Worried about him after his bad relationship

A female age 41-50, anonymous writes:

I have a guy friend I've been friends with for about 8 years. There are definitely feelings between us the timing just hasn't worked out well. He is my best friend and we used to talk every day, he'd tell me everything all his ups and downs. He got in a relationship back in August with a horrible girl, she drained him of any life he had. He gave up all his hobbies and pushed all his friends away, including me. She was his world and he thought they were going to get married, he even bought rings after 3 months. She always treated him like crap, lied to him, kept things from him and basically used him to pay for things and entertain herself. All the while he put up with it because he didn't want to be alone. I just kept quiet and didn't say anything bad about her or their relationship because I know it only would have hurt him. Well about a month ago she dumped him out of no where because he was finally starting to stand up for himself. This was good for me because I've always wanted to be with him and I thought maybe I'd finally get my friend back. Well now here is where I need the help. He's devastated, he's depressed and drinking himself to sleep almost every day. I have tried getting him to talk about it, talk about how he's feeling, I told him I'm here for me whenever he needs me. I know guys don't usually want to talk about their problems, that they like to just be alone to deal with it and cope that way. But I'm worried about him and I've expressed that to him. He's still keeping me at a distance and drinking a lot.

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