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writes:my best friend is really self absorbed, and always kinda has been, its often all about her and sometimes some ppl cant handle her cos of this. She often only talks about her issues, her health problems, of which there are a few, and lately her small business which she is starting up with a bus partner. I listen and am 100 and supportive about her business, i know that its important,and i give her space and dont pressure her but.. i feel like the odd one out when she constantly talks about herself and her issues and now her business and her wonderfully outgoing and funny business partner and how great things are with the business and the partnership.Im not trying to be selfish or take all of her time, really im not, she has a focus now and i understand that. i just wish she'd ask how i am sometimes and not be so self focussed. im her freind and i feel like im not important to her at the moment, all i seem to do is listen to her and be a very supportive friend. shes happy about the business and thats great 4 her, but somewhere along this road shes left me by the roadside and picked up this bus partneer. will it get better?plse advise thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2009): It won't get better unless action is taken to make it better. SO no, if you continue as you are and say nothign to her, then it won't get better.I would like to believe that people like this wouldn't BE like this if they knew how they were making other people feel. I believe poeple don't typically have bad intentions behind behaviours like this. She just may not realize that she is this way. And someone has to tell her. Since you are her friend and truely care about her, then it seems like you would be the best person. She will know you aren't just saying it out of anger or to make her feel badly. When you bring it up to her though, don't start off on what a problem she has. Tell her the thigns you love about being her friend. Then ease into the subject at hand.
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reader, QuirkLady  +, writes (9 June 2009):
 Have you talked to her about how this makes you feel? Sit her down and tell her you would like her to show interest in your life sometimes. If that doesn't work (because perhaps she just isn't the kind of person that asks) try bringing up your life more and talk about what you are doing.
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