "one way" sex is selfish-it's about showing your spouse how much you love making them happy |
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Boyfriend touchy feely! Is it just about sex?
Q. I am with my boyfriend for four years now. He is a very caring person and I love him a lot. But My question is that he is very touchy-feely. Whenever he is with me he cannot keep his hands off me . He never can just hug me or kiss me without trying ...
A. 21 October 2010: Your young and need to understand men a little more. Yes we always want sex and no we do not always expect it or expect you to want it. I am also a touchy feely person. I like the physical contact; it makes me feel closer to the one I am with. ... (read in full...)
Does my husband still love me?
Q. Does my husband still love me? We have been married for 12 years and I feel as though he doesn't love me anymore, he has put himself on chat websites and I just don't know what to think anymore, please help ...
A. 20 October 2010: I know that years ago when I went to chat sites it was because I felt I did not get enough attention from my wife. It was I that was the problem and it took awhile before I figured that out. I chatted to fantasize about other women wanting me. It ... (read in full...)
He doesn't want me to fake it but its killing his self esteem that he can't make me have an orgasm!
Q. So I have slept with 7 men in my life and I have only been able to achieve orgasm without any manual stimulation with one of them. I have actually been sexually active for almost a decade and my first orgasm (even when I was masturbating) wasnt ...
A. 10 October 2010: “I usually fake it, but with the guy I am with now we have talked about it and he is trying EVERYTHING but still nothing. I want to just start faking it again because it is killing his self esteem.”
My feelings are NEVER fake it, it’s a relation... (read in full...)
What does he really want?
Q. I got dumped just about a month ago. There was nothing wrong with our relationship, we got on very well and he did not dump me because of a bad relationship, but because he felt we were very different. He still loves me and meant everything he said. ...
A. 10 October 2010: I think your answer is in asking him. If you feel comfortable ask him why he continues to look at you the way he does if he is not interested. That will put him in a spot to tell the truth or to let you know he already did. It seems some of us ... (read in full...)
Does he think I am going to screw him over like his last girlfriend?
Q. me and my boyfriend are pretty serious :DDD we love each other so much... he is the only one i love... but i tell a lot of my other friends i love them even though i dont i have ever since i was little..he is really bothered by that because his last ...
A. 10 October 2010: Just from personal experience, things my ex did made me a better person but not before I got over entrusting woman. We have feelings and we get just as upset when were hurt as woman do. I personally, and I mean personally-I find it appalling that ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend can't stay hard anymore!
Q. My boyfriend and I have a lot of sex. Every night if we could. We were both eachothers firsts, so of course we're gonna have a ton of sex. For the past 2 or 3 months, he's been having a hard time getting and maintaining an erection, or eve...
A. 5 August 2010: We have periods of that; it is more common than any YOUNG man will admit! At 55 I have learned to accept it now. When I was in my 20’s and just married me also had the same problem. My wife was pissed!! It seemed I could stay hard and orgasm as ... (read in full...)
Wanting a bf, how do I know if this guy is truly interested?
Q. Hi. I'm 18 years old and I'm fairly shy. I've never really had a boyfriend. I know having a boyfriend isn't the most important thing, but when you see the majority of your best friends getting a boyfriend so easily (it seems) it's hard not to be gu...
A. 5 August 2010: Touch—it is the thing I respond to most. Even when talking just a shoulder touch or “fix his collar” or say he has something on his cheek and as you say it “wipe it off with your hand” and if feeling brazen a thigh touch is the clearest sign of ... (read in full...)
What else can I do to please him?
Q. I'm going to try oout some tips on giving my boyfriend a blowjob even though I don't really enjoy it. If this doesn't work, what other ways are there that I can pleasure my boyfriend. Other than handjobs obviously. I dress up a lot for him and we ...
A. 23 June 2010: "To pleasure him" is not always about the sexual contact. The easy access clothes with out underwear both inside and outside the home is great. It allows for feels and that pretty much it (if you stop him or course), the talking through out the ... (read in full...)
Am I overly sensitive or is my wife's behaviour with this friend inappropriate?
Q. I have been avoiding asking this but I am up to my bald spot with this! My wife car pools with a man, about her age, with no one else, just the two of them. Five days a week for 45 minutes to 1 hour 15 minutes EVERYDAY. They meet at our house, (...
A. 23 June 2010: “Do you still want to be with me? Do you still love me or are you questioning our relationship? Tell her you are feeling insecure, if the tables were turned, if it was a girl friend you were spending time with, that you would make sure she was ... (read in full...)
Can pressure on a pubic bone give him similar pleasure as to what I feel?
Q. I have always wanted to know... if this is a good sensation for men as well? So if your going down on a girl and she is about to cum if you press your palm down just above her pubic bone it creates such a fantastic pressure that can create ...
A. 22 June 2010: Your welcome and sex, as you my have noticed is a favorite subjet that I enjoy giving my input on. Since I have a penis I feel qualified for such questions and enjoy know woman have learned something more about men. We are elusive arn't we??... (read in full...)
Burned foreskin, and what do women prefer?
Q. About two months ago I spilled some hot coffee in my lap and I burnt my genitals. Well it was very painful and took some time to heal but it finally healed. The problem I'm having is that I'm not circumcised and my foreskin is very tight. Sex is ...
A. 22 June 2010: Do not get circumsized-Your doctor must have a lot of ducks at his house, if you know what I mean, quack quack. There is a small amount of skin that sometimes stays attached to the penis head. This can be cut as out patient, circumsizem is NOT ... (read in full...)
Does this 'friend with benefits' now want to be exclusive?
Q. Okay here goes nothing!!! For the past two years I have had a friend with benefits. I know I know I should have dodged the dang bullet two years ago when I ran into the guy at a dive bar. One thing leads to another and here I am...two years in and ...
A. 17 June 2010: It seems the one thing some woman does not get is that men CAN AND DO have sex WITHOUT FEELINGS, Look what you have done to yourself, woman cannot have long-term sex without feelings, and you are not wired that way. I am not saying some woman ... (read in full...)
Am I gay or is this a fetish?
Q. i am a young lad an iv always believed i am straight ive slept with quite a few girls an never really questioned my sexuality until the last year or so. it started when i was told by a friend about his girlfriend slipping a finger up his bu...
A. 17 June 2010: Do not let anyone say you are gay! To avoid such stupid comments-keep your sex life private-99% of men say they don't masturbate-liars-I too enjoy watching porn (just amateurs though-seems more like caring sex then the stupid sound track crap-As ... (read in full...)
Can pressure on a pubic bone give him similar pleasure as to what I feel?
Q. I have always wanted to know... if this is a good sensation for men as well? So if your going down on a girl and she is about to cum if you press your palm down just above her pubic bone it creates such a fantastic pressure that can create ...
A. 17 June 2010: YES!-As our organs my be in similar places they run along the same path-The pressure, above my penis, on me anyway, sends mixed feelings all over my groin. I do so enjoy a BJ when she places her hand just above my organ and presses her whole hand ... (read in full...)
He won't tell me the results of his STD check--has he cheated?
Q. Hi all. Do you know when you are with someone and suspect that they are cheating on you but can't prove it?? It is the most frustrating thing ever. I've never been in this situation before, so I don't know if it is just me or if the signs are ...
A. 12 May 2010: ANYONE who holds back that info has something to hide, don't let the "If you loved me you would take my word" crap go. If he was clean he would be happy to show you. The not telling you speaks volumes-You could be changing your entire life having ... (read in full...)
Sometimes I love him, sometimes I don't. What doe this mean?
Q. My boyfriend and I live in different places but are able to spend some time together - more than weekends. Our jobs keep us apart but we have long holiday breaks. When we're together I really love him. I feel like I want to be with him forever....
A. 12 May 2010: First you sound young, hence your indecision. I personally do not think you are in love that is NOT how you feel when you are in love. When your in truly love you have no doubt about marriage or being with him. You may have concerns and the ... (read in full...)
I know he's still sleeping around, but I'm totally infatuated
Q. hello. i was seeing a guy for 2 months, everything was perfect! It was then revealed to me that he had a gf and was sleeping around with other girls..he went on holiday, and when he came back we got close again...last night it was revealed that he ...
A. 24 April 2010: You are a much better person then that! You do not need to live your life in regrets. If NOTHING ELSE, understand that it is possible for him to give you AIDS, Herpes or any other disease. That will, if it happens, change your life very deeply. ... (read in full...)
Married for two years, but we don't understand each other
Q. Have been married for two years but we dont quite undestand each other we fight over nothing and sometimes i feel like we were not meant to be together. please help (MOD NOTE: Text edited for clarity)...
A. 23 April 2010: NEW Couples fight-WHY?? In my wife and I case it was because we didn't know each other intimately-I don't mean sexual I mean we didn't know each other at that deep level where you KNOW your spouse will stop a bullet so you don't get hurt. That ... (read in full...)
Which do women prefer?
Q. I have a question for sexually exspearinced woman...Do woman prefer an uncircumsized male or circumsized? To those woman who have encountered a foreskin, why do most woman pull it all the way down and pretend its not there, is it because you think ...
A. 10 April 2010: Thanks for the responsive females-I have another question-those of you that enjoy foreskins anything different you do to your mans foreskin to highten his pleasure? Wife and I always looking for new ways to pleasure me as well as her.... (read in full...)
How do I deal with an uncircumsized penis?
Q. I am dating an uncircumsized guy for the first time. I never thought I'd be afraid of a penis, but I have no clue what to do with it! I need to know how to give my guy great head. What do I do?...
A. 10 April 2010: I amd uncircumsized (have a foreskin) and I like it pulled up and have the tongue inside and swirled around the head. I also like it nippled on litely with teeth, I like it sucked, not my cock but my foreskin. Most men enjoy watching a woman suck ... (read in full...)
How do you give a hand job to an uncircumsized penis?
Q. this is quite a personal question but i am really desperate to have it answered so i hope someone will be able to. when you give a guy who is uncircumsized a hand job, do you just do it over their foreskin or do you roll the foreskin back or...
A. 10 April 2010: Do not treat it like a circumsized one-why do woman say that??? First test the foreskin, does it slide down past the head?, is so use it to slide above and below the head, the feeling is increadaBLE, iF HE HAS A TIGHT FORESKIN (YOU CAN TELL very ... (read in full...)
Why did she say she remembers how we used to fall asleep at night together cuddling?
Q. So yesterday night my ex and I were talking and randomly she bought up the past between us. She goes "I remembered how we fell asleep together at night cuddling" and I'm thinking oh..boy..i felt like weird after she told me that? I love the girl ...
A. 10 April 2010: She lost something she loves and most woman love. As my wife exsplained it to me she love to cuddle because she likes going to sleep feeling totally secure and protected. Your ex lost that and misses it, she may want to get back to get but I sujust ... (read in full...)
How do I deal with an uncircumsized penis?
Q. I am dating an uncircumsized guy for the first time. I never thought I'd be afraid of a penis, but I have no clue what to do with it! I need to know how to give my guy great head. What do I do?...
A. 10 April 2010: I am an uncircumcized m an-I think the WORST advise you can get is from some of the woman out there-I have read so many answer to this question at other sites and most females sau "pull his foreskin back and treat it like a circumsized one"-That is ... (read in full...)
How can I be his friend now that we have broken up?
Q. My bf recently broke up with me. We had been dating for a little less than a year. I broke up with him a couple of months ago because i felt very disrespected by pictures that i saw of him and my co-worker flirting. I agreed I would see how things ...
A. 1 April 2010: A female reader, AuntyEm--You are correct and I agree with your later comments 100%--While true it is harder for females to become friends after being past the "friends" line has been crossed, I just want us all to know its not always the others ... (read in full...)
Is it appropriate to go to a guys house on a second date?
Q. BIG question...What's appropriate for a first or second date? I went to dinner with this guy for our first date and now, he wants me to come over his house and he admitted that he was really attracted to him and joked we might end up in bed or ...
A. 30 March 2010: Sure as long as you take a friend-other wise NO-you don't even know him yet-has he raped in the past, is he a convict?--never until you know and TRUST him and ALWAYS advise someone where you are with a code word that can be used to say your in ... (read in full...)
I told him I was not stupid when he asked for a loan. Now he wont speak to me, ...did I handle this wrong?
Q. Can someone please help me out. I have been dating this guy that I once dated before. So getting to know each other would not be a deal. We were so happy getting back together. About a week ago his calls and txt messages had stopped. Even when I ...
A. 30 March 2010: Just don't do it--That simple, if hes mad because you won't loan him money, then it isn't love--DON'T DO IT-and know your response could have been handled differently but the resoult should be the same no-you worked for your money -- let him work ... (read in full...)
I told him I was not stupid when he asked for a loan. Now he wont speak to me, ...did I handle this wrong?
Q. Can someone please help me out. I have been dating this guy that I once dated before. So getting to know each other would not be a deal. We were so happy getting back together. About a week ago his calls and txt messages had stopped. Even when I ...
A. 30 March 2010: Just don't do it--That simple, if hes mad because you won't loan him money, then it isn't love--DON'T DO IT... (read in full...)
Oral sex whilst on my period.
Q. My boyfriend wants to go down on me while I'm on my period. I've never let anyone do this. My only concern is, should I show up with or without a tampon?...
A. 30 March 2010: I had a girlfriend once that was so horney during her period, all she wanted was oral sex---our compromise-a fresh tampon, a warm towel that I could wipe her clean with--see wanted her clitoris made love to and not put my tongue inside her-we ... (read in full...)
How can I be his friend now that we have broken up?
Q. My bf recently broke up with me. We had been dating for a little less than a year. I broke up with him a couple of months ago because i felt very disrespected by pictures that i saw of him and my co-worker flirting. I agreed I would see how things ...
A. 30 March 2010: "Its weird isnt it that an answer from a male agony aunt tells you to keep him as a friend and just think about all the good stuff you learned from the relationship and a female agony aunt tells you about how much it hurt her and how hard she had to ... (read in full...)
I'm a thinker and he's a doer. How can we find common ground?
Q. so my boyfriend and i are fighting my point of view- i prefer to just talk and hangout with people when we are at peoples houses to hangout instead of always running around and playing games, i feel as if though that when i want him to sit b...
A. 30 March 2010: I have been married for 30 years, my wife is a socialite, meaning she LOVES to converse and be with people. I on the other hand are a loner so to speak. When out at friends I'd rather look at the way buildings are constructed, how people have solved ... (read in full...)
I have poor body image
Q. So I'm very self consiious of my body (can't even spell it ) and I really want to have sex with my boyfriend. I must admit my vagina is what is the issue seeing as it looks like it could talk to you. Lol I hate it but I keep comeing so close to him ...
A. 27 March 2010: Ah a favorite topic-women will NEVER KNOW (unless they are bi) how different vaginias are-some are tight, some natureally loser than others (NOT IN A BAD WAY!!!), some are longer between the clitoris and vaginia, some have thick lips, some thin, ... (read in full...)
How can I be his friend now that we have broken up?
Q. My bf recently broke up with me. We had been dating for a little less than a year. I broke up with him a couple of months ago because i felt very disrespected by pictures that i saw of him and my co-worker flirting. I agreed I would see how things ...
A. 27 March 2010: My thoughts about ANY relationship is-every single person we meet and have a relationship with (or not) make us who we are personally-you may have argued alot but that is, as odd as it seems is part of the getting to know someone-if it were not for ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend treats me well, but I think I'm starting to like his friend. Please help!
Q. him im 13 me and my boyf have benn together for 3 months he treats me really well but i think im starting one of his friends, he touches me in all the right places and when my boy friend aint lookin we hold hands and he rubs my bum plz hel...
A. 23 March 2010: Always remmber the grass is ALWAYS greener on the other side-your loving that extra attention, we all do. Yes hes doing thing for you now and flirting is always enjoyable, however you don't know him-Your boyfriend you know-Hopefully not intamantly ... (read in full...)
On one hand I am alone and lonely and I do want to have sex. On the other I don't wanna cheat on my husband!
Q. Hi, im a 34 year old married woman. For the past 3 years I am living with my son alone as my husband works in a different city. Recently, a young 20 year old guy moved to my neighborhood. We would occasionally bump into each other and he started ...
A. 23 March 2010: I feel your pain, I truley do. The last answer is so MORALY correct-It really is-I'm in the same boat but I have to look at my beautiful wife everyday, clothed and naked, only to know that sex means a rain check--BEFORE I get bashed about showing ... (read in full...)
Why does he not want his family to know about us? Is he unsure of where the relationship might go?
Q. I've been in an relationship since october 2009. I'm white, and my boyfriend is from Bangladesh. I love him deeply, he's the most amazing person I have ever met, he always makes me laugh,he's so sweet and kind it's almost unbelievable. but i have ...
A. 19 February 2010: A traditional wedding is arranged by Ghotoks (matchmakers), who are generally friends or relatives of the couple. The matchmakers facilitate the introduction, and also help agree the amount of any settlement.
In Bengali Muslim marriages another ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is pregnant with another man's child, and he wants none of the responsibility...so what should I do?
Q. My girlfriend of 3years is pregnant for another man that she just broke up with and he doesnt want any part of the responsibility. waht should i do?...
A. 19 February 2010: run run run----SHES ALREADY A CHEATER- and doesn't even have the commons sense to use protection-know she will coxe you into marring her, adopting the child, devoice you in five years and then you stuck with child support for 18 years... (read in full...)
My wife won't give me a blowjob. She won't even talk about it!
Q. I am in a perfect relationship in every way except for one thing. I adore oral sex - nothing else quite does it for me - but I haven't had a complete blowjob for 3 years. When I first met my wife, she did it every time - she even swallowed. But afte...
A. 19 February 2010: You, my friend have married one of those women who will do anything for the man she wants as a husband, while always keeping in the back of her mind-I will change him! She won't give a BJ and even finish with a HJ-This sounds like a woman who loves ... (read in full...)
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