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writes:Ok. A friend of mine, who is in a relationship with her bf for 4 years plus, but these 4 years was a rough ride for her. She told me she has initiated a few break ups but patched back with him. She has slept with him once. She tells me he controls her, he is very possessive. They have frequent quarrels. They stay happy for 1 or 2 months and then they begin to quarrel and this has been happening for a long time. She got emotionally hurt by him many times too. She realises she is in unhealthy relationship. She tells me she has feelings for me but its not strong and its on and off. Its hard for her to leave him even though knowing the nature of her relationship. She just prefers to go with the flow. Why is this happening in her relationship? Its the same thing happening again and again. Can she be happy in this relationship in the long run? Reply to this Question
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reader, InLoveW/Love  +, writes (31 July 2010):
She will never be happy in that relationship. I'm not saying this is the case but she is probably holding on to a dream of what her boyfriend could be like.
One day she will realize he is never going to change and hopefully moves on to something better. But until that day comes she is going to stay with whoever she wants.
I'm guessing she talks to you about it, which makes you think you can help. Well you can't. Don't waste your feelings on someone who doesn't value their own self-worth. It will only cause heart ache and frustration for you.
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