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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:I’m a 29 year old single Mum to a beautiful 2 year old daughter. I split with her dad shortly after she was born, so I have been single for about 2 years. The first year I was happy being single and wanted to concentrate on raising my daughter. The second year I’ve been more open to meeting someone but no one has come along! All my friends and family all have partners and are getting married or having their second/third babies and I feel so envious! I’d always imagined that I’d be married by now with more children and I’m not! I’m fed up of people constantly asking me have I met anyone! I can’t go out as much as I used to because I have my daughter (her dad has her once a week) but I try to go out as much as I can. I even joined an online dating site and one guy looked promising, he gave me his number, and we text for a few days and then he suddenly stopped texting back. I feel like I’m never going to meet anyone and it makes me feel so down ?? please can anyone give me advice or tell me a positive story. Am I going to be alone forever??
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reader, Serpico  +, writes (13 February 2018):
As always, going to be blunt.
No high value man is going to want to spend his money and time on another man's child. Why do this when he can just find an equally attractive woman without the baggage?
If he has children of his own, you have a better shot there. But attracting a high value childless man to your side is likely not going to happen. I waited until I was 44 to get married. One of my deal breakers was no children. I have never regretted that decision for a second.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (13 February 2018):
 Find somebody to mind your child, family or a child care centre and get a part time job one day or night a week, or take up swing dancing or Thai cooking lessons ..... anything that takes you out of your usual habitat, where you will meet new people, not to replace the friends you already have but to help widen the circle. Maybe it could be the night her dad has her or he might like to increase his access.
Take your child to play group and story time at the library, while the people you meet at these places might be female or older or already in relationships they will have brothers and friends and cousins.
As for the positive story I have a niece who was raising 4 children as a single mum, she met a guy who didn't have custody of his two boys but had occasional access ... they got together and now share a baby. I love seeing the family photos on facebook, especially those with his boys included, they always look so happy and content together.
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