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writes:I started dating my husband when I was 18 yrs old. We were married 30 yrs in June 2008. My husband has had problems with fidelity from the beginning. Om my first anniversary I found a letter he wrote to another woman he was involved with on the road. He said it was over (nothing happened, like I believe that). He is a charming flirt. I believe he has emotional affairs or at the very least leads women on until he has lost control of the situation. Most recently it was his physical therapist and now I learn some woman on his job is or was in the picture. Funny he does these protection things and will not tell me her name. I am well educated and have never needed him financially, even on disability for Lupus, I don't really need his money. I don't trust him, but don't look for problems, things just seem to "fall" in my lap. I don't want to waste the next 35 years of my life. We have one child left at home age 16. I am thinking of leaving this relationship. I have never cheated on him. I have never been with another man and in this day and age would fear for my life. I have been jewel of a wife he simply does not deserve me. Do you think I would be making a mistake to leave the marriage or at this point do you stay in a financial relationship (taxes ets)?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2009): i tell you this talk to your child about splitting first becasue you have no idea how that affects us. if you do leave dont move so far away allow your child be in at least walking distace. if you really feel hurt in this relationship talk it over with your husband and if he wont change then pick your things up and leave. if you honestly dont want to fight then leave but let your child know its not his/her fault. stay close and have joined custody. you never know when your child will need you. even in the teen years.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2009): That's a question you will have to determine the answer to. Weigh the pros and cons...of leaving, and of staying. I know I would find it very difficult to stay in a loveless marriage. I, myself left my husband of 16 years when I was 57 years old. He was physically and mentally abusive. But abuse is abuse and in my opinion infidelity is a form of abuse.
You have do some soul-searching, and come to your own conclusion. I can tell you that when I finally got away from him, it was as if the weight of the world was lifted from my shoulders, and 10 years added to my life!
One other thing...money can't buy happiness!
Good Luck!
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