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41-50,
*orcerer
writes:I know this is a recurring theme on here, but you get such different advice! Some people say it is impossible to get out of the friend zone while others know best friends who have become lovers and partners.What doesn't help is women sending out mixed signals of confusing messages. My best friend suddenly became very touchy-feely a few months back and is not like that with any other male friends (and she has others, she is single, but I am her best friend). Other mutual friends are convinced she has feelings for me but she told one of them she doesn't see me that way at all and wouldn't want it. Yet she last night in a conversation she told me that man and women are only touchy-feely if there is more than friendship there - which contradicts her own behaviour and statement.How do you win with that?!?!?!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2010): ok-- I am the girl who was friends that turned to friends with benefits...I wanted him, he wanted me, we did it a few times.. We had to end it because people were suspecting and I am just separated.. yes. we just started flirting again.. I think we still want eachother or we wouldn't continue this type of friendship--mixed signals all the time. Not sure if he still wants me, but I know I still want him--so I read into his mixed messgages and not sure if he reads into mine. I think if you have that feeling you are probably right. If she is anything like me-- she wants you.
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reader, Faraday +, writes (5 February 2010):
 Oh "Sorcerer", you are not trying to understand women, surely?
I don't think I or anyone else can help you there!
Being serious, it does sound like she is interested, but I would advise caution especially,as you say, you are close friends and don't want to jeapordise that relationship. It would be best to go slowly and keep testing the water, maybe with subtle hints during conversation?
What do I know - I'm only 66 and married for 46 years, so I haven't had enough experience of interpreting women yet!
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