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writes:I have been "seeing" this guy i met online for a while, things were going good until he lost his job and moved in with his parents he became really depressed and i was there for him through the whole thing, well a couple days before my birthday he says that we should cool off because he feels he is a burden to me, and can't support me and that i deserve better,which was his way of ending it with me. we still continued to talk and everything. he recently got a job and is super happy these days. i have thought that maybe when things get better for him we will get back together. i've asked him before when he was going through things if we would and he said he didn't know. At first he was giving me good vibes about getting back together after he found his job, but now he seems so distant all of a sudden. I really don't know what to do, i really care about him, but i feel like i'm waiting and waiting for something that may never happen. I'm scared to pressure him to much because i don't wanna push him away. i'm really confused about what to do, i was gonna just tell him we shouldn't talk til he figures things out about us, but i will miss him.Would really love someone's advice on this crazy situation
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionif he says he doesn't want to get back together i don't know if i can be his friend, it would hurt me too much to know that he is with someone else. I really just want him to come out and tell me he wants to be with me, but he doesn't. i haven't asked him in a while, because i'm too scared too
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2010): First off I dont suggest telling him you shouldnt talk. If you put distance between each other, that will only lead him to not wanting to get back together. You should keep talking and still be a good friend to him. Try to open up to him more and let him know your feelings. Its not fair to you to keep waiting and hoping for something if he has lost interest in it. You dont have to pressure him or force him to make a decision, just open up and tell him you are ready if he wants to get back together, but if he doesnt want to, you will still be there for him and be his friend. A relationship takes both people to make it work. If you are gonna be putting forth all the effort and the be the only one who wants to truly make it work, then thats not fair to you and you need to move on. If he is willing to get back together and make it work, then you two can be together again.
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