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writes: my girlfriend has been moved out for about 2 months and we still talk and go out for dinner, hold hands kiss, say we love each other and all those things. yet at times she says she cant see us being together to move back in at the moment. she said she cant see things changing. we were living with my mother and the tension of not only our own problems but others in the house got to her. and she said she will "never go back to the house".so im after much thought i realise she is the one i want and im selling my motorbike to have bond for a house together. (i havent told her this yet). i want to change and step in the right direction. i was thinking about asking her to marry me. i have lost her once and i dont want to lose her again. i want her as a witness to my life and i want to be the witness of hers.do you think the fact she is confussed and is happy living apart would be a bad time to ask, or you think it might just be the thing she needs. commitment from me that i am willing to spend my life tryin to make her happy?my missing princess
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2006): First let me say I completely understand what your girlfriend is going through. My husband and I were living with his parents up until recently. There was a lot of tension in that house, and I personally have no desire to even see the place again. But most of the tension that was between us left once we were free of the house. I think that she's just happy to be out of a stress-filled home, not so much away from you. I think you should propose, and make sure to tell her everything that you said in your blog. Let her know how much she means to you, how much you realize that you need her, and tell her that you are willing to do whatever it takes to have her in your life... bring up the motorbike thing. I think if you let her know how much you're willing to support and love her, she's bound to say yes. Best of luck and love!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2006): Well i can understand her need to move out and not wanting to move back in ... living with a partners parents can be very stressful and uneasy as ive witnessed myself in the past ... i would talk to her and tell her how much you want to get a place together just you and her i would go off selling something to get money for it as you will only be disappointed if she doesnt want to, however making her see what your prepared to give up could work one of two ways 1. she could realise how much you love her and want to be with her or 2. she could feel guilty at what your giving up therefore not wanting to go ahead with moving in together, my advice is not to propose while things are the way they are as it may come across you are doing it to mend whats broken rather than doing it because you love her concentrate on talking to her and if she wants to get a place just you and her then deal with that first then think about proposing if thats still what you want.
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