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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:A month ago I broke up with my bf of 2 years, we had some issues that we never talked about, and this led to a lot of frustration and irritation my behalf. During this period I lost my feelings for him. We met again a week after the breakup to talk, and we sorted out a lot of the issues that led to our breakup. We continued to meet about once a week. I know he wants to get back together, and I really care about him, I think about him every day, and I'm kinda hoping it's gonna be us, but I have no feelings for him. Will my feelings for him ever return? And is it unwise to see him once a week? Should I instead cut all contact for some time? Will less contact and thereby less things on my mind make me feel again?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (3 March 2011):
 I agree, I dont think distance is going to do you any good here I think it will just drive you further away from him. You miss him therefore it shows that you still care for him. But remember sometimes we cant help if we have lost our feelings and they may never return but I guess you deserve to work on it for a while and see if they can return. Tell him straight out that you are currently struggling to get feelings for him and tell him that things need to go slow. Tell him you miss him and care for him but that you need to work on things. So just explain to him that you are both going to have to start at the bottom and try and work your way up. Just make sure you are always honest with him and not leading him on.
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