I just want to know that I am sane. He made me feel crazy
Q. I have posted about this particular man some years back. I met this European man on a dating website. For almost 4 years of whatsapp messages, we have only video called on Skype twice, the first video call was both our ideas and the second video ...
A. 29 April 2019: So nobody really answered my question here. My actual question was is it too much to ask for a call from someone you intend to have a relationship with? I only ask this because I read articles online where people said they experienced the same thing ... (read in full...)
Something's not right with my mother and I'm very worried about her mental health
Q. I think my mother has ADHD,I'm no professional so I may be wrong in diagnosing her but something is definitely not right..she's a wonderful mum but I'm starting to feel very frustrated with our relationship, I apologise in advance if this is long ...
A. 1 July 2018: Your mum is showing signs of dementia.... (read in full...)
I'm dating a 48 year old man who lives in utter filth and doesn't know what he wants from life
Q. I've Been seeing a 48 year old man for about 5 weeks now. He is not physically attractive in anyway. I looked past all this because I am actually pursuing a serious relationship and my criteria isn't based on looks. It would help but doesn't matter. ...
A. 18 April 2018: Just to clarify somethings. I wrote this in the heat of my anger. Yes, I might be desperate to settle down but he is a very gentle and kind man. Both of us are actively seeking a real long term relationship but I guess i can't imagine being stuck ... (read in full...)
My family wants me to forgive our dying father for the abuse but I can't!
Q. Am I a demon for not caring that my dad is dying from cancer and i want nothin to do with it or him or those who care about it. I've posted about my dad with other accounts which I have deactivated. So I would just give a summary of what he did. ...
A. 31 January 2018: Thank you all for your comments including the ones I don't agree with because my mind is fixated. But i was under a lot of pressure to call him which I did. But the call ended abruptly and I called back once, there was no response. I was glad and I ... (read in full...)
My family wants me to forgive our dying father for the abuse but I can't!
Q. Am I a demon for not caring that my dad is dying from cancer and i want nothin to do with it or him or those who care about it. I've posted about my dad with other accounts which I have deactivated. So I would just give a summary of what he did. ...
A. 30 January 2018: It was a mental and physical abuse. Mostly mental anyway... (read in full...)
I'm in a seemingly perfect relationship but part of me really wants to be single..
Q. I'm having a bit of a dilemma. I've been with my boyfriend for 5 years, since I was 17 and he was 16, and we really do love and care for each other. On paper, everything is great. We have had an amazing relationship, but lately I have been wanting ...
A. 22 November 2017: Your relationship has run its course. This happens in long term relationships. ... (read in full...)
If I was happy, I wouldn't have had cybersex with the guy online. Anyone got advice? Should I tell my bf about what I did?
Q. I became friends with this guy online. The conversations started off as topics about forums (met on a forum so) memes, YouTube, just general Internet stuff really. However, it slowly got a little flirtatious, and last night, I was drinking and we ...
A. 6 February 2017: The first thing you need to do is leave your boyfriend. I am talking from experience. Run run run as fast as you can. If you don't take this advice, the moment you realize you néed to leave, it might be late and filled with regret.
Are you scar... (read in full...)
He lacks a stable job and a career so I'm breaking up with him. Am I not openminded?
Q. Dear Cupid, I've put a lot of consideration into this and I've decided to break up with my boyfriend. It's not that we don't get along - we get along rather well and have a great time together. He is positive I will be his future wife and has info...
A. 22 January 2017: You made a wise decision. I just broke up with my boyfriend of almost 3 years. He has no prospects and lives with his parents while I on the other hand have done somethings for myself. He's waiting on nature to assist him. His hobby is running ... (read in full...)
I always fear something bad is waiting for me
Q. Hey all! I have a dog of 2 years. I love her like a baby and so does my family. Sometimes I just watch her sleeping and worry about how long she will live. I want her to complete the 15 year mark and don't want to lose her young- of course if I h...
A. 9 January 2017: This just took me back to memory lane. I lost my male lhasa apso last yearand everyday has been a living hell for me. I wake up everytime suddenly in shock calling his name and thinking about him.
Your post is something I would have written ... (read in full...)
He wants me to be his accountability partner!
Q. I write articles online and some commenters are allowed to message me on an anonymous mail for private conversations. My type of articles are centred around happenings in everyday life and the struggles faced by youths but I'm in no way an expert...
A. 6 January 2017: I have to clarify some things. @you wish, not internet porn. He told me he needed someone to be accountable for in his long-term goals, who goes through his daily plans and monitors his progress. He has a loan he wants to obtain. and according to ... (read in full...)
Can this become my best option? I want to cut my entire family off from my life completely
Q. I want to cut my entire family off from my life completely. I come from a very large polygamous family but we're so divided that every part of the whole is like on its own niche. I don't talk to my step neither do they talk to me. I only keep co...
A. 2 January 2017: Thank you all for your comments.
@slippers, I apreciate the fact that you said "we are always here for you". Thank you.... (read in full...)
My long-lost love has contacted me after 40 years but I'm in a relationship and he's married
Q. A love from 40 years ago contacted me on my birthday via e-mail. We have been sending e mails back and forth for a week. Now I am dying to call him but I am afraid because I am with a relationship. He is married. We went separate ways because ...
A. 22 August 2016: Yes, please stop calling him. Don't be a second wheel.... (read in full...)
I really do want to stop hurting my husband and my lover's wife. But how can I stop?
Q. If you want to judge, please stop reading this right now. I need advice, not lectures. I have been married for nearly 20 years now, no kids. I have never felt the need to seek fulfillment elsewhere since me and my husband have been truly happy...
A. 20 August 2016: Firstly, to be married for 20 years is a really longtime. Your husband had the best part of your years.
Now, let me say this. I am not an advocate of cheating or being cheated upon but I do not believe the human was wire to be a life term partner ... (read in full...)
Why do I keep running into cheap dudes?
Q. Why do I keep running into men that are cheap,they always want something for nothing? I've ran into plenty of guys who want to use me for sex but then if I need something they won't have my back. Like why should I give u what u want but you can't ...
A. 5 August 2016: I have read most of the comments here and I am happy we are in the same age bracket and I would happily advise you because I am where you are going through the same thing. From your post, many of the commenter here have misquoted you. You only as... (read in full...)
My ex has changed so much since our break up and it really disturbs me
Q. Me and my boyfriend broke up a couple of months ago now due to the fact he didn't want a relationship. Since, we have occasionally met up and spend time together which we should not of.. As it only continued to hurt me, not bother him. He has ...
A. 4 August 2016: Stop bothering about the unimportant.... (read in full...)
Is my premise possible? Is it decent folks, who try to live right, who are the people who get screwed over?
Q. Maybe it's because I am feeling really low these days- but increasingly feel that it's the decent folks and the ones who try to live right that get screwed over. The lying, cheating, selfish ones live peacefully. How come?...
A. 2 February 2016: Evil men will never know peace as long as there is karma.... (read in full...)
Did my boyfriend intend to send this email to another woman?
Q. I have a very big problem and it's been eating away at me for the past few hours but it's been ongoing. I know the fine people of DC will be able to provide me with the best possible advice and that is why I am here reaching out to you. My boyfri...
A. 11 January 2016: Jeez, pls you need to relax. You are either over protective or overly jealous. You really need to relax woman before you cause problems for yourself and your relationship. ... (read in full...)
Do all girls just want to play games when it comes to dating?
Q. I was having dinner with my guy friends last night, and we were sharing recent dating experiences. Two of us are in our early 30s and the other guy his late 30s. As we shared our stories, a common theme emerged - we were tired of people playing ...
A. 8 January 2016: No. I personally don't play games. You are probably hanging out in the wrong location. ... (read in full...)
Do I let a work collegeague know that her fiance is cheating on her?
Q. I've come across something quite disturbing and need some advice please. Last weekend I was on a hen party spa weekend with my friends. We went to this beautiful hotel which also had a spa and was a 2 hour drive from our town. Whilst we were ...
A. 8 January 2016: You are the light in this darkness. Please tell her. ... (read in full...)
I'm 25 never had a boyfriend - how do I start?
Q. I am a 25 year old female who is pretty independent. I constantly feel different from my peers, because I'm just not similar in certain personality aspects. I have never had a boyfriend. This has never mattered to me until about a year ago when I ...
A. 6 January 2016: I will never advice you to go online dating in this your current situation. ONLINE DATING SUCKS. I used to think I was the only one who has never had a bf. Okay mine is a little different but I would share. I have dated 3 guys all of whom I never ... (read in full...)
What does a guy have to do to lose his virginity?
Q. What does a guy have to do to lose his freaking virginity? I've posted here a lot and I have taken everything I've been told to try and it just doesn't seem to work for me. I'm going to be 23 in April! I know I've made mistakes like going to a ...
A. 6 January 2016: It seems to me you are bowing to peer pressure. From your post, you keep on insinuating how everyone around you is not a virgin and how you seem ashamed to tell your friends you are still a virgin.
Firstly, why do you want to have sex? That sho... (read in full...)
I am feeling like a failure at sex with big butt women!
Q. My ex and I have been on and off for quite sometime. In the beginning of our relationship she was petite, and when we would have sex she would complain that she couldn't handle me because of my size (I'm not saying that I'm the biggest in the ...
A. 6 January 2016: You are complaining about nothing really. Get your self another girl.... (read in full...)
Does he love me even if he hasn't taken me to his place?
Q. I have bn with my bf for 3 months now and he has a two year old daughter. I jst recently discovered his ex was pregnant and he admited. He stil chose to be with me bcoz of the love we share but my concern is I have never been to his house. He has bn ...
A. 24 December 2015: Why do you want so much baggage? Just because of the warm feeling in your chest doesnt meant you genuinely love him. Please move on. Sounds to me like your feelings are on the spur of the moment. Please move on.... (read in full...)
I can't imagine trusting someone enough to have sex.
Q. I'm 17, a virgin, and I believe myself to be somewhere on the asexual spectrum. I have what I believe is a low sex drive compared to what I've heard from my friends. I think at some point I'd like to have sex but honestly it really doesn't matter to ...
A. 20 December 2015: Honestly, you don't need to be open before some people would know that you are not ready to have sex. I am telling you this because it happened to me. I had body image issues at your age, never felt sex was important, had and still have trust ... (read in full...)
Overwhelmed by gift house and don't know what to do
Q. Please can i get some advice! What I'm about to write may seem like I'm being ungrateful but I'm not. My fiancé and I have been together 6 years and were currently looking to buy our 1st house together. We both have decent enough jobs...
A. 19 December 2015: Yes you are overreacting. Isn't this a family you want to be a part of soon. Seems to me you have trust issues. They bought it for you and your fiance. Pls stop discussing it around with people and enjoy your living.
Not many peoplec have such wond... (read in full...)
I really felt we had a connection. But he blocked me. What can I do now?
Q. Hello guys basically a few weeks days ago I was contact by another guy I really felt a connection. He was jaw droppingly hot to we exchanged some photos none were saved as it was on snapchat and the photo is deleted after 10 seconds and will inf...
A. 19 December 2015: Please leave him alone. Move on. ... (read in full...)
When will I finally get over the breakup?
Q. So, you have been recently dumped. You had to dump someone else. Maybe you're still in the "no contact" phase after the breakup. Months or years have passed. There is still an ache in your heart for that person. Sometimes it overtakes you ...
A. 13 December 2015: Omg, wisely said. I had to come back to reread the whole thing. Your post touches every aspect. Thank you so much for being on this forum to help people with your blessings.... (read in full...)
I'm holding out for Mr. Perfect but my friends are beginning to pressure me
Q. Hi. I am single, educated girl. I didn't have any bf not in my highschool,not in college not now either. I am a virgin. I always read and fascinate about true love and all those poetic imagination. But I didn't like any guy I met till this date. I ...
A. 13 December 2015: I want to give wiseowlE an applaude for his comment. I think he has said it all. One thing you should know is never go into a relationship because of peer pressure. You will just end up dating so many guys that you have nothing in common with. Go... (read in full...)
Why can't he tell me what's wrong?
Q. Hi I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years at first everything was good n we got on really well we still don't argue now, but he's changed. He always seems very quiet and bad tempered lately which he never used to be. The affection and everything ...
A. 12 December 2015: If you have been with him for 3 years, I do not see why you cannot FIRMLY ask what is wrong. You have to stand you ground when asking him. You shouldn't just let him keep on saying no.
Sometimes I find it hard when we women cannot ask our part... (read in full...)
I'm finding her persistent acne a turnoff
Q. I don't want this this to come off the wrong way, but I need some help. I love my fiancée and we have a great relationship. I'm physically attracted to her but I find myself turned off a lot because of her acne issues. She's dealt with rea...
A. 10 December 2015: I would suggest she changes her diet because I know most severe acne cases were solved from diet change and also she could try acutane but I heard it might or might not work and has severe effect such as depression, sucidial thoughts, etc. But if ... (read in full...)
Should I confess all to my husband or should I not?
Q. I really need some advise without being judged because my guilt is turning into depression and I really don't know what to do at this point.I cheated on my husband with our neighbor. It all stems from a few months ago when my husband and I we...
A. 7 December 2015: From what you have said. You do not seem to be in a healthy relationship with your husband at the moment. Telling him will only justify his accusations and insults. He is not going to reason with you.
Please do not tell him.... (read in full...)
I'd rather forgo a single night of pleasure for a month of groceries
Q. Hello cupids, I met a guy on facebook for after 4 years of friendship on facebook. 2 years of stalking from him and 2 years of him letting me know he is amongst my thousands of friends on facebook. While I was on holiday in chicago two year...
A. 6 December 2015: @anonymous, I wasn't unrealistic on my facebook post. I come from a priviledged family and just post pictures like everyone does of how they dress, eat travel and all but since I decided to move out on my own, I haven't been so rich and it's better ... (read in full...)
I'd rather forgo a single night of pleasure for a month of groceries
Q. Hello cupids, I met a guy on facebook for after 4 years of friendship on facebook. 2 years of stalking from him and 2 years of him letting me know he is amongst my thousands of friends on facebook. While I was on holiday in chicago two year...
A. 6 December 2015: Pls permit the errors in my post. I was typing too fast. I meant groceries not groceried.... (read in full...)
Is it appropraite for a guy to bring two of his friends on a first date with a girl?
Q. Is it appropraite for a guy to bring two of his friends on a first date with a girl? I met a guy for the first time on a proper date and he brought two of his male friends like a group date. I told him off straight. I am so angry. Is this even right ...
A. 14 August 2015: Thank you honeypie. It was first a meeting at a bar then dinner and more drinks.... (read in full...)
I don't know if I am lesbian gay or straight and I'm really confused!
Q. I can't handle not knowing for sure anymore, am I bisexual or straight? I have been attracted to boys since I was 3, not in a sexual way obviously, and I am 17 turning 18 in a couple months now. I've never had feelings for girls, in a romantic way ...
A. 10 August 2015: Ok let me explain this to you. I have a similar issue, I get turned on by women but I have always been attracted to guys. This also confused me too and made me feel like I was a lesbian. To be honest, I just think that is what turns you on. You're ... (read in full...)
How am I supposed to act when a male friend sends me unwanted pics of his privates?
Q. Hello Agony aunts. My first question is what do we say or do about friends that send pictures of their privates to their female friends. I remember the first time my very close friend did that to me, I severed all contact with him. I was ...
A. 10 August 2015: Thank you all.... (read in full...)
How can I be the partner she deserves, when my mind is still filled with thoughts of my ex?
Q. I came out of a tumultuous 2-year relationship only a handful of months ago. I loved her so incredibly much, but we were constantly breaking up and getting back together (never once was it my decision to split) over petty, insignificant fights, ...
A. 26 January 2015: I have been in the exact position you are in right now. I loved a guy for two years and it took me 3 years together over him making it a total of 5 years. In the space of this three years(still hurting over this guy), the guys I dated, I never loved ... (read in full...)
I can't give girlfriend a vaginal orgasm and it upsets me!
Q. hi, my girlfriend of 8 months has had 15 previous 'lovers' compared to my 2, and she slipped up to day when we were talking about orgasms, she said she has had a vaginal orgasm but not with me, i can make her orgasm through the clitoris no problem ...
A. 26 January 2015: First of all, current research shows there is no such thing as a vaginal orgasm. Orgasm can only be achieved through the stimulation of the clitoris. I would suggest you try different positions and see which ever arouses your partner. Goodluck... (read in full...)
Should I spend all my money to move out (and become broke), or wait for my dad to give me money?
Q. I want to thank everyone here that adviced me in the past. I was previously anonema but forgot my password so I had to create a new account. Your words really made me take a different approach towards handling certain situations in my life. I have...
A. 23 January 2015: sorry, I meant to say appreciate. In the next two years this area I intend buying a land would become very developed and expensive and the value of the acual purchase would even multiply before the year runs out. This has always been my dream. I do ... (read in full...)
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