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writes:3 years ago, my boyfriend of 3 and a half years broke up with me. We were very much in love and I devoted myself to him. I was always honest, and faithful. I was genuine in our relationship and put him as my first priority always. He was the man I wanted to marry and when he broke up with me it devastated me. We were living together at the time and so I had to move out. It was a very painful time, especially when I couldn't understand how he was able to let me go. The last year of our relationship we were constantly arguing but it was because he never spent any time with me, it was all about him.I was always friends with his family, including his brother who would always be at mutual friends' parties and gatherings. We remained friends through the breakup and months later he told me he loved me. He told me his brother (my ex) treated me bad and didn't appreciate me. He made me feel beautiful and loved and he was on my side about the whole thing. He validated every feeling I had and that made me feel really safe and good. We began sleeping together and in hindsight I realize he was playing me, he knew just what to say but wasn't a genuine person. I ended it with him and this was over 2 years ago.Well I haven't been in my ex boyfriends life for 3 years, nor has he been in mine but he recently called me. He wanted to know the truth because he loves me and wants to marry me. I told him everything, I told him I slept with his brother because I was hurting and he was able to give me something I needed at the time. But it meant nothing. I had no idea he still thought about me, his brother would tell me he didn't love me. It's a very sad situation because I only love and really did love one person and that is the man who broke my heart to begin with. I am still in love with him and he has changed and gotten older and he is sorry for his mistakes. But he told me that I make him sick for what I did. However I dont really think I did anything all that wrong. He broke up with me. I reached out to someone who fed me lies to lure me in and then when I realized that I ended it. Never forgetting about my ex. I always will love him and I want to be with him. Will he ever forgive me?
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reader, Issachar  +, writes (4 July 2010):
 Well, I really can't blame you for sleeping with his brother.It's very natural to be emotionally and physically intimate to men who make you feel the way his brother did in those circumstances.However, I can say it is a great blunder coz it is not appropriate even to sleep with a friend's ex leave alone your ex-boyfriend's brother.From the male perspective, it is a major blow to his ego.It will forever hurt him even if you two get back together.Men are egotistic but just try and make sure to make him feel secure and like he is the only man who will ever get to bed with you.Make him feel secure.Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2009): Excuse me, but last time I checked, he broke up with her! How was she to know that he would eventually come to his senses and try to mend the relationship? EXCUSE ME!
The brother comforted you, made you feel whole again. You naturally then slept with him. I find nothing wrong with this.
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