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writes:I'm a girl, I'm 17, and I've had this crazy crush on a guy for 2 years... It all started when we met at a summer camp, while we were on the bus. It's weird that we became friends almost instantly, him being the cute, sociable type and me being the shy, quiet type. While we were at that camp we talked pretty much, but nothing happened. Not to me, at least, he dated a girl for about three days, then got rejected by one of my friends from the camp, then started dating another girl who he had a long-distance relationship with afterward for about six months.Anyway, after the camp we still bumped into each other once in a while, given that we were from the same city we would meet at different school-related events. We did go out twice in the following year- once with some other kids from the camp, once just the two of us, for a pizza. It wasn't really a date, more like two friends catching up? We also talked a lot on IM, sometimes on the phone.Oh, and once when we met he hugged me from the back, holding me by the waist. I know that this can mean different stuff, but given that this guy is pretty much a player it probably didn't mean that much to him.Then there was this short period when we didn't talk.. for about six months, mostly because I'd gotten an eating disorder, not that this has anything to do with him, but it's funny how I wanted to lose weight to impress guys, but along with the weight went all my crushy feelings so I didn't even feel like going out with anyone.Anyway, we started talking again around the time I started recovery. We met again at a contest (this was this year, in February) and this time my 14-year old sister was with me. For some reason he really liked her and they went out together the following week. My sister knew I'd had a crush on him, but I told her that I was over him and blah blah blah, although I wasn't too sure about my own feelings either. Their little relationship only lasted for two weeks, mainly because my sister had no interest in him and because he is three years older than him. She's also kind of immature and acts really young for her age, so I get it.A month ago the guy and I went to a concert together and it was really fun and a couple weeks ago we went to a camp together, again. This time we sat together in the bus... We talked a lot, during the camp he had another gf though. But the weird thing is that the two of us were almost like gf-bf, except actually kissing. We slept in the same room one night, just the two of us, because my crush was in a room with a guy and I was in a room with a girl who were actually a couple, so we switched. Once when his gf was gone on an excursion we actually cuddled in bed and he was just in his shorts. In the bus he slept on my shoulder, on my lap, we watched movies on his phone together, when he'd hug me he'd rub my back, once he rubbed my arm, he kissed me on the forehead, on the shoulder, he was really really sweet. Actually a guy thought that we were together at the beginning of the camp, but then assumed we were brother and sister and we finally decided that we were step-brother and sister :)) Jokes aside, this excursion made me realize my crush wasn't over... given that I was jealous every time he hugged his girlfriend. One evening I was visibly upset, but I couldn't tell him why, so I invented a stupid story about a guy back home who I'd gone out with and was now dating my best friend. I know, at least I think I'll never have a chance with him. I'm definitely uglier than all his ex-s (and I know about six of them), and he's the type of guy who either goes out with a girl the day he meets her, or never does.. but maybe I'm wrong? Sorry for the really long story, but I'm just a little confused. Any thoughts? Do you think I will ever be more than just... this?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2012): Sorry to say this but I don't think he likes you, he has a girlfriend for goodness sake, you shouldn't be messing around with him whilst he's in a relationship. Have some respect, and most of his relationships pretty much suck considering they're all short and he dated your sister. He's just a player, he's probably lonely that's why he always comes to you when his girlfriend is not there. Like you said, if he wanted someone then he'd go for her right? I'm sorry but it just doesn't seem very likely :/
Then again, I could be wrong, you've liked him this long. Just tell him already, if he rejects you then forget about him, you deserve a guy who doesn't toy with your feelings continuously!
Goodluck :)
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reader, Sakari2  +, writes (12 July 2012):
 Well from what I can tell I think he definately likes you (it may just be as a friend) but he definately likes you as a person otherwise he wouldn't be speding so much time with you... its natural to grow apart from people but I also have friends where I haven't seen them for a while and when we do catch up its like nothings changed. They are the best type of friends to have. I guess the decision you have to make is whether you like him enough to tell him because really that is the only way you are going to know if it will become more than friends or not.Ok so worst case scenario would be that he would say that he didn't like you more than a friend but you could still get past that and be friends again so I say take the plunge you never know it might actually be worth it! And you would know where you stand, Good luck! Let us know how you get on!
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