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writes:hey im 22 and broke up wit my ex 2 years ago we were together for 6 years,,for some reason i still cant get her out of my head and still love her,i seem to judge other girls on what she was like and thinbgs never work out..i feel like i can never love again please help...
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reader, derek2010 +, writes (18 November 2010):
derek2010 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you very much that has been so helpfull..and im going to do a lot of things u have said....
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reader, lacrymosa_652  +, writes (17 November 2010):
 Will your heart go on? Yes it will. Will it be easy to get over the pain? No it won't. But keep in mind that there WILL come a time when you WILL have moved on from your ex-girlfriend. But for this to happen, you have to let go of her first, and it doesn't sound as if you have. Don't compare other girls to her. She must have had flaws as well as good things about her. Don't delude yourself into thinking she is the most perfect girl in the world.
Try and keep busy, focus on other things. There are other things in your life to keep you occupied and happy. Keep busy with work, go out and have fun with friends. Find a new hobby. Meet new people. I'm not saying this will keep your mind off your ex-girlfriend completely, but just enjoy the things you do have in your life, and don't focus on how it feels empty without your ex. It'll only seem empty if you perceive it that way.
Look back on your relationship and remember the good times, but don't cry because it's over, smile because it happened! Yes you had something great, but it doesn't mean you'll never find somebody you love again. You may meet somebody who you love even more than your ex-girlfriend. But the longer you hold onto the past, the longer it will take for you to move on to a great future.
To sum up: it'll take time to heal, but once you've accepted what you had is in the past, and that you'll find something better in the future, and that what's happened as happened for a reason.. you can start to move on. There's other things in your life that will make you happy, so go out and find and enjoy the things that make you happy and start living your life.
Good luck with everything.X
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