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Will my girlfriend using a "strap-on" on me cause any long-term problems?

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Question - (6 December 2007) 5 Answers - (Newest, 8 December 2007)
A male United Kingdom age 41-50, anonymous writes:

After it came up in conversation six months ago my girlfriend and I bought a strap-on dildo, to spice things up. I had tried it before and wasn't worried about using one. She hadn't used one before and was very excited. After the first few times of getting used to it with me she began to really enjoy it and now loves using it. I can see how much she enjoys using it I like it too but am worried about the physical effects (long term or short) that it might have on me. We now use it during sex about three times a week and she wants to do it more. Is this going to cause problems or is there nothing to worry about, any advice?

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2007):

You won't have any problems. My wife started talking me anally about 10 years ago. She was into biting my nipples during sex, dripping hot wax on me, and one night she was looking at a mail order sex toy catalog and just asked me if she got a strap-on, would I let her use it on me. I said why not, can't be as bad a having hot wax dripped on you. Since then she has bought a number of strap-ons, each slightly larger that the last, and now is using one that's about 10 inchs long and close to 2 inches thick.

No problems here. My wife loves to call me and and ask me to do something around the house for her like "If you do the dishes and wash a load of clothes for me I'll do you tonight".

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A male reader, kenny United Kingdom +, writes (6 December 2007):

kenny agony auntI don't think it will cause any future physical complications to be honest, but as Peoriaman say's make sure its sterialised before usage, and if you feel pain during, then take notice of what your body is telling you.

Good luck

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A female reader, missy_massacre United States +, writes (6 December 2007):

missy_massacre agony auntThis reminds me of porn stars, since they appear in alot of films, and have sex often. I heard that when they get older, or perhaps even younger they will have to wear diapers because they will not be able to hold their bodily fluids. Just an fyi :]

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A female reader, Tart United Kingdom +, writes (6 December 2007):

Coming from a strap-on fan I can certify that after a good few years of regular use I haven't experienced and problems from the giving or receiving ends.

Obviously in terms of receiving, ladies were built for it after all so definately nothing to worry about in that department... and as for giving the worst I reckon you'll ever get is a bruise...?

Make sure you find dildo's which each of you feel comfortable with (it might mean getting seperate ones?) for your harness... right size/right width/not to painful for the banger/bangeeee!!

Happy Humping x

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A female reader, taz_in_2001 United Kingdom +, writes (6 December 2007):

I have a few gay friends (I know your not gay) but from what I hear from them anal sex over long periods of forced penetration can cause the sphincter (sphincter is a ring of muscle that can be contracted or relaxed under voluntary control) to become loose which can result in severe anal pain or even faecal incontinence (anal leakage).

But if you are relaxed whilst doing it you should be fine as the above usually only happens if the sphincter is not relaxed and penetration is is forced

Hope that helps

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