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writes: i was dumped three weeks ago for reasons unknown to me. then i found out that he was seeing someone behind my back. this girl was a friend of his. there was always a reason i couldn't meet her. i got very insecure trying to trust him but thinking he was lying to me about seeing her. i'm a nice lovely giggly girl who is very caring. she is well regarded as the town bike and is bi-sexual and ditched her last boyfriend for a girl. what have i done for him to go off with someone like that?
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reader, DrPsych  +, writes (14 June 2006):
 What have you done for him to go off with another girl? That is the wrong question - you should be thankful to him really. If he is sneaking around with another girl then he is really doing you a favour by breaking it off. You deserve better and need to do some positive thinking about it - if he is after the town bike, cheating and being sneaky - these are all bad points that mean he doesn't deserve you. Count yourself lucky!
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reader, Yos  +, writes (14 June 2006):
 It's hard to know the reason based on your question, you don't say much about the relationhsip other than that you were feeling very insecure about it (you turned out to be right). There really could be any of a hundred reasons why he did it. Young men jump into and out of relationships for some incredibly bizzare reasons sometimes, stuff that really isn't rational.
But whatever reason, the important thing is to not take it as a personal criticism of you. It sounds like you were the one taking the relationship seriously and he let you down, he is the one who messed up here, not you. Good luck in the future.
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reader, auntie claire +, writes (14 June 2006):
 dear reader. first of all its not you. he has obviously heard she's "a good ride" and small minded men have this thing about biosexual women.
i wouldn't worry about this you can find someone much better.
just let them have their fun and carry on with your life
your worth more then this and you know it
all the best to you keep me posted xxx
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