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*ellybeans20009
writes:I had met this person twice. The first time we met I was sort of almost judged too soon and we didn't end up speaking that much. The second time we met was by total coincidence at an event. We got to chatting, by that time I had gotten over what had happened the first time. He shot me a message later saying he wanted to hang out. The night before the day that was set up, I got a message saying he was too busy apparently and that he was sorry we'd need to reschedule. I was offended that someone would cancel on the first date. It says a lot about how much he cares. Perhaps he got cold feet? I'm not a mind reader though so I'd like to figure things out. I want to figure the situation out so I know how to properly handle it. At the end of the day, I'm ok with being friends, I just want to make sure he understands that later on. Reply to this Question
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (9 August 2013):
 If he didn't immediately tried to reschedule, then he got cold feet (IMHO) - or at least tell you he'd call on XX day or set up a rain-check.
Sorry, I'd chalk this one up to a "he is just not that into you".
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reader, TrancedRhythmEar  +, writes (9 August 2013):
 Yea ask him. Many reasons and if he gives a vague response its possible its a reason u wont like.
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reader, kellyO  +, writes (9 August 2013):
 I asked my husband and he said it could be any number of reasons. Maybe something did come up or he did get scared or had cold feet as you say.Is hard to say really and one would be guessing. but what we both agreed is that if he does try to reschedule then you should ask him why he wasn't able to make the first date. if something did come up he would be willing to tell you more about it than the typical excuse of being busy.if he doesn't reschedule then just let things be as it is. But as you suggested being friends with this guy to start with might be the way to go until you can find out more about his intentions.
All the best
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reader, SensitiveBloke +, writes (9 August 2013):
 Maybe it was cold feet. If he's keen on you, he'll try to make an alternative date, otherwise he's probably not interested in a relationship with you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2013): I dont want to scare you, but would it be that he is a player?
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