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writes: hi everyone, i have question and would be grateful for any thoughts on it. my daughters dad and me split up when she was five months and she is now eleven and a half. her dad got married a couple of years ago and his wife fell pregnant. today she has had a baby boy and my daughter who sees her dad every three to four months as he lives and works abroad was visiting them when she had the baby three weeks early. the thing is my daughter has never lived with her dad and from the ages of two to six he chose to have no contact with her. he is a better dad to her now and calls her every week but the question really is do you think he will love his baby son more than his daughter as he chose to walk out of her life so young?? he did say at the time he just wasnt ready to be a dad and i do feel he has grown up a lot in recent years, thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks everyone, bar the one who said he will love his son more, yes that's your opinion but your very blunt arent you. to everyone else your thoughts were welcome :)
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reader, Fatherly Advice +, writes (28 December 2010):
All over the world parents have more than one child and they can love them both. Now, honestly I have a better relationship with some of my kids than I have with others. Mostly that depends on the kids and how they handle the relationship. Some people are harder to love. I don't think that once you have come to love a daughter you can let that go.
Just a Dad's point of view
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2010): Yes I do think he will love his his new son more simply because he lives with his son and is there in his life from the start seeing him grow up and being actively involved in his life every day whereas with her their relationship has always been built on some distance (geographic and emotional).
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2010): I think that he not necessarily will love him more but I do think that the love towards the baby will be different. I dont have kids but I have noticed that parents get along differently with girls and boys. The one thing I can assure you is that he will not stop loving his daughter.
Since he matured with time, he might even feel somewhat guilty for abandoning her some years and not spending enough time with her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2010): He came back and like you said he has matured. He has been seeing her quite a lot even though he lives in a different country and phones. That should not change just because he has a son now. Will he love the son more? well he may have more a bond with the son as they live together but that doesn't make any difference on the love front.
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