She lied and told me she was a virgin, the truth came out while drinking
Q. Dear cupid, the woman i am suppose to marry is a liar. 2 years ago i asked her if she was a virgin because i am and didnt want to waste each orther's time if we had different ideals about premarital sex. She said she was a virgin, now that i am ...
A. 30 August 2011: stick to your morals OP. this woman is a fraud. if you had known at the beginning that she did not suit your preference list she would never have gotten a further date with you, let alone carry on seeing each other and end up falling in love. a ... (read in full...)
She lied and told me she was a virgin, the truth came out while drinking
Q. Dear cupid, the woman i am suppose to marry is a liar. 2 years ago i asked her if she was a virgin because i am and didnt want to waste each orther's time if we had different ideals about premarital sex. She said she was a virgin, now that i am ...
A. 29 August 2011: why do you say she won't like sex? i can understand WHY she would lie to you, because she was ashamed of what she did, but you say she did not seem sorry, was this because she was drunk though?
the fact that she has been with 10 though and lied... (read in full...)
My friend flirts with my crush
Q. I am really conflicted over a situation I'm in. I regard myself as someone who's genuine and has a good moral compass. Recently I met someone in a professional sense that I developed a crush on over time. This chap is married with children. I ...
A. 29 August 2011: ok well maybe as he is married and your friend and you have strong morals, she KNOWS that nothing will happen between you and him so she feels no problem in having a little flirt with him. if he was a single guy who you may have a chance of having ... (read in full...)
What's wrong with my boyfriend?
Q. I'm 14 and my boyfriends 16 soon, he wants to have sex but I'm not sure I do, he's not a virgin but I am! He always gets drunk and high, it dosent bother me usually but recently he feels me up and sticks his hands down my pants and top in front of ...
A. 29 August 2011: what's wrong with him? plenty! gets drunk, gets high, wants to encourage you to have underage sex, humiliates you in front of his friends and now nearly lashed out at you just for laying on his arm. my question is what is wrong with YOU that makes ... (read in full...)
My friend flirts with my crush
Q. I am really conflicted over a situation I'm in. I regard myself as someone who's genuine and has a good moral compass. Recently I met someone in a professional sense that I developed a crush on over time. This chap is married with children. I ...
A. 29 August 2011: why get jealous? the guy is married anyway so does it matter what him and your friend do? i think your 'friend' is sticking it to you a bit though if her flirting with him is done in a gloating sort of way, or maybe she is trying to prove to you ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong for a virgin guy to want to marry a virgin girl?
Q. dear cupid, is it wrong for a virgin guy to want to marry a virgin woman with great personality,respect,trust and love? It seems when i mention this to women they think am crazy or i have insecurities....
A. 29 August 2011: op- it is fine to have a personal preference, you know what you want. by stipulating that you only want to marry a virgin though, you are only putting limitations on yourself, and may miss out on a really great woman because she isn't a virgin. the ... (read in full...)
Why is she so emotional?
Q. Like everyday there is always something wrong with my girlfriend. She always feels lonely although shes surrounded by her friends and family. Shes happy one moment and then depressed for the rest of the day. I have a hard time answering the first ...
A. 29 August 2011: she is a very needy person, constantly needing more from you and from her friends and when her needs are not met (though this is mostly impossible to do!) she gets depressed. i would guess she has some sort of emotional disorder that could relate to ... (read in full...)
How can I get rid of this guy?
Q. I have been seeing a guy for over 2 and half years and when I say seeing thats a big joke. He basically comes around just for sex. I have told him and told him that this is not what I want and I want to be respected and spend time with him socially...
A. 28 August 2011: you don't talk about him like as if you have got 'feelings for him' - you haven't said one nice, positive thing about him so what is it you actually like about him?? - be honest - you are just using him because you are bored and lonely aren't you?
... (read in full...)
I've been heartbroken over my former teacher for the last year
Q. I really need help. For the past year I have been in love with someone. He is a lot older than me. He also used to be my English teacher. I gathered the courage to tell him. He was very understanding about it. I keep having sleepless nights and when ...
A. 28 August 2011: obviously you are disappointed that he did not want to accept you. what you were asking of him was a very big thing! even if he did have feelings for you he could not have done anything about it or else he would have ended up on the sex offenders ... (read in full...)
Should I keep taking my child to trampolining classes?
Q. my child does not want to go to her trampolining classes however when she is there she is fine and enjoys the session. she gets upset and says she doesnt want to go should i keep taking her even though it is becoming a struggle? ...
A. 28 August 2011: how old is she? what doesn't she like about it? is she scared or she doesn't like the other kids? or she would rather stay at home playing with her toys and watching tv? i don't see the point of you struggling to take her to a club she doesn't want ... (read in full...)
I hate talking dirty with my boyfriend, but I feel I can't stop now that we've started.
Q. Okay, so. I've been in a long-distance relationship for a little over a year and I adore my boyfriend. Because of circumstances, we haven't met in person for a couple of years (since before we were together) and it's really not feasible that we ...
A. 28 August 2011: he's got no respect for you he just sees you as a sex object and your messages and calls are giving him masturbation material. don't do any thing you are not comfortable with. your a virgin - an innocent girl and he is a horn-dog.
tell him you ... (read in full...)
My old friend from school turns our conversations sexual. What does he want from me?
Q. I'll really try to make this short. I have an old friend from high school (we are now in college) who has recently given me his number via facebook so we can talk and catch up. Lately we've been texting and the very first day we talked a lot about ...
A. 28 August 2011: yes he definitely wants to hit it! when guys talk to you about sex and hooking up this is a very clear indication of what he wants. you don't talk 'sex sex sex' then come to your place just to drink coffee!
does he seem interested in talking ... (read in full...)
Late bloomer or is this it? I'm 19
Q. I was just wondering if I could grow any taller. I'm going to be very detailed here so be ready. I just turned 19 on Aug. 3. And the last time I measured myself was Feb 22, 2011. I was about 1/2 and inch taller on Feb 22 than the year before. I'm...
A. 28 August 2011: its hard to say coz usually i think men stop growing around age 20, BUT there might be hope for you coz you said that you have not really developed fully yet in terms of your hairiness so hopefully you still have some growing to do. if you never ... (read in full...)
Did I do the right thing passing this guy up because I thought my friend liked him?
Q. Last night a few of my friends and I went to go to a dance club. We were sort of craning our neck to try to spot any attractive guys in the place and there was very few. However, at one point during the night, my friend was able to spot this very ...
A. 28 August 2011: your're a lovely friend! but guess what? nice girls finish last! i can understand you did not want to go with him coz your friend had been looking at him, but 'i saw him first' is not really worth anything.
he liked you, not her. she had not even... (read in full...)
QWEEFING!!!!! help me
Q. heyy everyone, well its a well known fact that every woman qweefs :( ive recently discovered this. i was hoping some people might be able to tell me how they prevent qweefing during intercourse. What positions are more likely to make you qweef and ...
A. 28 August 2011: do your pelvic floor (kegal) exercises to keep your vagina properly toned but it is likely to just be caused by the position and angle of your boyfriends penis entering you and of it being withdrawn a little too far between strokes. this is causing ... (read in full...)
I want him to more of a man - and treat me like a lady!
Q. I seem to wear the pants in my relationship and don't know how we got to this point. I am a feminine woman for the most part and don't think that I'm aggressive unless someone is really ticking me off. My live in boyfriend says I've changed into a ...
A. 28 August 2011: so you want him to change his entire personality? if he is similar age to you (30 something) this is not likely to happen. talk to him, then see what happens. but really instead of wanting him to change to fit what you want him to be you may have ... (read in full...)
Is 'friendship only' possible with the opposite sex?
Q. I am a woman who is looking for a friendship" only" with a man- what do you think?...
A. 28 August 2011: i have heard it can happen but i have never seen it! usually another agenda appears. the only way is to make friends with a guy who does not find you attractive, but then; he might not want to bother being friends with you!
i think it depends ... (read in full...)
I want to be happy being single. Any advice?
Q. DC, how does one lead a single life? I am 30 years old and I can say I have failed to get a partner. Now, I know, I will remain single. Please give me tips of how to live a single fulfilling life. Please, don't tell me where to find the guys coz I ...
A. 27 August 2011: don't feel like you have been left on the shelf just coz you are 30! its only when you get older like me (39) that you realise that 30 is YOUNG!
you can enjoy life being single, more so than if you are in a relationship with the wrong person w... (read in full...)
Kicked BF out of my apartment for online cheating - did I over-react?
Q. I kicked my boyfriend of 9 months out of my apartment after I found evidence he had been flirting with a girl online and even gone as far as to give her his phone number. He also invited her to come visit our town and he'd be a "tour guide". When ...
A. 26 August 2011: you extended a hand of friendship/forgiveness/whatever and he dissed it. it feels crap for you now but in the long run you will realise he has done you a favour. he knows he is guilty thats why he is bowing out. read these posts back to yourself to ... (read in full...)
Does he love me? Need to know. Will he leave his wife?
Q. I am sleeping with a married man who I have history with. He has other women in other towns as well. He says his wife doesn't sleep with him and treats him bad. He says he wants to leave her but he says she is crazy and probably would do something ...
A. 25 August 2011: this guy is giving you every cheesy line in the married cheats handbook.
he has other women as well as you? maybe if he leaves his crazy wife, he might land on one of his other women, not you.
if you are in this just for the sex, then carry o... (read in full...)
Sex has become a chore. I want to have sex but not with him!
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 6 months. To be honest, he never satisfied me 100%, but I enjoyed being with him. For the past two months, sex has been a chore. I want to have sex, but not with him. I literally get a little pissed off inside when he ...
A. 25 August 2011: i agree with caring guy. i wish i would have got out of my last long relationship sooner (i felt exactly like you do now), instead i carried on, and wasted 2 and a half years with him
x... (read in full...)
My fiancé and I are distantly related to each other.Sometimes I worry that this is incest?
Q. Hello, will try to make this short.. I live in the UK and have all my life. I have some family in Canada, and growing up I saw them maybe once every couple of years. My father's uncle (my great uncle, Rob) lives in Canada with his wife Ap...
A. 25 August 2011: unless i have misunderstood - there is absolutely NO blood relation here. there is no way its incest. why have you gone through a relationship with him though for 5 years and got engaged and NOW you are worried about an incestuous link? sometimes ... (read in full...)
I dreamed of having sex with fat men
Q. For two nights I dreamed of having sex with 2 different fat men. They were of average attraction and one a doctor and the other a celebrity. Both were of different race. Can you tell me what this means?...
A. 25 August 2011: this dream can represent different things to different people. it depends on what feelings the dream evoked - for instance some people may have found it to be a nightmarish dream, others might find it to be a lovely one. you need to tell us more ... (read in full...)
My friend left me on my own during our night out in a town I don't know
Q. Am i overreacting or taking this too far by telling my best friend i don't want to be friends anymore. Would you still be friends with someone who did this... Before I start, i just want to say unlike the girl. I didn't know the area we were in, the ...
A. 25 August 2011: sounds like she is just using you for someone to go out with and then when guys show an interest in her she doesn't need you. it can be very dangerous to split up from your friends on a night out, you should look after each other. this girl is ... (read in full...)
Did he just want oral sex?
Q. hello. was wondering if anyone could help me? i went to a houseparty saturday just gone and there was a boy there who i normaly come across when i go down that area of the town, hes a year younger than me 18 and we used to go to comp together, t...
A. 25 August 2011: saying yes over a text is good enough i think, just be careful not to rush into things though if you do start dating. getting carried away is the WORST thing you can do. the people who are more successful and happy in relationships are the ones who ... (read in full...)
I feel trapped. What should I do? I've had a threesome and my husband does not know.
Q. Hi i'm 32 year old wife and a mom with a kid of 3 years old . I'm feeling confused and trapped with a dilemma all because of my mistakes. Almost 3 months before I met a nice and good looking girls who's 23 years at the gym. We had the same gym ins...
A. 25 August 2011: not sure what your question is! are you asking what you should do about your marriage? your friend? what? this girl doesn't have any particular feelings for you, you are just a toy, she set up a threesome unbeknown to you and then just s... (read in full...)
I like this girl, she asked me for advice about another guy and now I can't contact her online
Q. Well basically, I got talking to a girl in my school year online, let's call her jane. I'd seen her around but never spoken to her in real life, I had a huge crush on her, so when we started talking I was thrilled. We talked for ages and she said ...
A. 25 August 2011: it might be scary but just do it anyway! you're only talking to her as a friend, see how things are with her. what's the worst that can happen??
good luck
x... (read in full...)
Did he just want oral sex?
Q. hello. was wondering if anyone could help me? i went to a houseparty saturday just gone and there was a boy there who i normaly come across when i go down that area of the town, hes a year younger than me 18 and we used to go to comp together, t...
A. 25 August 2011: yes that's EXACTLY why! i have been there so many times! you just really need to slow down - look at his actions (and i don't just mean how affectionate he is) i mean the effort (or lack of) that he puts into seeing you or contacting you - actions ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is too soft in bed. Any tips on how to make him give it to me rough?
Q. My boyfriend is too soft in bed. if im being honest, looks wise, i am out of his league, but he is cute. he treats me all the time and i love him. he is okay is in bed. he is very good at passionate sex, when we are both taking it slow, but ...
A. 24 August 2011: have you TOLD him what you want?? i think graphic phone calls and texts before he comes around are a great way to tell him what you want him to do to you, without sounding like you are criticizing him. try it and if he doesn't respond by being as ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend puts no effort at all into our relationship
Q. Okay well i've been dating this guy for about 3 months and about a week ago we finally made it official. Lately though things he's been doing have been bothering me such as if I were to tell him about how my boss at work was stressing me out he ...
A. 24 August 2011: i am sorry, there is no nice way to say this - he just isn't into you :( if he was he would not dare to behave so disinterested in you coz he would be scared that you would dump him. i bet he wouldn't even try to stop you if you said you wanted to ... (read in full...)
Did he just want oral sex?
Q. hello. was wondering if anyone could help me? i went to a houseparty saturday just gone and there was a boy there who i normaly come across when i go down that area of the town, hes a year younger than me 18 and we used to go to comp together, t...
A. 24 August 2011: just calm down. you are falling too much for this guy and he has not even done anything to deserve it!! he was pestering you for sex and BJ, this is NOT good behaviour. good on your for not giving in to his demands though. if he likes you and was ... (read in full...)
Roleplaying..my boyfriend wants me to be a hooker and I'm totally stumped on what to do!
Q. hey guys, just need some help and suggestions. my boyfriend and i have been together for 8 years and are very compatible sexually. recently, we've just started dabbling in a little roleplay and it is amazing. i usually pick up roles well, bu...
A. 24 August 2011: let him choose the outfit and then you go somewhere and he picks you up, or he comes into your room. you ask him what he wants you to do, he tells you, you tell him what it will cost. do the deed. take the money!
this way HE is the one who has ... (read in full...)
Was what I said really that bad?
Q. Ok so over the summer I switched into public school from a private one. There was this one girl who is known for being really rude and catty. I had one class with her but really didn't know her that well. Anyway, in gym we had to do the dance unit. ...
A. 24 August 2011: no it wasn't bad coz you meant it in a friendly way but if this girl is a bitch then what you did gives her a reason to be horrible. she has probably got plenty of other feuds to keep her busy, so what you said may be soon forgotten when she finds ... (read in full...)
I really want to ask my co-worker out - before somebody else does!
Q. Hi everyone. I am the same guy with the following post. Please read through it cause I want guidence really bad. http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-do-i-find-out-if-this-beautiful.html After that I have moved quite further. I talk to her a...
A. 24 August 2011: why not just go for it. you will be regret it if you don't ask her and then someone else gets her first.
'fortune favours the bold'
i read your other post and i have to say, you seem to have a downer on yourself just coz you are from Pakista... (read in full...)
Relationship going nowhere, he doesn't open up to me
Q. I've been seeing this guy for several several months now and it's going nowhere. Normally I would have left by now, but i have nothing else going on so i'm trying to see where this can go...if anywhere. The problem is that he doesn't open up ...
A. 24 August 2011: have you told him that his behaviour is bothering you so much that you are considering leaving? you should discuss it and THEN decide whether to stay or go. you say though that you are staying coz you have nothing else to do at the moment, seems to ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend complains when I eat his food!!!
Q. Hi. Me and my bf have been togther almost 2 years and we are about to buy a house togther. He is fronting all of the deposit and paying for most of the fees (around £20,000). However, sometimes when I go round to see him and want to eat his food...
A. 24 August 2011: sorry but i agree with your boyfriend - he is saving £20,000 FOR BOTH OF YOU you cannot expect him to feed you as well. you are contributing little to this deposit if you have been unable to save more than £1,000.
of course i don't know who many... (read in full...)
I don't know whether to move away to attend my dream school or stay here to be near my boyfriend and so mom won't need to pay for an apartment for me
Q. This isn't a relationship question per se, but I am at a crossroad in my life, and would greatly appreciate any advice. I'm 22 years old, going to college full-time. I'm pursuing a career in medicine, and hope to attend medical school to become...
A. 24 August 2011: does your chosen university not have halls of residence or a programme where you could share accommodation with another student to lessen the cost? how about renting a room, not a whole apartment? is your dad able to help pay? how does your mum feel ... (read in full...)
I watch porn and masturbate most days. Should I reduce this?
Q. i am 19 and am watching porn nearly every day. I really enjoy watching it but feel as if i couldnt go a day without watching some. i do not neglect friends or anything for it but do normally watch it every night before bed. this also leads to ...
A. 24 August 2011: the only problem is that you might become so accustomed to using porn and your own hand to get off that you may hit problems with sex when you get a relationship. as long as you have the right balance in your life - real partners AND porn - not ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with my cousin and I'm scared to tell her
Q. hey im 15 years old and im in love with my first cousin shes 13. me and her get along really good and she does not know that i love her and its hard i want to tell her but cant. i'm worred cause she might not talk to me or she might tell my mom or ...
A. 24 August 2011: if you get on really well i don't think you should ruin things by professing your love for her. if she does not feel the same things will just get uncomfortable for you,maybe you won't get on the same as you do now.
there are plenty of other gi... (read in full...)
Can I date several men at the same time?
Q. need help from females After several years with the same man it appears the relationship is not going to move forward in any way. Id like to know if its is normal for a woman to date several guys at one time and how do I go about doing this. ...
A. 23 August 2011: just be honest with all the men you get involved with, and accept that it is fair that they will date other women to and not just be exclusive to you. as for your ex who you want to break up with but you don't want to hurt, i think you should be ... (read in full...)
My wife to be revealed her sexual past. I feel sick to my stomach
Q. I am 31, she is 29. She is drop dead gorgeous. We fell in love a year and a half ago when she was one of my day nurses when I had spent some time in the hospital recovering from a tumor in my knee (non cancerous) During our time dating, I would ...
A. 23 August 2011: thats a bombshell isn't it? i can understand why you are so upset. she did it as a job though, not for casual enjoyment. she has broke away from that life by qualifying as a nurse. she seems deeply ashamed of her past and she has now shared it ... (read in full...)
I slept with his friend before I met him. Do you think he will take me seriously or just as a hook-up?
Q. I've gotten myself into a sticky situaion,and need some help. Long story short,I met a guy about a month ago,and ended up staying the night at his house and we had sex a few times that night. About a week or so later he said him and his ex were ...
A. 23 August 2011: just take things very slowly and carefully with this guy coz chances are he knows all about your sex with his room mate and he is interested in you coz he is hoping for the same.
if he is serious about you only time will tell
x... (read in full...)
I like this girl, she asked me for advice about another guy and now I can't contact her online
Q. Well basically, I got talking to a girl in my school year online, let's call her jane. I'd seen her around but never spoken to her in real life, I had a huge crush on her, so when we started talking I was thrilled. We talked for ages and she said ...
A. 23 August 2011: so, have you only ever spoken to her online, never in real life? if you want any chance of going out with this girl you are gonna have to chat to her in school too. does she know who you feel about her?
when she asked for your advice about th... (read in full...)
Kicked BF out of my apartment for online cheating - did I over-react?
Q. I kicked my boyfriend of 9 months out of my apartment after I found evidence he had been flirting with a girl online and even gone as far as to give her his phone number. He also invited her to come visit our town and he'd be a "tour guide". When ...
A. 16 August 2011: just stay strong and never forget the sneaky things he has done. write them down and read them back to yourself whenever you get the 'aw, he wasn't that bad, maybe he deserves another chance' moods. and remember these days are the worst, it will ... (read in full...)
Kicked BF out of my apartment for online cheating - did I over-react?
Q. I kicked my boyfriend of 9 months out of my apartment after I found evidence he had been flirting with a girl online and even gone as far as to give her his phone number. He also invited her to come visit our town and he'd be a "tour guide". When ...
A. 16 August 2011: well i hope you don't go soft again and ask him to get back with you. remember he cheated, or at least tried to and then lied to you when you asked. what you need to do now is pick your self respect back up off the floor and and get on with your ... (read in full...)
Kicked BF out of my apartment for online cheating - did I over-react?
Q. I kicked my boyfriend of 9 months out of my apartment after I found evidence he had been flirting with a girl online and even gone as far as to give her his phone number. He also invited her to come visit our town and he'd be a "tour guide". When ...
A. 15 August 2011: your're right - that doesn't make sense at all. if he 'didn't want to break your heart' he would have been able to say there is 0% chance he would cheat. sounds like this guy has an answer for everything and if he thinks that being a musician on ... (read in full...)
Kicked BF out of my apartment for online cheating - did I over-react?
Q. I kicked my boyfriend of 9 months out of my apartment after I found evidence he had been flirting with a girl online and even gone as far as to give her his phone number. He also invited her to come visit our town and he'd be a "tour guide". When ...
A. 14 August 2011: you didn't over react. you caught him for this, there may even be more stuff you haven't caught him for. stop trying to mail him, you don't need to do anything further to get closure, you have done all you need to. just concentrate now on getting ... (read in full...)
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