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Do you think he likes me?
Q. I'm a 13 year old girl and I'm still in public school. Some of my friends think this guy likes me. I'm not gonna say his name. On the first day of school he winked at me. One time in gym class I was just standing in the middle of the gym and he ...
A. 11 December 2007: Be careful with this guy he seems a little odd to me he could just have a huge crush on you but on the otherhand could just be messing with you and acting like this with all the girls, just see where this goes but be careful ... (read in full...)
It wasn't my first time, but it was horrible. Is something wrong with me?
Q. I had sex last night and I didn't enjoy it the least bit. It wasn't my first time. But for some reason it was boring and horrible. It didn't hurt of feel bad, it just didn't feel good. Is there something wrong with me?...
A. 11 December 2007: It might not have been you it could have been him he could have been inexperienced or just bad in bed it happens next time you take control you will enjoy it more ... (read in full...)
My wife masturbates in her sleep - is this normal?
Q. Hi over the past several weeks i have been woken up by my wife masterbating in her sleep. she say she wasnst when i question her about it is this normal or is she wanting somthing...
A. 11 December 2007: She is just dreaming thats all, do you remeber all of your dreams? No? Well she probably doesnt remeber hers either dont worry its just dreaming im sure sshe will stop in time ... (read in full...)
Should I invite her to the party?
Q. My ex split with me at the beginning of November. She wanted freedom at uni but she still cares about me. We text every now and then as friends but I really miss her and love her. I don't know how she feels. Anyway, it's my birthday tomorrow...
A. 11 December 2007: Just invite her your worrying over nothing she might be busy or not turn up because she might feel awkward but i garuntee if you dont ask her that will be the end of your friendship and the end of hoping whether you will get back together.... (read in full...)
Does he hate me? Did I do something wrong?
Q. There is a guy I met this summer, he was just so amazing. At first he annoyed me with several of his childish gestures. But I dealt with it. We appologized to eachother then became friends, sorta. The last night at the camp, he opened up to me a ...
A. 11 December 2007: He felt embarressed because he fell thats all, just give him a lil time and space and then continue as normal he may be avoiding you because he might have a crush on you or be trying to sort how he feels out just give him some space ... (read in full...)
He's a two-faced hypocrite. How do I deal with it?
Q. I don't know whether my bf is bad or if its all my fault. I am 18 years old, my bf and i have been together for 7 months. At first our relationship was great, i felt so happy...but things have changed now... My bf says that if I leave him, kno...
A. 11 December 2007: Right look at all our replies look what they all say leave him and you know what do it! He says nobody will want you because he wants you to believe it so you dont leave him but you can do better there are millions of guys out there and you can do ... (read in full...)
We're both confused - what do we do?
Q. My boyfriend of over a year totally just dropped off the face of the earth, he does not return any of my phone calls or texts. He has depression issues where he has done this for a few days or so, this is the longest i am really worried or has he ...
A. 11 December 2007: Right ok well this is complicated he wants space but your ringing and texting him and not giving him space to breathe, so lets make it easy for him send him a text or leave a message saying "i dont know whats going on and im confused so when you ... (read in full...)
How do I overcome being sexually frustrated whilst trying to build up his confidence?
Q. I am married to a computer geek who is afraid of intimacy (it's hard for him to tell 'i love you', he'd rather fill up my gas tank.) He also developed a sexual disfunction a few months into our relationship, retarded ejaculation, and because of it ...
A. 11 December 2007: Your doing everything for him your looking after his needs trying to be there for him while he sorts out his problems, correct me if im wrong but its all about HIM what about you your needs? You need to get the message across that there are 2 people ... (read in full...)
I don't want anything heavy. What's the advice?
Q. Hey met a girl off the internet twice now she lives a while away but i love her and she loves me genuinely just when i get train home from meeting her it hurts real bad and i miss her like crazy the thing is i wana go travelling in couple of years ...
A. 11 December 2007: Tell her exactly what you want but do it nicely tell her you want to take it slow and see what happens just be honest with her ... (read in full...)
Can a penis be too big to fit in?
Q. is there a possibility that the penis doesnt fit in a girl's vagina because its too big??...
A. 11 December 2007: Yes it can be to big but it just means you have to use more lube and make sure she is really relaxed ... (read in full...)
I have had a rough year
Q. I want to know what people think of the year I've had (relationship-wise); it would be interesting for me to find out: It all started very well in January when I was going out with a girl who lived in Yorkshire, but after 2 months, she chea...
A. 11 December 2007: Wow your 2007 is nearly as bad as mine this might make you feel better, january found out my ex of 3 years posted dirty pics of me all over a webiste also found out when i moved back home that he had sold loads of my stuff, then 3 months later found ... (read in full...)
The Cure For All Spots
Q. Girls and guys, in your teenage life I know how annoying spots can be they make you look uglier, they are irritating, make up cannot always cover them and sometimes they really hurt... The good way to deal with these problems is not to have spot...
A. 11 December 2007: Ok i do have to put my input in as a beauty therapist and a skin specialist to be honest this method might work i dont know but the best way to get rid of spots is a good skin routine, cleanse,tone moisturise every day, a cleanser opens the pores ... (read in full...)
Should I have let my older boyfriend fondle me? It made me unconfortable, but was I just being childish?
Q. I'm a female. I have a boyfriend called Ricky (not real name)he is 24 and i am 16 (i know big age gap but he and i get along really good). We ain't made out yet but he wants to. I went to rick's house when his parents were out somewhere and we did...
A. 11 December 2007: If your not ready your not ready its as simple as that DONT EVER DO ANYTHING YOU DONT WANT! He should respect you and not do anything you dont want and not be mean about it, if this keeps happening and h doesnt respect your boundaries and tries to ... (read in full...)
What kind of sex toys should I get my wife for christmas?
Q. Hi With Christmas almost upon us I wanted to get my wife a new sex toy. She is sick of our current toys, balls vibes etc. She likes to use them when I am away. anyone any ideas? ...
A. 11 December 2007: Take her out to a sex shop and let her chose what she would like best ... (read in full...)
He wants to leave me for his male friend!!! How do I deal with this?
Q. On Saturday a good friend of mine told me she'd seen my husband in a restaurant with my best friend's husband - and that what she saw was disgusting. She said she'd seen the two of them in a restaurant having a romantic meal and overheard them s...
A. 11 December 2007: Let him go its the only thing you can do he has been living a lie hiding his sexuality and now its time for him to be true to his self, i know this is going to be hard and take a long time to come to terms with but now you can move on and live your ... (read in full...)
Can my girlfriend get pregnant from me fingering her with sperm on my fingers?
Q. Can my girlfriend get pregnant from me fingering her with sperm on my fingers?...
A. 11 December 2007: It is unlikely but it can happen so make sure you wash your hands first ... (read in full...)
I met a great girl but she has just discovered she's pregnant by her ex. Should I support her or break up?
Q. I just recently met a great girl and I connect with her like I never have with any other girl and we really really like each other.. but she just recently found out she is pregnant from her ex. it happened about a month ago before she met me. should ...
A. 11 December 2007: Its up to you if you can see a future with her and can look after her child knowing it isnt yours then go for it.
But if you cant see this going any where and dont want to support her and help raise her child then leave.
It just depends on ... (read in full...)
Swallow or not? Pros and cons please!
Q. Ok, this area REALLY worries me - Blow-jobs!! Firstly, do you have to swallow after giving a blow-job? Secondly, would anyone think less of you if you didn't? What is it like? And finally, is it actually a good thing to do?...
A. 10 December 2007: If you dont like the taste dont a guy isnt gonna complain if you dont swallow or let him come in your mouth he will just be enjoying what your doing, i personally dont like guys coming in my mouth hate the taste and the texture but i know people who ... (read in full...)
40, married 20 years, and I'm not enjoying the life I have now. What can I do?
Q. I have been married for 20 years. I have 2 children -19 and 17. At the beginning of our relationship we had a lot of money problems and had 2 houses repossessed and he was abusive towards me - he has the stitches from where I ducked and his fist ...
A. 10 December 2007: Right gewt a lawyer pack your bags get your kids and go you dont need this and you know you dont so what ya waiting for GO! ... (read in full...)
My husband of 7 years asked me to put my finger in his butt during sex... Does that make him gay?
Q. My husband of 7 years ask for me to put a finger in his butt when i go down on him and his favorite position is doggy style does this make him gay?????...
A. 10 December 2007: He isnt gay the fact he is still having sex with you should prove he isnt, he is just trying something new experimenting so dont worry ... (read in full...)
How do I get out of this nightmare relationship?
Q. Im stuck in a hopeless 'relationship' with no way out and its making me feel so down. A few months ago i met a guy, we were chatting on the internet and decided to meet. After our first date though he text me and said he doesnt want a relation...
A. 10 December 2007: Ok you want out he is driving you barmy and breaking it off makes him become obsessive, so change your email address myspace and your number its extreme yeah but sometimes you just got to make a clean break, or if that isnt a good idea tell him your ... (read in full...)
What would be best for me?
Q. i am with my boyfriend over 4 months I really love him but he promises not to go and rob car radios and he still does when he is drunk only. and stabbed my ma's fella wit a glass bottle when he was drinking and on antiboiotics he never hit me do you ...
A. 10 December 2007: Run like hell girl get the hell outa this relaitionship he is never going to change and he will only end up hurting you end it now! ... (read in full...)
I made a mistake - how do I get out of this?
Q. hi. About 2 months ago, i misunderstood what my female flatmate said about my other male flatmate. I took it in a negative way and went and told my male flatmate what she was saying behind his back. Today, however, it has all come out into the open, ...
A. 10 December 2007: Ok what i would do is sit them down togethewr and tell them exactly what you thought and apologize for taking it the wrong way and to make it upo to them cook them a nice meal as way of an apology ... (read in full...)
I talked to a boy from a fake account created for other purposes - and we fell in love, but he didn't know I was a boy! How can I make this right?
Q. Dear Cupid, I am a 17 year old male and I have done a terrible thing, something that I deeply regret and am ashamed of. About a year ago, a friend was having problems with her boyfriend and wanted to find out if he was cheating on her. So to c...
A. 9 December 2007: Ok your not going to like my reply and im not going to be horrble im just going to say what i think.
So first things first you made a mistake and you got hurt thats what happend when you lie you deceived him in a bad way and now he is hurt bec... (read in full...)
Should I tell him I am a virgin before we have sex or simply don't mention it?
Q. I have been going out with a guy recently but it is the first proper relationship I have been in. Therefore, I am still a Virgin. When the time comes, is it a good thing to tell the guy you are a Virgin before you have sex or should I just leave ...
A. 9 December 2007: I would tell him so he is prepared and doesnt rush you into anything and so he is gentle ... (read in full...)
My ex says I kept bringing him down.
Q. My ex says that I bring him down because he loves me so much but I constantly complain about the things he does that hurt me. I think of myself as a pretty positive person, but I broke up with him because he never respected me and the times I was ...
A. 9 December 2007: Tell him to grow up get a life and leave you alone your exes for a reason tell him to accept it and move on ... (read in full...)
How often should I change my pad?
Q. I just got my first period 3 days ago i was wondering how often should i change my pad?...
A. 9 December 2007: Its resally whenever you need to in all honesty just go to the toilet and check if you need to change it, how often you change it depends on how heavy or light the flow is ... (read in full...)
My gf has a habit of hiding her arms during sex or when it's hot - probably covering old signs of self-harm. How do I talk to her about this?
Q. My girlfriend has this wierd thing about covering up her arms, even when it's really hot and during sex she always wants the light off or be under the covers. I thought she was shy about her body at first so i told her i didn't care what she looked ...
A. 9 December 2007: When she is ready to tell you she will tell you self harming can be very hard to talk about with partners you just have to wait till she is ready to talk to you about this but dont push her just accpet that her scars are her battle scars memories of ... (read in full...)
Should I be worried that my dad watches porn? I don't think it's fair on my mum!
Q. Dear cupid, I recently discovered that my forty-six year old dad has been watching porn on the internet. I accidently walked in on him one time and saw briefly images of naked women on the screen. As soon as he saw me, he quickly closed the lapto...
A. 7 December 2007: You dont need to worry about this men watch porn whether the single or married its just one of those things so dont worry about this my dad does it and he has been married 25 years ... (read in full...)
How can I overcome my fear of rejection?
Q. dear cupid i seem to have a major problem in asking girls out and cant seem to get myself to. i seem to have this fear of not being good looking (chek out myspace n tell me you think myspace.com/mohamed1991, but plz dnt post nothing ther if ...
A. 6 December 2007: I dont know who tells you that you ugly but there either blind or jealous! Your just not confident because people keep knocking you down you have to learn to love yourself before you start relationships.
Practice talking to girls in school o... (read in full...)
Should I let him know how I feel or will this ruin our friendship?
Q. I have been friends with a guy for approximately 15 years, when we first met we did have a little thing going but he broke it off because he didn't want to get between me and the guy I was seeing. It ended we remained quite good friends, through ...
A. 6 December 2007: Tell him dont risk losing something that coud be amazing dont be afriad, if he rejects you tell him how you feel but also make sure if he doesnt feel the same that nothing changes between you.
Take a chance take a risk or regret it for the rest... (read in full...)
I have just had a mental blockage and cannot remember what I learned in preparation for the GCSE. Please help.
Q. i am very seriously worried i have my gcse examinations on mondai i am sudying 15 subjects and i am a higher teir student meanin i expected to get a-C grades i have jus had a mental block i cannot think of anything or remember what i learned ...
A. 6 December 2007: Ok ok calm down and breathe (i gotta say ur GCSE'S are early you sure there not mocks?)Your panicking and making it worse it will all come back to you dont panic and you have time to study, information just doesnt vanish it will come back but i ... (read in full...)
Helppp what do I do ?
Q. I'm 16 and this boy is 17. Theres this boy and we started of being best friends . Then we got close and hugged a lot and saw each other loads . Real sweet, then a couple of days ago , we had sex and afterwards he said he'd call me but i didn't get a ...
A. 6 December 2007: Sweetie you need to sit down with him and ask what the hell is going on get him to tell you how he feels tell him how you feel.
But if he doesnt want to do that and things arnt back to normal them im afriad i think you have been used.... (read in full...)
How do I get rid of stretch marks?
Q. dear cupid is their any way to get rid of stretch marks, as i have lost a bit of weight,(man boobs still visible), but what turns me down is that whenever i pull my shirt up to show people the weight i lost, the stretch marks are always their, pu...
A. 6 December 2007: Well dont on the weight loss.
Hate to tell you this but you cant get rid off them but intime they do fade and arnt as visible dont waste money on products just accept th fact they are there but in time wont be so visible.... (read in full...)
He didnt include me in his statement about family. He put me separate and I am hurt. Am I being oversensitive?
Q. This question is to all the boyfriends out there...if you are truthful and honest to your girlfriend, and you really love her, wont u say she's a part of your family? My boyfriend didnt do that. We were at a cookout that his friend was having. And ...
A. 6 December 2007: Be proud of the fact he wuld go to war for you! He probably doesnt count you as family because your not,your his girlfriend thats it your not his wife or fiancee just his girlfriend, and he probably wanted to make you feel special by saying my girl ... (read in full...)
I say "no" when asked out cos I don't know how to snog!
Q. hey im 14 years old girl lot of lads keep askin me out n i keep sayin no just because i dont know how to snog..... im realy need a help with this........
A. 6 December 2007: Huni it comes really naturally nobody knows how to do it till you give it a try just makes sure you dont bump heads or bash teeth it really does come naturally but dont get pressured into it dont do it if you dont want to. ... (read in full...)
I am totally in love with my gf but last night I slept with another girl.
Q. Hi, I have been going out with my girlfriend for about 4 months and am absolutely in love with her. However, last night I kissed another girl and stayed the night in that girls bed but it wasn't really a one night stand, im feeling attracte...
A. 5 December 2007: You say you love your girlfried but have feelings for another girl you stayed the night with, well you cant have your cake and eat it so choose, your girlfriend who you say you love but cheated on or a new girl who you have feelings for, eiher way ... (read in full...)
I love to flirt on chat rooms, and send naughty pictures, but its all harmless, my husband doesn't agree, should I dump him?
Q. Could anyone tell me on whether chatrooms are addictive? Am i being fair to carry on in these if my husband has caught me sending photos of my bits to lads? Its simply nothing but harmless flirting and fun,so I enjoy sex talk. Not only that but when ...
A. 5 December 2007: Hmmmm husband, chatroom, husband,chatroom. Well i know which one i would choose the one where there is a future! I know you dont see it as cheating but to him and most people it is sending pictures and talking about sex to other guys is just what ... (read in full...)
This older guy is ignoring my texts and emails...I'm so confused!
Q. Hi, i'm struggeling with a guy!!! I'm not with him but i think that he is my soul mate!!!! i love every bone in his body and i want to look after him!He isn't sure if he wants a relationship right now. There is a large age gap between us i'm 20 and ...
A. 5 December 2007: Remember the saying treat em mean to em keen? Well your doing the opposite, stop texting and calling him let him think you have forgotten him and see what happens its more then likely he will ring you instead... (read in full...)
What do you think about my husband's leaving because I was not able to bear a pregnancy?
Q. i am 36, i am not capable of bearing a child anymore for a uterus problem. my husband had left me for another woman for a reason that he wants to have a child. do you think he didn't love me anymore because he exchange me for a reason to have a ...
A. 4 December 2007: What a nasty insensitive man leaving you because you cant have children how selfish has he not heard of surrgacy or adoption, darling your much better off without him dont waste another minute thinking about him and his shallow ways... (read in full...)
We both have properties, if I move with her I'd have to sell what I own, is it not too big of a risk? What should I do?
Q. Been in a relationship for a year, and now, I need to decide whether I want to take it further by moving in with my partner. She's not interested in getting married, owns her own house. I also own a house, but if I move in, I will have to sell what ...
A. 4 December 2007: Why dont you rent out your home atleast if things dont work out you still have your own place. Or both sell up and take the risk of both getting a house together
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