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writes:I'm 16, never actually dated, and I recently lost my virginity to a guy that I don't have feelings for. I think (protected)M sex is fun, but I'm worried about how it could effect my relationships later in life. Will having meaningless sex at such a young age make it less meaningful later in my life?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2008): Here's what guys hate -
The girl casually gives herself away to a bunch of attractive guys who are indifferent or downright jerks to her.
Then, a few years later, the girl decides to be more "respectable." So she starts dating more decent guys, and makes them wait much longer & be more committed before sleeping with them.
See why we hate this?
Look at how the actions match up with the rewards from where the guys are sitting.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2008): I agree, it's mainly down to personal opinion and how you go on to perceive the events in your life that determine whether or not you end up regretting something.
A good goal, I think, to aspire to, is that everything should be in moderation. You have some of the best years ahead of you at your age, so I'd say enjoy yourself as much as you can, have fun in whatever means that entails, but don't take anything to the extreme.
Dating is great, but it brings with it a lot of commitment that sometimes young people aren't really ready for - so only do it when you really feel you have met the right kind of guy who doesn't want to change you and it stays fun. On the other hand on the sex side, don't do anything if it really is "meaningless" because why do something if it really means nothing for you at all.
Everything you choose to do in life will end up being a learning experience for you, whether good or bad. Enjoy everything you do, but always remember to listen to that gut feeling inside of yourself, that knows what you should or shouldn't do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2008): I believe this is all down to personal opinion. My personal opinion? Yes, it will. But then again, only if you let it. I don't think people should just have meaningless sex as it is a cheap rip-off of sex, if you like. It is half physical, half emmotional. And if you take away the love and emmotion, then you have lost your virginity to an experience of only half the pleasure! A little daft, really. I suggest you stop before you waste yourself honey because I'm sure you're a wonderful and pretty girl, and your future husband will respect you a lot more if you respect yourself.
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reader, toni246  +, writes (1 June 2008):
Make sure that you did have protected sex if you dont know get tested and dont worry, having sex at a young age doesnt mean anything. Lots of people have sex at 16 but are fine later in life having a stable relationship and got married
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