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writes:I would like to know if anyone would have a problem with moving in with there partner, if there partner had lived there before with a previous partner. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2008): Well, then he has as big of a problem as you do. It sounds like he is even worse. What else are the 2 of you going to do in the future that will be so extreme and unsonreasonable. I hope you have tons of money to live life like that. Perhaps the 2 of you should reconsider your relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSorry i forgot to log in before i posted my last reply.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2008): Well in this instance i dont think my feelings are unusual as one of the reasons why i moved to be with my husband was because he didn't want to live in my house where i had been with my ex husband.Even before we got serious he was decorating my house to change it from what my first husband had done.He also didn't want me living in the same town as my ex.As for the furniture yes we have changed it we have our own we chose together,my husband wanted rid of my things i had with my ex hubby,down to whatever clothes he had bought me.If that didn't bother you in your situation then good for you,but people are different,have different veiws feelings etc.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2008): My wife also sold her place to move in with me because I had a nice home (not big, but beautiful view) out in the country. If she would have been the one with the nice house, I would have sold mine and moved in with her. She thought nothing of it. Do you also want him to sell his car because his ex sat in it? Does he have to throw away everything that she touched? If you get a new house, does he have to replace all of the furnature too?
If everyone thought like that, there are people who would have to be selling their houses every year or 2. The real estate market would be booming.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAsk older sister,we were getting married and are married now.I agree a house is a big commitment,which is one he made with someone else in this case.I actually gave up my house to live with him. I wish i had thought it through better as i dont feel any better about the fact he used to live here with his ex and i have lived here a while now.So in answer to your question yes he should move to accomadate me as i moved to accomadate him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2008): Oops, that was supposed to say, "I slept in the same BED that her other boyfriends had slept in ......" It must have been a subconscious thought. LOL
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2008): When my current wife and I started dating, I slept in the same bad that her other boyfriends had slept in and she slept in the same bed that my ex wife and other girlfriends had slept in. When she eventually moved in with me, we changed nothing. I just asked her and she said that she thought nothing of it.
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reader, PeterPan  +, writes (16 June 2008):
 I would think that the only issues here would be with you. A home is a home. I would say that if it's that much of an issue with you, then discuss the issue with your partner. He might suggest as eyeswideopen has expressed here.
Best wishes for success -- don't let a physical thing obstruct your spiritual connection and happiness... after all, it's just a dwelling, right? ...not Buckingham Palace or the Taj Mahal :)
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (16 June 2008):
 My husband was married before we got married and he got to keep the house in the divorce settlement. First thing I did when I moved in was to paint the kitchen, bedrooms, bathrooms totally different colors. Changed the whole house and made it fresh and new.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2008): i wouldnt have a problem with it as i with my partners consent and approval would redecorate and buy all new,and turn the house into our home.even though my partner does not live with me at present i myself have made the changes to my home so there is nothing to remind me that i even had an ex
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